u/jesschicken12

I just got my peer feedback back and I am beyond frustrated. Out of five reviews, four were great. But one person wrote that they think I’m “inaccessible at my computer” and “hard to reach.” 😡
\*\*Here is the reality:\*\*
• I literally always drop everything to reply to people's messages immediately. I have teams on my phone and respond within seconds. Even dropping using the bathroom to reply.
• I attend all my meetings on time.
• I keep my notifications on and stay on top of everything.
I even work late to help people.

It feels like this person is literally just sitting there "creeping" on my "Away" status. Like, am I not allowed to use the restroom? It’s so creepy to watch someone's status and assume it’s an accurate reflection of their work: especially when you can manually set your status on Teams to green or away anyway.

I feel like I’m always working, but now I’m wondering if I have to manually set my status to green ALWAYS just to deal with this person? I’ve already set my status to "Available" at all times until MAY 19th just to stop them from watching.
My career coach has my back, and we’re going to find out who wrote this, but has anyone else dealt with a "status-watcher" who ignores your actual output and responsiveness? Not much I can do right?

I just got my peer feedback back and I am beyond frustrated. Out of five reviews, four were great. But one person wrote that they think I’m “inaccessible at my computer” and “hard to reach.” 😡
**Here is the reality:**
• I literally always drop everything to reply to people's messages immediately. I have teams on my phone and respond within seconds. Even dropping using the bathroom to reply.
• I attend all my meetings on time.
• I keep my notifications on and stay on top of everything.
I even work late to help people.

It feels like this person is literally just sitting there "creeping" on my "Away" status. Like, am I not allowed to use the restroom? It’s so creepy to watch someone's status and assume it’s an accurate reflection of their work: especially when you can manually set your status on Teams to green or away anyway.

I feel like I’m always working, but now I’m wondering if I have to manually set my status to green ALWAYS just to deal with this person? I’ve already set my status to "Available" at all times until May 19th just to stop them from watching.
My career coach has my back, and we’re going to find out who wrote this, but has anyone else dealt with a "status-watcher" who ignores your actual output and responsiveness? Not much I can do right?

I just got my peer feedback back and I am beyond frustrated. Out of five reviews, four were great. But one person wrote that they think I’m “inaccessible at my computer” and “hard to reach.” 😡
Here is the reality:
• I literally always drop everything to reply to people's messages immediately. I have teams on my phone and respond within seconds. Even dropping using the bathroom to reply.
• I attend all my meetings on time.
• I keep my notifications on and stay on top of everything.
I even work late to help people.

It feels like this person is literally just sitting there "creeping" on my "Away" status. Like, am I not allowed to use the restroom? It’s so creepy to watch someone's status and assume it’s an accurate reflection of their work: especially when you can manually set your status on Teams to green or away anyway.

I feel like I’m always working, but now I’m wondering if I have to manually set my status to green ALWAYS just to deal with this person? I’ve already set my status to "Available" at all times until May 19th just to stop them from watching.
My career coach has my back, and we’re going to find out who wrote this, but has anyone else dealt with a "status-watcher" who ignores your actual output and responsiveness? Not much I can do right?

I have a full remote job at an EPC firm and everyday is a nightmare. I’m doing design work for a power plant. My coworkers are super vague, management changes its mind constantly and moved the goal post. They have crazy unrealistic deadlines and travel expectations to head quarters quarterly to socialize and “team build”, but we are still expected to meet deadlines while attending these events and long meetings.

I skipped the last one and then they told me if I skipped if I would need to go to the next one. The events are from 5-9pm almost every night. When I leave early they ask me why I left.

I’m just really really sad about it. I feel like I work ten hours a day at this point but it’s still not enough to meet dates. Basically I’m in a lose lose situation almost everyday and set up to fail. I’ve gotten good performance ratings so far but I just miss deadlines by a couple days, and sometimes they are not my fault - the checker takes multiple weeks to get back to me and then they have so many questions or I have to push back and verify with the approver. My time sink is also helping others who ping me about status updates, where drawings are, and holding weekly meetings to keep vendors accountable. I’m managing four systems right now and barely keeping afloat with this aggressive deadlines. In addition, I get no support from others or the wrong answer is given to me frequently, and I have no one to confirm except some mysterious SME who will sometimes respond.

My lead ditches our 1:1s, ignores my emails and messages and calls himself a jerk to try to get out of helping and responding to me.

In college I never used social media yet always had friends to hang with everyday, constant invites. And my friends back form college are almost always down to hang out and meet even if the plan is to just talk and hang. Now my friends I’ve made from my new city are sorta strange. I’ll ask how they are but they seem anxious and unable to relax, it’s like a crapshoot to answer a simple question and they just don’t seem like they enjoy being social for the sake of being social. It seems like they just want to chat online endlessly but I find that boring and just want to go out and stuff. I’m engaged so I’m not lonely, but just feel socially dissatisfied and don’t always want to hang out with my fiance, family and best friends. I’d want to branch out.

I’ve been lucky a few times and made some sociable friends but it’s incredibly difficult to find someone else. And when I do, I find that they are not well adjusted in some ways - major mental issues, etc. i almost regret moving to this new city 5 years ago