u/junekid28

I'm a 37-year-old gay Black man from NYC who's still trying to figure out where I fit in the community.

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If I'm being honest, that's been one of the hardest parts of being gay for me. I've spent years wanting connection with other gay men while simultaneously feeling uncomfortable in a lot of gay spaces. Sometimes it feels like everyone else got a handbook on how to belong and I somehow missed it.

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I'm neurodivergent, introverted, a little awkward, and I spend a lot of time in my own head. I'm more likely to be home watching anime, gaming, going down a random Wikipedia rabbit hole, or planning my next trip than I am to be at a crowded club. I enjoy deep conversations far more than small talk.

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Pride Month is often complicated for me. I see people celebrating, surrounded by friends, partners, and community, and while I'm genuinely happy for them, there's also a part of me that wonders where my people are. Not because I dislike being gay, but because I've never fully felt like I belonged anywhere.

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I've always felt a little different. Not just from straight people, but sometimes from other gay men too. I'm not the most socially gifted person. I struggle with anxiety. I overthink things. I need a lot of alone time to recharge. I don't always fit the image of what people expect a gay man to be, and for a long time that made me feel like there wasn't a place for me.

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But despite all of that, I still want connection.

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I'm looking for genuine friendships with other gay men who understand what it's like to feel a little outside the crowd. People who enjoy conversations about life, travel, gaming, movies, creativity, personal growth, and all the weird questions that keep us awake at night.

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I'm not looking for perfection. I'm not looking for status. I'm not looking for people who have everything figured out.

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I'm just hoping to find good people.

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The kind of people who can talk about their dreams, their fears, their favorite anime, their latest hyperfixation, or where they want to travel someday.

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If you've ever felt like you were standing on the edge of the community instead of in the center of it, maybe we'll understand each other.

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I'm a 37-year-old gay Black man from NYC who's still trying to figure out where I fit in the community.

​

If I'm being honest, that's been one of the hardest parts of being gay for me. I've spent years wanting connection with other gay men while simultaneously feeling uncomfortable in a lot of gay spaces. Sometimes it feels like everyone else got a handbook on how to belong and I somehow missed it.

​

I'm neurodivergent, introverted, a little awkward, and I spend a lot of time in my own head. I'm more likely to be home watching anime, gaming, going down a random Wikipedia rabbit hole, or planning my next trip than I am to be at a crowded club. I enjoy deep conversations far more than small talk.

​

Pride Month is often complicated for me. I see people celebrating, surrounded by friends, partners, and community, and while I'm genuinely happy for them, there's also a part of me that wonders where my people are. Not because I dislike being gay, but because I've never fully felt like I belonged anywhere.

​

I've always felt a little different. Not just from straight people, but sometimes from other gay men too. I'm not the most socially gifted person. I struggle with anxiety. I overthink things. I need a lot of alone time to recharge. I don't always fit the image of what people expect a gay man to be, and for a long time that made me feel like there wasn't a place for me.

​

But despite all of that, I still want connection.

​

I'm looking for genuine friendships with other gay men who understand what it's like to feel a little outside the crowd. People who enjoy conversations about life, travel, gaming, movies, creativity, personal growth, and all the weird questions that keep us awake at night.

​

I'm not looking for perfection. I'm not looking for status. I'm not looking for people who have everything figured out.

​

I'm just hoping to find good people.

​

The kind of people who can talk about their dreams, their fears, their favorite anime, their latest hyperfixation, or where they want to travel someday.

​

If you've ever felt like you were standing on the edge of the community instead of in the center of it, maybe we'll understand each other.

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