u/jablokojuyagroko

She was really loved by our cats.

Sadly we all knew it was coming sooner than later, she was to be 15 on september. And has not really walked much in the past 2 years , since she had a problem with her joints, we couldn't really take her on walks because of her condition, so she just rested in the garden.

The first days, I felt like I betrayed her , didnt give her enough attention , didn't take her to enough cool places, etc... But checking back at all the photos we have, I think she had a fulfilling life, I hope shes not mad at us wherever she is.

This is a reminder to not take stuff for granted, I remember when she was already showing signs of old age , around a year ago, I dedicated a whole day, to consciously be with her, sit with her the whole day, pet her, not checking my phone nor anything, just with her in the moment. Now its a memory I will never forget, I recommend doing the same with your dogs while you still have them.

RIP, I miss her every day.

But I guess this is the cycle of life.

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With her friend

I live in Spain (EU passport), im a senior FE developer (7 years of experience, worked in 5 companies) ( React / Vue / Angular, even some PHP , self learnt, no college degree.

I also have quite some knowledge about PPC , SEO, UX, etc... (ecommerce mostly)

I live in southern Spain and i make decent money for the average (55k€), working for a german company, remote , but I never liked life there, I did some interships back then in the netherlands, and I liked the country a lot (i love the rain, cold weather, and quiet european culture), also lived for some time in Czech republic, being a fan of it.

It has always been my dream to try to make a move to some center European or Eastern European country, maintaining QOL , or earning even more (Southern Spain has become insanely expensive, anyway) I make around 3300€ net , with rents hovering closer to 2000€ nowadays. And i feel like its the ceiling for this country, I cant make much more . While im getting older, at 28yo i still have some margin to try to live in another country, so I want to try to do this move.

But im finding it nearly impossible, ive not received any linkedin inmails in linkedin in ages , in the spanish Market.

I have just recently set the location to NL , and im receiving 0 inmails too.

And i assume to be honest that even if i got some inmail with the location set in another country, once i tell them that i need relocation they will just laugh at me.

So... hows the process? Unless they scout you from another country I guess its near impossible? Specially without knowing the local language, and in the age of AI.

FE devs who have managed to move countries, what was you move ?

I’m almost 30 and I’m supposed to sign papers next week to buy a home, but I’m seriously questioning whether I’m making a huge mistake.

I haven’t signed anything yet.

For context: I’ve been living at my parents’ house for the past year, and it has been awful for my mental health. I moved back after being laid off and being unemployed for a couple of months. Since then, I’ve been desperate to regain independence and have my own space again.

Where I live, rent is extremely expensive. It honestly feels irrational to rent when a mortgage could be cheaper or at least comparable. Buying is still expensive, but renting feels like throwing money away, especially in the current market.

The problem is the location.

On paper, this area sounds ideal. It has sun, beaches, good weather all year, resorts, and a lot of things people would consider desirable. But I hate living here.

I was brought here from another country when I was 2, so I’ve spent most of my life here. I’m almost 30 now, and I’ve watched the place become more and more gentrified, expensive, superficial, and tourism-driven. It feels like everyone is either partying, showing off, renting luxury cars, chasing clout, or living some influencer-style lifestyle. It reminds me of a Miami-type environment.

I’m introverted, and I’ve never felt like I fit in here. I’ve struggled to form real relationships in this city because everything feels shallow and image-focused. The strange thing is that I haven’t had this issue when I’ve lived abroad or in other cities. Most of my good memories are from being somewhere else.

The main problem is that I don’t feel like there’s a real alternative.

Rent somewhere else? Where, realistically? It feels like every decent place is expensive as hell now. And if I moved to another city, I’d have to rebuild my life from zero again, but this time farther from my family. Not that I have much family left anyway, and I currently have zero friends.

Move to another country? In theory, sure. But with the current job market, that feels almost impossible. I work remotely in IT, which I’m grateful for, but the tech market feels completely unstable right now. And this town isn’t exactly a job paradise either. If I ever lose my remote job, I honestly don’t know what I’d do here. I feel like I’d have to take whatever local work exists, maybe something like waiting tables, because there aren’t many serious career opportunities around.

So I feel completely trapped between options that all seem bad.

On one hand, I’ve sacrificed years of my life to be able to buy a place. I’ve saved every penny, lived with my parents, had almost no independence, and lost a lot socially after leaving my previous city. Part of me thinks that getting my own place could completely change my life. Maybe I would feel more stable, more independent, and finally able to start building something.

On the other hand, I keep thinking: nothing good has ever really happened to me in this town. I’m scared that if I buy here, I’ll be tying myself down for decades to a place I already resent. Buying and selling comes with huge taxes and costs, so it wouldn’t be easy to undo. I’m afraid I’ll end up living alone, hating the people around me, and dreaming every day about leaving — except this time I’ll be stuck.

I don’t know whether this fear is a sign that I should pull out, or whether I’m just overwhelmed and looking for a way to escape. Maybe I need to stop chasing an ideal life somewhere else and just settle down, get my own place, and start building a life where I am.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Is buying a home in a place you don’t like ever worth it if it gives you independence and financial stability? Or is this the kind of decision I’ll regret for years?

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But my method is guest posting, building a pnb is way too expensive and time consuming. THis has costed me around 1200$ , and 8 guest posts in diffrent blogs

All my content is AI generated

Im still amazed.

I was about to develop a custom storefront because my site was becoming slower and slower, after a lot of debugging seemed to be theme issues and so.

I was in a shared hosting, the most powerful plan that they had, 3gb ram, and 1.4 cpu whatever that means, i was constantly seeing 100% spikes in the cpu, and it was awful, every month the site was noticeably slower.

I wanted to migrate away to a VPS, but I was always scared to do the migration.

Finally I took the plunge yesterday, and moved to cloudways, took me about 3 hours, with the migrator plugin, and I had to fix a bunch of custom plugins that i had with hardcoded values. Also had to change the email, could have been worse

I activated object cache in redis too

My site has become 10 times faster, its amazing how fast it works now. 0 lag, and im not even using varnish, nor breeze cache. Just redis cache + cloudflare cdn caching.

If you are suffering with your shared hosting, take the plunge and migrate away, its not that hard.

Im using their 4gb ram +2 vcpu plan