u/itsshannnnn

NOT ASKING FOR MEDICAL ADVICE but hypotheticals to help explain to my vet:
edit to add: I also just wanna know why my cat is primarily using the litter box but having accidents outside of it.

I 23F have a 2 year old neutered male cat that I believe is urinating outside of the litter box. He is usually very good about strictly using the litter box but I have recently found a few places where he has gone outside of the designated area. What might cause a male cat, non-behavioral(there has been no changes to his routine, his food or his environment) that might cause him to occasionally go outside of the box? It’s only been 3 times I’ve found that he hasn’t gone in the litter box so I’m not sure if there IS an underlying medical issue. I haven’t noticed any stains in the carpet or any odors in the home indicating he’s had more than those 3 instances but what can I do to clean any areas that he MAY have gone that I just can’t see??

https://www.reddit.com/r/SocialSecurity/s/pPNKtK66mc
I was 18 and still in school when this overpayment occurred(balance of $3000) and I had no access to the account to report this, my parents also weren’t aware they had to report this. I also don’t see how me being in school would allow benefits to continue after 18 as I’m a legal adult at this point. Whatever. Not the question.

I recently received a call back regarding my waiver for said overpayment and they have waived my debt but it went to my father. He would be unable to pay his bills/fall on financial hardships if they took a percentage of his social security so he has also requested a waiver. Pending approval/denial

My question though is, I’ve read somewhere and have been told that I would be refunded that $815 if I was found not at fault. Is this true? I would call to confirm but it is so hard to get ahold of them, I was on the phone for hours trying to contact them regarding when and why I was overpaid.

This is going to sound like a mess and that’s because it is

On 05/02, when I bought my new saddle and met with the trainer that was selling it, I really enjoyed her personality and we seemed to \*almost\* have the same attitude so I had asked her if she traveled for lessons and she said “yes” so I told her I’d speak with my barn owner about it and report back. Later that afternoon I spoke with my BO about bringing in an outside trainer, it absolutely did not go well. Here’s how the conversation went
Hey *T* I can’t remember if it’s in the barn rules but are we able to bring in outside trainers or noooo(kind of that unsure elongation of a word)
T: I mean… I would prefer that you didn’t *awkward chuckle*
Me: Okay! That’s all I wanted to know. (Was fine with that answer)
T asks me why I was considering an outside trainer and said she would need to meet her….
Me: When I met with her I really liked how warm she was and… I don’t know, she’s well versed in several different disciplines.
T: well I’m sorry if I gave you any reason to think I’m not warm(taking it REAL personal)
Me: *awkward laugh* I mean I think you’re warm as well it’s just, I don’t know(by this point I was upset and ready to drop the conversation so I didn’t give her the exact reason *see indent*)

T starts going on about having to allow others to have an outside trainer if she allowed me to have one, would gain no business, if I want an outside trainer bad enough I can just move barns that allow outside trainers(there literally are NONE here, it’s so dry for an equine business) repeated this several times while frustratingly putting together a bridal due to being deeply hurt or just mad at me, literally wasn’t my intention, I just had a question and was fine with being told no as her barn her rules. I only started to get upset with how she delivered her spiel as her tone was rude

I don’t want to use my barn owner because she is rather unprofessional, a great trainer but really unprofessional, I watched her give a lesson and she asked for feedback on how the horse felt, the rider said “he feels decent”, the rider had to repeat herself because T was not paying attention, after all that I flat out told her why I won’t use her. It’s personal preference. *literally tells me I’ll learn to do what’s best for me*

Now our relationship is extremely strained and will not offer ANY advice(literally said “Shannon, I don’t offer my help for free” and I offered to pay but she refused) because “we’re at that point” and she feels her advice is worthless or not welcome because she doesn’t know if I even want it(this came from me asking for help with the gullet)

I’m not a problem boarder AT ALL. At least I don’t think, I just ask a shit ton of questions.. when I do come out, I don’t say much but I’ll greet fellow boarders, I clean up after myself, listen to feed advice and deliver grain weekly. I had one instance in the entire year where I came off snippier than intended when someone used my tack trunk as a catch me all.

Will I be breaking that rule of no outside trainers if I go to said outside trainers barn to take lessons instead as she won’t be getting my “business”? I feel like the way she worded it, I’m not allowed to use ANYONE but her.