for brothers considering remarriage or nikah again would a private, verified platform actually help you move forward with the right niyah
assalamu alaikum brothers
wanted to get some honest thoughts from this community before building something. i'm working on a matrimony platform specifically for muslims who are seriously considering remarriage. divorced, widowed, or those exploring polygyny within the halal boundaries allowed in islam. not a general matrimony app, something much more specific and structured and serious
the reason i'm asking here is because muzz, shaadi type apps are not really built for this situation + they are more about chilling there, very less serious ppl left there and they are built for first marriage mostly and the experience for someone coming back to this process after loss or divorce often feels undignified or not serious enough.
the one thing i want to specifically ask about is the privacy design we are planning. the idea is that the app would live inside a religious utility app like prayer times, qibla, duas and the matrimonial section would only be accessible through a pin or biometric lock inside that. so from outside it just shows as a normal islamic app. the reason for this is not deception of anyone. it is simply that for many people in this situation there are family dynamics, cultural pressures, nosy relatives, or just the personal nature of this decision that makes them want a private space to make ibadah-aligned choices without broadcasting it on their phone screen.(you can ask about the verification layer we planned in comments)
the app itself is designed to be strict about seriousness. there would be verified profiles, a local ai layer that can detect if someone is not being genuine in their conversations, and if someone is clearly there to waste time or not being honest about their intent they would be put on a 30 day timeout before they can engage again. the vision is like a private matrimonial office with adab, but accessible to people across cities.
my specific questions
would the privacy design i described feel permissible and comfortable to you or does it feel like it crosses into something problematic or im just overthinking, i should just position the app as serious remarriage app?
for those who have gone through remarriage or mashallah happy, what made you hesitate to use existing apps or how you found or difficulties you got back then
what would make you feel safe enough to put your real information and niyah into an app like this
what would make you immediately lose trust in it
I wanna dohonest research and this community has some of the most grounded perspectives i have seen on this topic. jazakAllah khair for any thoughts