Woman in early 40s and newish to the area looking for musical fun. Adored the Detroit scene (and totally get that vibe isn’t here) and not wanting to travel all the to STL to get down. No longer indulge in substances. Not really into the church or conservative crew. Perhaps I’m looking for a unicorn, but where would you recommend? If you’re similar, let’s chat and perhaps we can make our own way. PLUR ✌🏽💗
What is the normal threshold for violence in a red pill relationship?
Today after having an argument, my boyfriend hit me—slapped me open-handed on the right side of my face in public (at a fire station that he’s taking a ropes rescue course).
I was humiliated, hurt, and felt worthless. He often creates situations that leave me feeling this way, but what are the general thresholds for being beaten in a red pill relationship? Is the general expectation that red pill men are also physically abusive to a “disobedient” woman? He stated that that was a “correction” for expressing my frustration when he didn’t care to experience that.
How do you reconcile a partner’s fetish with your lived traumatic experiences? I find myself at that intersection today.
My partner shared content that included a piece that marital rape isn’t real. My ex-husband raped me in my sleep for years, and that created a lot of sexual trauma I had to heal, and am still healing, and subsequently led me to divorcing him (my partner is aware of this).
I am aware that a lot of what is posted is horny-brain musings. I don’t want to yuck anyone’s yum, but those experience didn’t leave me hyper sexual like some women, they were pretty harrowing, actually.
So, how does one distinguish and/or reconcile a fetish with trauma you’ve experienced?