u/just_n3k0s4nity

So im 20 im 172 cm tall i am 119 kg unfortunatly and i have an bibge eating disorder.

i lost 20 kg before but regained my weight due to binge eating after an intense trauma.

I am not all that active yet as im in college for signmaking and its mostly on the computer.

In college and day to day life i am always constantly around fast food and temptation of multiple forms that isnt just food, greed and lust is also everywhere and i feel like im gwtting tested heavily and i really wanna change that and become a good girl not an unhappy one.

so i do go to the gym to move more and workout and ive been trying to grow my muscles as id like to show them off but i dont know what routine to pick.

Now im not trying to get 2000's model skinny i just wanna be comfortable at 70 or 75 kg. I currently have a 1700 kcal max a day but i might reduce it by 200 kcal. Tips?

Tips i need:

\-cal deficit

\-how to move more in day to day life

\-how to resist temptation of fast food

\-workout routine

Thx♡

So im 20 im 172 cm tall i am 119 kg unfortunatly and i have an bibge eating disorder.

i lost 20 kg before but regained my weight due to binge eating after an intense trauma.

I am not all that active yet as im in college for signmaking and its mostly on the computer.

In college and day to day life i am always constantly around fast food and temptation of multiple forms that isnt just food, greed and lust is also everywhere and i feel like im gwtting tested heavily and i really wanna change that and become a good girl not an unhappy one.

so i do go to the gym to move more and workout and ive been trying to grow my muscles as id like to show them off but i dont know what routine to pick.

Now im not trying to get 2000's model skinny i just wanna be comfortable at 70 or 75 kg. I currently have a 1700 kcal max a day but i might reduce it by 200 kcal. Tips?

Tips i need:

-cal deficit

-how to move more in day to day life

-how to resist temptation of fast food

-workout routine

Thx♡

i (f20) have been struggling with depression as long as I can remember.
as a child I've had it rough I've faced abuse from a stepparent (female) wich caused major mommy issues and trust issues and many more unfortunately. besides the abuse I have been SA'd as a teen twice by 'boyfriends' I had (with caused distrust in men).
I've been groomed. also I have been raped by my (now ex) fiancé (he was 30 months I was 18 f at the time.)
he was supposed to love me and care for me yet he cheated lied hid a whole family and fucked a bunch of sidekicks behind my back. he was a narcissist and would abuse me emotionally and the physical part through either unwanted sex or the silent cold treatment.
I've been cheated on multiple times in my life, I've had more fake friends then I can count, my parents got divorced at an early age (I love my parents they get along well still and theyre literally the only best friends I have besides my brothers.) and I've just been betrayed so much in my life that I didn't know if I wanted to or if it was even was worth living anymore.
I doubted and hated god for like 2 to 3 years probably longer because I couldn't and still can't trust anyone why would I trust him.
I cut myself a lot in high school, I ate myself to 122 kg (lost 4 kg now I lost 20 kg before but regained after the rape.)
I have lost a partner to suicide after having a huge argument with them I heard them jump from the bridge it was awful.
I have attempted but obviously failed and now im here. I went through college I hated dealt with the worst relationship ever now im healing back to god I got to celebrate two birthdays of mine I thought id never live I got to be in moments I would've missed if I did kms im happy im here but I still am hurting by everything that happened so shortly after each other relatives died people I thought id lose later in life died I am still trying to recover from binge eating and trying to get strong, im trying to be a kind person regardless of what I been through because other people deserve love too no matter which can be hard I still catch myself scratching at my scars on my wrist I still find myself getting super angry or panicked in random moments yes im alive im working on myself and forward but I can't help but feel sad, scared and alone in my addictions (food, lust) does anyone know how this feels? I am happy but my sadness isn't gone yet id love to say my depression is fully gone but is it really if I still grieve everyday? is it really gone if I still have to learn from my mistakes and sins?
like yes im so happy and grateful for surviving and living and deciding to be better and happier and loving my family and what I got I can't help but be sad for lost people (death) and things that have happened...how do I describe this feeling..