how to differentiate whether im an ENFJ/INFJ?
hi everyone!
I've taken sooo many tests online and looked up cognitive functions, but I cannot determine whether I am an ENFJ or an INFJ...I always get different answers...
can someone help me out?
I’m pretty introspective and spend a lot of time analyzing myself, my motivations, my reactions, the reasons behind my behavior, and other people's as well.
I’m also very interested in people and tend to think (maybe overthink..) a lot about relationships, emotions, and interpersonal dynamics. I care quite a lot about how other people are feeling and can be very affected by tension or changes in someone’s mood. You can call me a people pleaser, if you may.
I’m generally expressive and can be quite social, especially around people I’m comfortable with, but I also really need time to myself and can become drained from too much social interaction. Sometimes I will just be super "dead" with others because I spent too much time with them...
One thing I struggle with is figuring out whether I’m actually more externally people-focused or whether I simply have strong Fe while being more introverted overall.
I’m very imaginative and really get absorbed in fictional worlds, characters, music, stories, and hypothetical situations. I loveee my interests and loved ones so much, if you see my room it is decked out in Photo Booth photos with friends, manga, game merch, Star Wars posters, my own art, and anime figurines.
I do tend to romanticize things and think about possible futures, meanings, and how situations might develop. I can also overthink decisions because I see multiple interpretations or possibilities, although when I become passionate about something I can get extremely focused and determined.
I cannot handle conflict at all, I'm always the first to say im sorry, send a letter, or come up with some creative way to get them to come back to me. Even if they are in the wrong. I legit have 0 people on my blocked list (except stalkers lol)
Academically and creatively, I’m quite ambitious and care a lot about achieving things that are meaningful to me. I have sooo many interests and am really intensely invested in them.
I'd say im very popular in my school, but then again I only consider myself to have 2-3 friends there. Funny, right?
I’m also pretty self-critical and tend to analyze whether I’m doing things “correctly” or living up to my own expectations. Socially, I can be very warm and enthusiastic, but I also sometimes replay interactions in my head afterward and wonder whether I said or did the wrong thing. For reference, I spent like hours rehearsing a 5 min conversation I wanted to have abt my best friend abt myself, since I usually share absolutely nothing. I'm more of a "yap about unimportant stuff" than have to talk abt my feelings or emotionally off stuff...
Idk if this counts, but I have a "preference" for liking particularly mean or nonchalant people...idk if its the "I can fix them mentality" but yeah..
Feel free to ask any more questions!