I’m already an equinox member, I want to see if Hudson yards is worth the destination membership, I asked and they said I have to pay $100 at the desk. I just want to try it out for a day for free, anyone know how I can do that?
What summer sporting event are you going to or which of these would you pick if you could buy one ticket to one day at these events:
World Cup
NBA Playoffs
US Open Golf
US Open Tennis
My controversial weekly update in my pursuit of love.
Actually successful crypto bro
Last year I went on a lot of dates, most of them unmemorable. On paper he was interesting, on the cover for Forbes, 30 under 30, crypto bro who actually invested his crypto in startups that somehow made it. Looking at his online profile though it gave me the impression of a grifter. He was 100% legit with an ivy degree but his eyes had this deadeye look of someone who would sell out their best friend if it meant more equity. That and the fact that he told me he had a girlfriend but would loooove to hang out as “friends” last year made me ghost him. We had a lunch date and he was 10 mins late. He asked me how I was and I give him a recap of my career. He doesn’t offer anything about himself but it felt transactional somehow. My free time is up and I tell him I gotta go and send him a text saying good luck with his startup, he doesn’t respond thankfully.
My exex
Two ex’s ago, and not #3 I’m currently in love with. He flies over to hangout in the city and we spend a day together. We are both going through a breakup. The entire day he says the most depraved things to me that would make a sex worker blush but it makes me laugh since neither of us takes it seriously. Probably the nicest day I’ve had with a man in a while, things feel easier when you’re comfortable with someone. It surprises me when he tells me his succession-like family hopes we end up together since I thought they had hated me. He wants to go and do coke with some friends and I decline, he tells me he fucked two women that night. I don’t think we could stay friends if I was the third though he tells me he’d do it without a condom with me and I pass and write #3 a long email letter about how sorry I am. He doesn’t respond.
Too old for me
In one of the groups I’m a part of some guy dms me that he has two extra tickets to an after hours tour of the Guggenheim with his firm and if I wanted one of them? I haven’t been to the Guggenheim in a long time so I agree, thinking it was innocent because he invited some other older guy from the group too. I meet him and his subordinates, he works for a hedge fund. He spends an inordinate amount of time next to me chatting during the tour, I figure most older guys in their 40s are chatty and maybe he’s trying to not make me feel left out. He invites us all to this finance bro member club for dinner and I don’t have plans so I say yes. When I get there I realize I’m dressed like a hooker in comparison in a gold bandage dress so I keep my jacket on the entire time. He makes sure he sits next to me, he laughs too loud, I’m uncomfortable. He tells me if I wanted to join the club he would show me around one day and refer me. I tell him it looks to be a club for finance guys so I’ll pass. I make sure to leave early to Uber home alone. It felt like a date with an audience.
Interlude with 6.
Me and #6 go on a walk in the park with my dog, my dog is feeling sick so he comes with a treat for her. He buys me ice cream and we walk around and talk. He mentioned wanting to see the new euphoria episode and I acquiesce to letting him into my apartment to watch it with me. Somewhere before the episode ends he’s kissing me and we make love on the coach. I say that because it’s gentler and kinder than what I was expecting, he’s good at making me feel good. It heals something in me. When he goes home I ask if I can call him to distract myself for 20 mins. We talk for two hours and I hang up. The next day he wants to see me again but I make up an excuse and then he’s off visiting family for the next week, I start ghosting him and he anxiously texts me it’s not like me to not answer texts and he will let me know when he’s back in the city. I feel a bit bad so I said that’s a good idea. I don’t know why I’m ghosting him.
I had deleted the dating apps this week but thinking of redownloading them after MDW. Or should I pursue any of the ones I mentioned before?
There is something about being a romantic in a place where that really means being a masochist that deeply wants me to defy cynicism.
This is my sex in the city series without any sex
Post 1
Horny European man
European men have a more self-assured vibe than their American counterparts. He’s in investment banking, his eyes crinkle at the corner, he’s incredibly good looking with this summer tan that makes no sense coming out of winter. He is nice and tells me when he sees me clutching my purse in the corner of an art gallery that he doesn’t think he has a chance with me. I tell him I’m actually looking for a rebound. We spend 5 hours talking. I’m helping him pick out furniture for his apartment the next day and start crying about date #3 who dumped me recently that night. He likes me because I make him feel insecure and he’s not used to that. He is incredibly nice about it and comforts me, tells me if I come over Friday he’ll fuck me. I’m down but I can’t feel anything. I cancel on him 3x that week and he stops responding, rightfully so.
WASP PhD
He went to the same college in the same year as date #3, which is why I go out with him. In person he was better looking and his hair was prettier than mine. He’s a WASP so he’s closed off emotionally but I have a habit of oversharing as a strategy soon I know the hard things going on in his life. The next day he’s completely cold emotionally. He’s attracted to me but he doesn’t like being the chaser. When I tell him I’m glad we are friends it annoys him. I cancel on him only once before we go out for ice cream. We are too similar kinds of people so it doesn’t work even if we would fuck each other. I can tell he wants me to be more interested before he lets me know he is but that probably won’t happen. I use him for information about #3.
Sober trust fund baby
He’s a trust fund baby whose parents just donated 8 figures to the Met. Which is how he landed in the rehab he just left. He’s so archetypal - those types never have any passions, never any aspirations. He’s buys a west village apartment to do counseling with addicted youths. Surprisingly a good person but our first date is a disaster where he shocks me by telling me he’s not attracted to me. I feel nothing since I’m in a post breakup fugue and calmly tell him that’s ok we can be friends. That shocks him more than me. Every day since then he texts me what he’s doing and what his plans are and his excitement to hang out with me again. Besides the faux-pas he’s a good person so I’m open to actually being friends but that doesn’t feel like what this is since he invites me over to his apartment to see his furniture. Which one of us is being naive? I’ll probably fuck him.
Some actually-successful crypto bro randomly texts me if I could meet him next week but is cryptic about what it’s about. We went on a date last year but he was forgettable. Will probably be #7