r/gayfriendship

Hi everyone, I'm a 21 y/o gay guy from Nepal. I'm open to make friends and i think i'd be open to developments if they occur naturally. Just be decent at conversations and the same age or older than me pls, thanks.

Feel free to message me if you are down and to be very clear i'm not looking for esex or any activity of that sort so if that's what you're for, DNI.

I am 24 male from near Kolkata. Just a simple guy who is dealing with the complicated life. I have never done any bad things to people but bad things happen to me. I don't know I get much frustrated about my life. The only thing is getting more miserable that my attraction towards guys. I used to like girls but nowadays guys more. Yeah got to know my orientation is kinda different and not like other man. I feel like I am more interested in men then women. I had a crush on a guy. whenever I want to fall in love with someone whom I really adore, circumstance always stops it. I know there is no such future for it. Though I am hoping for it. Biggest mistake is fall for a straight guy from my side. I know it's not gonna happen with something so I had to stop emotionally. It hit hards. Even after that Tried dating apps, eventually ended up with hook ups with fews. Not that I want that way. No guys are responsive like that all are just time passing or maybe only want fun. Belong to genz, I like the old school love, like pure and fresh. I wanna be loved and wanna love like a natural that happens unexpected. And a good partner who can understand, like a best friend. Like we lay down together under a starry sky and discussing about the future possibility while counting the stars though future is subjective. But feels like all just illusions, feels like there is no such affections for LGBTQ people. I think I will never get the love in my life anymore. Dunno, I can not express these words to anyone that what feelings I have, not to family, not to friends. They will not accept that way, some will mock, some will ignore, some will hate, maybe more. It may lead to worst. Apart from this, dealing with some personal problems and I just feel like I am gonna go far away from everything. Just to be alone myself. Even I can't do that now due to some responsibility. I can not understand how to deal such things. Whenever I try to fix my life it just becomes more complications. I am not feeling well. All are just deep tensions. I didn't want to post it here but I couldn't stop myself. As I don't have anyone to share these, I feel heavy inside, becoming a loner. I don't know who will listen or not but I want someone to discuss things. Hope you will response with something for the sake of humanity. Dhonnyobad.

I am 49 married male from the US EST. I am looking for someone to talk to about anything and everything as often as possible. I don’t have many friends I would like 1 close friend. Any age or gender as long as you’re looking for the same. DM me if you want to get to know each other.

Hi. I’m 25.

I’ve realized I connect best with people who naturally enjoy consistency. The kind of people who like messaging throughout the day, sharing random thoughts, sending updates, calling sometimes, and slowly becoming part of each other’s routine.

Not because anyone is forced to.
Just because the connection genuinely matters to them.

I’m probably not very compatible with people who disappear a lot, constantly juggle dozens of conversations, or only talk when they’re bored or lonely for five minutes. I don’t really enjoy connections that feel interchangeable.

I like presence. Effort. Reciprocity.

Texting matters to me, but voice calls do too eventually. I like feeling close to people. I reply fast, I stay consistent, and I appreciate people who do the same naturally.

Outside of that: I read a lot, listen to music constantly, speak three languages somehow, and live with two tiny animals who have absolutely no respect for personal boundaries.

I usually connect better with people around my age (18–28-ish), especially from Europe or North America because of time zones.

Mostly I just want something lasting. A connection that becomes part of daily life instead of fading after a week.

If that sounds comforting rather than exhausting to you, message me.

I’m a very shy guy once you get to know me Id like to say I’m funny but Shi idk I have hidden that I’m gay for a while from everyone still do I can go into further details privately looking for good friends tho just people that I’m able to have a laugh with yk

I'm 18 years old I have zero IRL friends and feel really lonely every day. My social skills are nerfed to the ground, so making friends is hard.

I'm super clingy and desperate for someone who actually stays. I want daily texting, voice notes, sharing pop music, cooking random stuff, and just bedrotting together while doomscrolling.

Looking for a genuine bro (18-25) who's okay with mutual clinginess and consistent chats. Please don't ghost.

If you're also lonely and want real bromance, drop your current favorite pop song or what you ate today..

I just want honesty and respect, let’s just go with the flow see if we click😮‍💨

Long time ex friend kept joking about being "friends and rivals" with me since we studied BSc together. I never really feel like I competed with him during that time, still I did better after college than hm. We are both gay and used to relate through some shady behaviours as most, but still I considered him my closest friend since I experienced a lot of first times as a young adult with him and trusted him more than anyone. Friendship got old and resentments were there out multiple dramas, but I thought we were over that and still considered him a real one.

After I came back to the country from doing graduate school abroad, we had beef again recently cause he told me through text he was hanging out for the first time with some straight ancient friends I met in middle school. I did not tell him I was in bad terms with one of them to not bias his interaction, but I did texted him a mean joke that compared this straight guy's unpretty fianceé to him since he had found him attractive. Later on he told me they had spoke shit about me to bond with each other in his shady tone, but he still loved me. This was the last drop for me.

I did not find out what exactly had he spoke of me with them but I know he can be cruel and I trusted him too much so my mind blew it out of proportion. I reacted immediately and felt betrayed. It's one thing to speak badly about third ones between friends and I know it's normal, but another is doing this to your close one to connect with some randoms. I know this is something I would not do to him, I just imagined myself throwing flowers to him when talking to other people cause I love him.

I confronted him and told him I was tired of the shadiness and I did not understand why this kind of behaviour/unloyalty does not happen to me with straight friends or more hegemonic looking/confident ones (this ex friend struggles with overweight). I told him I needed a friendship that could be always on my team/defend me when talking to others instead of stuck with this childish competition joke and he previously knew how I valued loyalty out of similar conflicts. He apologized poorly. I did feel badly for implying that he could be envious of me and apologized for the drama later on... but still this has finally ended the friendship.

Is it all my fault for relating to someone through shady codes and then expected him to be decent with me? Was I too harsh when confronting him? I sometimes miss him cause he really was there for me through a lot but I still regret not cutting him off earlier and giving him such a place in my life knowing how much of a hypocrite he can be. Now I know I took to much time to cut him off... but old friendships can carry different meanings during your mid20s