u/katzlover12

Hello! Live in zone 8a, picked out several varieties that do perfectly fine here. However I don't plan to buy until late september with expectation to plant in early october along side rest of my non-fig fruit trees. Most varieties I've noticed are 1-2ft tall (sometimes shorter than a foot). First frost is mid november, so I wonder with only giving them around a month before frost if I should purchase in spring to not risk cold killing them. Any input? I can't overwinter in garage or indoors.

I was looking for someone to come out to my property look at the area, and give a overall landscape design plan. I was hoping to plant it all myself. I am just lost on the color coordination, and height portion of it. I would expect this is a paid design service, I just really didn't want to spend thousands for a company to install it. It's a 6'x40' slightly sloped area. Any suggestions?

Hello! I booked a tasker earlier this week, went well and confirmed in person he would be available a certain day and time next week for a bigger job booking. I then noticed via rebooking online that it said he wasn't available to rebook at all. I couldn't select a day or anything. I then tried via looking up under that service and he didn't show for any day next week. I logged off and it showed him available day we tentatively agreed, along with most of the rest of week. Logged back in, looked under exact same service and not there. A family member also saw him available on their account. I gave him a good review, tip, but will say the charge+tip is still pending at my bank. Is there something I'm missing? I apologize if this is obvious but literally first taskrabbit.

I'm in my early 30s, my mother has been in one form or another disabled all my life, last 6ish years fully bedbound. I've always been close to her, her emotional support and there for her. Over the last few years, the overall situation has burnt me and dad both out. I stopped taking care of myself and allowed emotions to control my eating and such. I was always the kid, the teenager, the young adult who sadly made her mom her foundation. Changed plans, thoughts on things, etc to accommodate or allow her opinion to be more important. I made myself be small because basically I felt bad for her and wanted her to feel included in much more than I should have. I even stopped looking for love since this was too much baggage for someone else to handle. My father walked into this marriage knowing my mother was eventually going to degrade to bedbound. He also made my mother his foundation, he didn't do anything but work and be there for her however needed. In January 2026 she passed away, we came to accept it coming in 2025 and also a bit relieved about it. Last few months finally started making serious plans to upgrade the house, I'm working on my weight and mental health, plus also want to start dating next year, and lastly my dad retires in 2028.

We've known for a few years my grandma (father side) has been having declining physical health but really couldn't move her here with previous situation. She's now expressing interest to move here with us (other side of country). She is one who is very into herself, social butterfly, no concept of boundaries, and EXTREMELY loud. She would never be okay with assisted living even though with how she is would be actually something she enjoyed if she gave a chance. Where I live with father is a generational home and I can't move out due to many reasons. On top of all the emotions with my mother, I also feel frustrated/trapped that the extremely quiet, relaxed home will be filled with massive growing pains.

teaching her to give space

judgement of my weight gain/loss

her disliking our cats

improvements to house being delayed

her needs that will increase in intensity from health decline

my complicated situation and her judgement delaying/stopping chances of a significant other

I understand as we get older we have to support the older generation(s), I just was hoping for more time to grieve, breath, and relax. Thank you for reading my long post.

I know they are smaller but regular spaghetti squash seems to be harvested once the outside is hard, yellow then let it cure some unless I misunderstood that. Is it similar to angel hair?

I'm fairly overweight and have a small gait, 2-3mi is 10k steps for me. I feel weird doing larger steps, do you force yourself to do bigger steps or stay in your normal gait? When walking do you focus on the distance you walked or more of the steps to meet a goal you set?

Hello! So my hardneck is ready to harvest, i stopped watering about a week ago but we've had rain from thurs-tues every day. I read your supposed to let them dry 10ish days without water then harvest, but we have 70 percent chance of rain on monday. It looks like most of next week is dry, do I harvest this sunday or hope for 10 days of rain free after monday? Thanks!

Hi I'm asking for a friend, she's insecure on her looks due to her weight. She wanted to get her hair colored from mix of black/grey hair to black on top layer and a dark red under the rest. Her hair is to the small of her back. She doesn't want to embarrass herself since she's unsure if she will fit into standard chairs in a salon. I wanted to help her so she doesn't waste gas or make the awkward calls to find out a salon who could accommodate. Does anyone have any suggestions?

I've read from a couple places it is thornless, but when I look at places like Burpee the pictures appear to show thorns on the plant. I liked the idea of a more sweet flavored raspberry to add to my garden but wanted thornless. If it's not thornless does anyone have any suggestions? I plan to do Joan J also.

Hello! I am very well aware how these grow and how invasive. I wanted to set up a raspberry/blackberry berry patch in the front yard. However I live in a HOA, house is in a cul-de-sac the front yard is 30'x40'. I had the thought from discussing with family to create a bed with bricks stacked up (making the walls), 2-3ft high, 2-3ft wide, and idk how long. They think to put a couple layers of weed block under it to stop the spreading. I know the horror stories of weed block being terrible down the road. I'm also concerned that in several years the plants may die since they use all available dirt in the bed we created. Does anyone have any suggestions of a way to make this work? I am open to other suggestions instead of making mine work.

Hello I went with seascape couple years ago and it hasn't hit the mark for sweet strawberries. I know people suggest Albion strawberries, but is there any better?

Hello I went with seascape couple years ago and it hasn't hit the mark for sweet strawberries. I know people suggest Albion strawberries, but is there any better?