My partner is constantly posting to her reddit account and a lot of it is unhinged things. She is also insanely judgmental in her comments to other redditors and often calls people “the r-word”. Seeing her in this different light makes me lose respect for her, it also is reducing my attraction towards her along with making me question our relationship.
Everyday I just do what I have to do. Go to work, come home feed myself, shower rinse repeat. Weekends I spend bed rotting after I finish the household chores. Each day I feel a new level of exhaustion and I want it to end. Part of me feels resentful to the people in my life. The only reason I’m still here is because my loved ones reactions if I wasn’t. My mom lost one daughter already and I don’t think she could handle losing another. My older sister is dependent on me in some way to get to and from appointments. My wife says she can’t live without me. I’m angry at them, and I’m angry at myself for being stuck in this life.
At the beginning of this year I accidentally stumbled across a post my wife made in a subreddit, since then I’ve been constantly checking her reddit account to see what else she is posting. I really don’t have to check her account but I feel compelled to do so. It went from whenever I felt insecure into the relationship to multiple times a day. I really don’t use my own social media anymore because I’m constantly checking hers, and when she does post it makes me want to check more. I feel incredibly guilty and like a shitty person for invading her privacy but I can’t get myself to stop. I don’t know if this falls into OCD behavior but I know I should discuss it with my therapist
This is more of a vent post than an off my chest post, but I’m sick and tired of being the only one in my relationship taking care of chores. My wife and I have been living together for a couple years now and she is such a messy careless person.
Throughout the week if she makes food she leaves the kitchen a disaster. Dishes stacked high with food still caked on. Oil all over the stovetop, vegetable skins on the floor. If she drops something she just leaves it. If she opens up a sauce and it spills she leaves it. When she feeds the cats wet food she leaves the lid on the counter and wet food gets all over the counter. Clothes are left everywhere, and never make it to the hamper despite it being right next to the shower. When she eats food on the couch there will be crumbs all over it. Occasionally she will wipe them off to the floor but that is it.
Anytime I ask her to help me clean the house she gets upset and acts as if I personally attacked her. I’m just sick of spending my one day off to myself cleaning the entire house. Doing all the laundry and dishes that I didn’t make.
I don’t even cook for myself anymore because the kitchen is such a disaster it stresses me out. I’d have to spend 20 minutes cleaning dishes before I even begin to cook. I’m at work most days anyways so I usually just eat quick meals.
I’m just over it. I feel like no matter how much I explain to my wife that our messy home impacts my mental health she doesn’t care. She gets off work before me and spends the entire evening watching YouTube or playing video games.
There are days where I consider ending the relationship so that way the only person’s mess I’m responsible for is my own.