u/kalteri1

So I (F22) just moved to a new state last July. My sister (F34) moved up in august with her husband (M30) and their 2 who are now 4 and 6. We all moved in with our parents as the plan was for my sister to kick her husband out and tell him she wanted a divorce, to which we all supported since he isnt a good guy. After some time, my sister and I got closer and she would vent to me about different things which I was fine with. So either in February or March, she met this guy on hinge (M47) and only after a week of knowing each other, they decided to make it official. Mind you, she had hinge for a day. Everytime they see each other, they have sex. The is the base of their relationship and this guy doesn't really let her our his own kids. My sister's kids are both level 2 autistic so they are a lot. He has spent a total of 24hrs with them and he never saw them again after how he reacted.

In the past, my sister and I have talked about moving together to get away from our parents. Living with parents as an adult can be a lot. I was fine with babysitting her kids if we moved. At the time I was. Now she wants to move an hour away from us and closer to her boyfriend. She hasn't asked me to move with her but if she did, I would be a full time babysitter and raising her kids for her. Thats what my life would turn out to be. The reason I say this is because she has been pawning off her kids to me to watch them while she sees her boyfriend. I watch them when she works and/or if she has an appointment to something but if its to go have sex, thats where I draw the line. I used to support her but this boyfriend of hers has become her whole life and her kids have been put on the back burner. She has become so reliant on me to watch her kids and I feel overwhelmed and taken advantage of. I thought we were close. We even were going to go to the BTS Concert and we were both excited about it. But if she is actually going to move, she will probably have to sell those tickets to help her pay rent. I was excited and I thought she was too with how much she loved them. That damn 47 year old man has taken over her. She's rushing into all of it. This is exactly what she did with her husband, she rushed into it and they arent even done with their divorce yet.

Idk. Im just annoyed because we all thought she was smarter than this. Im tired of being taken advantage off. Plus if I had moved with her, I have exotic animals that require specific care and I wouldnt be able to provide that for them. Im just so mentally exhausted from this whole situation.

So for the first few months I had him, he was a baby and I didnt really handle him much do to moving and him staying at a friend's house for a time. For a few months, he was in a 10 gal and then a 20 gal later on. Which he loved the bigger space and I had planned on getting a 40 gal. In this past tanks, the tanks weren't front opening and he would be started by it and I would mostly take him out to clean his tank or do a weekly check on him. I will admit as a new owner I was excited and handled him when he didnt want to be handled. After some months, and discovering choice based handling, I decided to stop handling him all together until I got the 40 gallon. Since I got the 40 gallon almost a month ago and him getting used to the sliding doors, I always give him the choice on coming out. Now when I offer my hand, he will investigate and walk away but as soon as I close the door, he is there trying to open the door. So I open it and offer my hand again, and he climbs right up. We hang out for a bit and when I put him back, he walks in his tank. When I close the door again, he demands back out. And it turns into this loop. I ended up have to put a limit of coming out 2 or 3 times. Once he realizes im not taking him out again, he walks off and does his thing. He is like a cat in terms of personality lol

I feel like a slave in my house. I feel like I have no choices. I do, but very few. I feel taken advantage of. A while ago, my parents said that over the summer, I dont need to get a job. That I will watch my nephews while my sister goes out or to work. Which fine, I agreed because my sister told me that I dont always have to say yes. So today, I said no because I wanted to get started on my gecko's new tank since I got it today and I was excited. She asked my dad to watch them after asking me and he complained. Sure he would watch them when school was in but he says he is "off duty" during the 3 month summer. Ive been put on the job of babysitting. Id rather go work and be out of the house. Dont get me wrong, I love my nephews. But everyone expects me to drop everything im doing and do what they want me to do that they dont want to do. I feel like im just existing for other people and theres nothing I can do about it. My dad complains about every big and small thing I dont do right. If I breath wrong, I annoy him. If I order something for Nyx to better his life, he gets mad for me spending my own money. I get he wants me to save but in this economy, thats mostly impossible. Even if I had met someone and wanted to go on a date, I wouldnt be allowed to if my sister was also going out to see her boyfriend. Its like im at the mercy of my parents and they decide if I can do this or that. Im going to be 22 in June. Ive never gotten the chance to have fun. Only work and then work at home by babysitting or cleaning. Im apparently not allowed to relax either. I dont know how to get out of it or stop it. I am told im loved and appreciated but I get nothing in return. If I ask for help, they get annoyed. If I ask for something, they get annoyed and tell me no. But they are allowed to do what they want and what they choose. They get to have choices but I cant? I dont understand. I want to be free for once. I want to live my own life and go do fun things but im stuck in the house.i hate it here. Anytime I say that I eventually want to move out, my parents guilt trip me about how much money they've spent on my and the house and such. Its this constant loop. I just want to live a fun life for once.

So i started working with K-2 elementary on March 30th and today was our last day. It was also a half day. Before I started, I didnt think id get attached because I wasnt really a kid person. There were 2 kids i wouldnt get to see again since they are going to the intermediate school. I cried a few times. The other kids i didnt cry because I was going to see them next year and ill have them in our class. I never thought

Id be in this career a year ago.