Referral please for a kasambahay
Hi nanays out there, I need your help.
I currently have a yaya. When I’m home, I take care of my daughter while she handles laundry, ironing, and cleaning at her own pace. When my daughter is at my parent's house, she's not doing anything (daughter is taken care of by my parents) except if my mom asked to do minimal cleaning. Cooking is minimal (she’s only done talbos ng kamote and steamed tofu so far since we usually just do takeout). I honestly don’t mind if she takes her time or even spends some time on her phone, as long as the work gets done before I leave for work (which is sometimes not the case).
What I can no longer tolerate is the disrespect.
There was an incident where my daughter asked for snacks on the way home. When I asked the yaya why she told me there were no more snacks from school (when there actually were in the lunchbox), she didn’t answer and just changed the topic to my daughter’s new bag. I had to reiterate that she should always check and bring snacks in case my daughter gets hungry, something I’ve already told her before when she forgot essential things. I couldn’t check myself at the time because I was driving.
Another time, while I was busy on my phone, she “sshhht” me when she was asking something.
She doesn’t acknowledge her mistakes, doesn’t say sorry, and doesn’t even say thank you. Because of the constant stress, I even had to hire a driver just so I can drop my daughter off at my parents’ house after school coz I no longer trust her alone with my daughter.I heard her say tanga and buang in front of my daughter and reprimanded her for it.
I’m a tired and stressed mom looking for a better arrangement. If any of you have a good yaya (or know someone reliable, respectful, and good with a young child), please help a momma out. Referral would be greatly appreciated. Daughter usually has school in the morning and with my parents after school.
Thank you 🙏