u/jjul2009

I'm at a loss and I don't know what to do from here. Due to ADHD and being sensitive to constant, random notifications, I prefer to keep my phone on DND, allowing only notifications from favorite contacts or a few apps. I do this constantly, whether alone or with others. However, my boyfriend of 3 years finds it suspicious and keeps insisting that it is because I'm sneaking around or trying to hide messages from other men. I would understand if I was acting secretive or inappropriate in other ways, but I'm not. I don't put my phone face down, we have each other's PINs, and will often hand each other our phones to show the other person something. I've even offered to turn off DND when he's with me, but he acts like it's "too late" to just start doing it now. He insists that the only reason I would use it is to hide other guys and refuses to accept any other explanation. I feel like he has this ingrained in his brain due to constantly seeing people on social media saying that type of thing. It's really hurtful that he trusts the opinions of others rather than someone he supposedly loves. How can I convince him that there is no ill intent behind my actions? Shouldn't openly sharing each other's phones be enough?

I'm at a loss and I don't know what to do from here. Due to ADHD and being sensitive to constant, random notifications, I prefer to keep my phone on DND, allowing only notifications from favorite contacts or a few apps. I do this constantly, whether alone or with others. However, my boyfriend of 3 years finds it suspicious and keeps insisting that it is because I'm sneaking around or trying to hide messages from other men. I would understand if I was acting secretive or inappropriate in other ways, but I'm not. I don't put my phone face down, we have each other's PINs, and will often hand each other our phones to show the other person something. I've even offered to turn off DND when he's with me, but he acts like it's "too late" to just start doing it now. He insists that the only reason I would use it is to hide other guys and refuses to accept any other explanation. I feel like he has this ingrained in his brain due to constantly seeing people on social media saying that type of thing. It's really hurtful that he trusts the opinions of others rather than someone he supposedly loves. How can I convince him that there is no ill intent behind my actions? Shouldn't openly sharing each other's phones be enough?

I'm at a loss and I don't know what to do from here. Due to ADHD and being sensitive to constant, random notifications, I prefer to keep my phone on DND, allowing only notifications from favorite contacts or a few apps. I do this constantly, whether alone or with others. However, my boyfriend of 3 years finds it suspicious and keeps insisting that it is because I'm sneaking around or trying to hide messages from other men. I would understand if I was acting secretive or inappropriate in other ways, but I'm not. I don't put my phone face down, we have each other's PINs, and will often hand each other our phones to show the other person something. I've even offered to turn off DND when he's with me, but he acts like it's "too late" to just start doing it now. He insists that the only reason I would use it is to hide other guys and refuses to accept any other explanation. I feel like he has this ingrained in his brain due to constantly seeing people on social media saying that type of thing. It's really hurtful that he trusts the opinions of others rather than someone he supposedly loves. How can I convince him that there is no ill intent behind my actions? Shouldn't openly sharing each other's phones be enough?