i had the best time at london pride yesterday!! so many people complimented my shirt and not one person misgendered it, i’m gonna be riding this high for a while hahaha
does anyone have any tips for using trans tape?
i’m super happy with how it looks when i have a tshirt on, but it feels like it’s pulling the skin between my chest really tight and that doesn’t feel like it’ll be safe or comfortable for long periods
i made sure not to put any tension on the very beginning or end of the tape when applying it, and i tried not to pull the skin too much but it doesn’t seem to have worked. is this supposed to happen?
i worn trans tape out the house once before and it was tight like this and i only managed to keep the tape on for a day before i had to take it off cause i found it uncomfortable and like the tight skin was starting to feel almost sharp where it was being pulled apart :/
i’ve thought about putting a piece of tape across my chest to take off some of the strain but idk if that will work
i’m a nonbinary trans “guy”. i use he/him pronouns and im 1 year on T, but my goal has never been ‘man’
my transition goal is to look like a guy, and get gendered correctly, but in the way that gay guys get gendered correctly when they’re out with a group of girls. i am effeminate, i am flamboyant, and i love that about myself. i love being so outwardly queer, but right now i’m in a bit of a limbo situation
a few days ago i went to a film club for the first time and met a guy in his 50s. we got talking and he was super lovely and easy to chat with. because he was in his 50s i assumed he would think i was a butch woman (as everyone seems to) so i didn’t change the way i was talking to try and seem more masc. about an hour in he turned to my friend and i and said “do you boys want to get another drink?”
it was so exciting when i realised he was seeing me as a man, but then it quickly spiralled into feeling really uncomfortable. it’s hard to pinpoint what the discomfort was actually related to, but i think it was because i suddenly felt like i had to change how i was interacting with him, and “perform” manhood so he didn’t suddenly “realise” i’m not a guy
i wasn’t binding or anything but i was wearing an open shirt over a vest so my chest wasn’t super visible, but it definitely wasn’t hidden which i think didn’t help with my worries
i left the event feeling really weird and it feels awful to feel like that when this is something i’ve spent over £1000 to achieve. i know i will get to a point where i’m comfortable and happy and confident, and i know that right now, when i don’t pass very well, it is going to be difficult. but i just feel so sad that the first time i got gendered correctly, and like actually gendered correctly for a whole evening, i don’t even feel particularly happy about it
for context: i’ll be 1 year on t tomorrow, but since about month 5 or 6 i haven’t really noticed any changes and my voice still hasn’t dropped (it’s lower than it was but i’ve not had the distinctive puberty drop yet). my doctor told me to put my gel on my stomach or thighs, which i have been doing, but at about month 5 i got Super hairy, especially on my stomach, and i didn’t really consider this might be impacting my gel absorption (probably stupid of me to not consider it). about a week ago i started applying it to my upper arms and shoulders, as most people do and as the literature suggests is most effective, and as much as i know there’s been no changes yet because it’s only been a week, i can already feel the difference in me and i just feel so happy to feel like myself again!
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since this photo i have shaved cause i didn’t realise quite how hairy i was lmao, but it actually baffles me that people see this much hair on my face and still think she/her is appropriate. they actually must think i just don’t care at all about my appearance, which is kinda rude lol
i posted here a while ago asking about passing and people recommended getting a haircut and new glasses. i’ve done both those things now, how well do i pass? (i got 2 pairs of glasses but can’t decide which ones make me pass better)
(just fyi, i’m a gay man so don’t care to be the most masculine guy on the planet, very happy to pass as a little bit feminine)
since starting T a year ago my dick has been getting way more wet during sex, which has been great - especially when my muscles tense and it feels like something is being pushed out (but nothing had ever actually come out (until last night!))
last night my partner and i were fucking in doggy (no PIV) and when i came i felt something (quite a lot of something) drip down onto my hand, and it felt like, for the first time ever, i actually came how i’m supposed to!
i Know it wasn’t so much cum in the cis guy sense, but holy shit it felt so affirming!! i just really wanted to share this with someone
i don’t bind. i’m a very smiley, friendly guy. i wear whatever tf i want. and i’m not afraid of being effeminate. i don’t want to change anything about myself, i just can’t wait for the day my face and voice reflects my gender enough for none of those things to matter. one day i’ll just be your average gay guy who’s not afraid to experiment with some femininity
this isn’t really a post looking for advice cause i don’t want to change anything, nor do i really care enough to, i just want to express to someone that i’m fed up and can’t wait for t to do its job properly (i’ll be 1 year on t next month)
i’m type 1 diabetic and flying from london to cologne tomorrow with ryanair. i have a small crossbody bag i always fill with snacks, my blood testing kit, injections, and sweets but i keep seeing people saying ryanair has got way stricter recently and i’m nervous they won’t let me take it with me (separately to my hand luggage allowance)
does anyone have any advice for what i should do if they say i have to pay or something? (i know you’re allowed extra baggage for medical supplies but i always get nervous i won’t be firm enough, or know enough about the rules to stand my ground)
i have always wanted top surgery. since the moment my chest started growing i’ve been ashamed and embarrassed by it. i knew it wasn’t meant for me, even before i knew i was trans
my partner has always respected this. they never asked me to take my top off (even when i was a “cis woman”) and has never touched my chest
but recently i’ve opened up about wanting them to take my top off during sex. it’s something that’s stupidly been making me insecure because i’ve recovered from an eating disorder and when they don’t take my top off, i get worried it’s cause they think my body’s disgusting (i know this isn’t true, and i know it’s out of respect that they don’t take my top off, but there’s a part of me that gets worried)
my partner can’t understand that i would want my top off if im a trans guy. they respect what i want and have said they never wanted to make me feel insecure, but they don’t understand it if i hate my chest so much
but the truth is, ive surrounded myself with transness and trans media for most of my life, so boobs don’t really trigger “woman” to me anymore. i think my chest is ugly and i hate it, and i know it triggers “woman” to other people. but personally, it doesn’t affect me like that. i’m dysphoric but more so from other people’s perspectives
i want my partner to touch my chest and not stress about it. i want to be treated like a cis gay guy, who has his pecs held, and who maybe sometimes gets called girly, and is a bit of a femboy who’s not afraid of getting treated a bit girly
idk if this makes any sense, i just feel like i don’t have a relationship with my chest like most other trans mascs and i want so badly to be treated like any other guy would be. i don’t want anyone to be afraid of doing or saying something feminine to me just cause im trans
i’m actually getting quite frustrated.
i’m 11 months on T and had a pretty big libido increase at like 4 months which went away pretty quickly. i’m back to my baseline of very rarely being physically in the mood, except now my brain is like constantly horny.
i think about sex all the time, and i spend like every free moment i have scrolling on porn subs. but my body isn’t horny at all, like barely ever.
it’s so frustrating cause i keep engaging in sex or masturbation but it’s not even like i’m enjoying it cause i don’t really want to be doing it, it’s just a way to satisfy my brain.
i kinda feel like i’m a slave to my brain at this point.
i know the answer is “just stop masturbating if you’re not in the mood” but it’s not that i’m not in the mood it’s just the my body isn’t so it’s not feeling particularly good and it’s kinda causing dysphoria, but mentally i’m so horny i feel like i can’t Not.
and the problem is, i know that if i had a dick i’d be physically in the mood so much more often cause it wouldn’t cause me so much dysphoria (lack of dick is my main source of dysphoria at the moment)
i don’t really know what i’m saying or asking, but has anyone else got any similar experience?
i hate feeling like i’m kinda crazy at the moment, and i hate the dysphoria it’s causing but idk how to stop it
i got a cheap cast iron for christmas 2 years ago. i don’t use it very often cause I’ve not got the hang of seasoning it yet and have been a bit nervous.
i used to yesterday and after cleaning it i noticed a few spots which looked like rust. i tried to season it again by putting a small amount of oil all over it and then leaving it on the hob to smoke..but then i forgot about it, and i think i burned the bottom. is there anything i can do?
I’m trying to reference a chapter from a 1996 book, but the chapter is a transcript of a 1989 speech (which was not published) - this assessment allows for grey literature so this is definitely an acceptable thing to reference just FYI
Currently i’ve combined referencing a book chapter and a speech transcript, so I’ve put:
“Ross, M. (1996). Silent scream [Speech transcript]. In J. Read, % J. Reynolds (Eds.), Speaking our Minds: An Anthology (pp. 31-33). The Open University. (Original speech 1986)”
Is this correct?
On the APA website it says for a speech it should say “(Original work published 1986)” but there is not original work published, so I’ve put it as “original speech” but I’m not sure if that’s what I’m supposed to do or not
i don’t smoke often cause it gives me a horrible pressure in the back of my throat and i have to keep burping to get try and rid of it (it never works)
if ive smoked “too much” (which is basically more than 4 measly puffs) it’ll make me throw up for 2-5 hours
i do quite enjoy the feeling (before the nausea starts)
is there any way to stop this? or is my chemistry just not made me smoking weed?
1g in 300ml water (+ some honey and lemon)
gonna let it steep for 15 mins
will report back on the flavour and whether it calms my anxiety at all