u/izotAcario

We are together for 1 and half years, let’s just call her S. We’ve started as a non-monogamous couple, so things were always kinda expected to be this way. But this is the first time we actually get out and have things we other people, because until now we were dealing with our own things and didn’t have time for it.

We talked, put boundaries and we’re very open and keep each other in the loop of what’s happening. But I keep having this tight chest and anxiety and I believe it is because, as this is the first time we’re meeting other people, I don’t have yet a secure idea of how it is. Since we never got out there, I don’t have the experience of things staying good after the act, if I’m expressing myself correctly.

S is kind of avoidant, she likes to have her space, and text me rarely throughout the day. I know this about her, and it’s generally not a problem. I would like more attention and to receive more messages, but it’s something I understand critically and can deal with; she enjoys her own company. That is all fine. But now she met a new group of friends to play online games with, one of this people she started flirting with. Now they call privately and send each other pictures and stuff. All within our agreement.

I would like help to put things in perspective. She texts me little, but can stay until 5am talking to them and this new guy. I see her answering his messages, but I’m usually talking alone in our chat. Is this NRE? I don’t want to be the “you talk to him, why not talk to me?” Kinda guy, but I am still with a tight chest. I guess what also bothers me is that she talks to him everyday, for hours. At this point she talks more to him than to me. For context, we do not live together.

Would you help me with some perspectives?
Thanks!

I'm just playing quickplay for now, since I'm learning the character. I usually play Ana or Kiriko which I more or less know what I can improve. Lately have been finding Juno really fun to play with, and will probably be playing more in the future.

Here are two codes that I feel like I could learn from. They are losses but balanced games. (not quickplay stomps)

G2D3MH

M5Y7AK

I would appreciate a lot if someone could write some words, things I can focus on, terrible things I did etc.

Thanks a lot!