r/rs_x

I'm trying to meet other women between 23-30 on that BFF app and I think I get it now. Why are women so frustrating to meet. Super delayed responses, canceling less than 24 hours before 😭 I'm losing my mind a little. I think I would fully lose my mind if I was looking for a partner and dealing with this nonstop.

Besides the app I've been showing up to book clubs and similar events near me and there's barely any zoomers there, it's mostly people in their 30s/40s and up. How are people making friends their age these days????? Why are zoomers such basement dwellers?????

Intense people gravitate to me in pretty much all aspects of my life. Even my intense family members do the same. It’s odd. Generally an open minded accepting person, not sure if that has anything to do with it.

there's no way to make it not an awkward conversation but it's not worth losing a friendship over. i believe people can be better

this was my experience. I never understood why they lived in my hometown (in southern ontario) until recently i put it together that it was actually cool for them back then. i mean its a nice old heritage town with pretty houses and gardens and local history yadda yadda, but i was like did they really just take the real estate marketing bait? they could afford to live elsewhere, like the city, and i know some people are just not city people but most people want to live somewhere vaguely cool or near the cool stuff in their 20s. like, god, what the fuck is the appeal of living in this retirement town with nothing going on, setting up shop here makes no sense and i always thought my parents, despite the fact i love them, where kinda stuffy and waspy for wanting to live there. because for 25 years of *my* life this place has had nothing going on but tumbleweeds passing through. like seriously the most exciting thing happening would be like, an old timey military LARP fair/parade marching band thing once in a while. but no, my parents are boomer/genx cusp, and in the 80s they would've bee able to go to bars and get a drink for literally $1. recently i got talking about it with them and found out there were all kinds of bars, nightlife etc. not anything crazy like any cool arts scene or whatever, but just a classy, tasteful, lively town for people in their 20s, not a city, but not the middle of nowhere. they were talking about this old lakeside manor where there'd be cocktails and multiple big rooms full of people etc, cool and hip but also under the radar, and then you could just walk to 3 other bars in 2 minutes. however by the end of the 90s a lot of the businesses closed down or the buildings were even demolished, etc, i guess the aging population saw less interest in doing things and they just occupied the houses, and few new houses got built (was so rare to have construction in that town, NIMBY culture etc). the old manor they used to drink at and then wander the streets at 2am, is now just a nice little public park with lots of grass and a swingset. when i think about it, the actual core of my hometown is a nice old timey downtown with plenty of storefronts (which could be bars or music venues etc but are mostly vacant or like, a tailor, a pawn shop, a mattress store) and density, nice globe streetlights, waterfront. the remnants of it are there, or the potential, i can definitely see the vibe. its got the cool indie movie hipster haunt vibe that everyone really wants in their 20s, but its reality is that most citizens there are 70. it has the infrastructure, but no human liveliness. of course the children of those boomers either just moved to the city or ended up weird, sheltered, isolated, etc, whatever other shit we all recognize about odd suburban children who just dont understand their place in the world because "the world" to them is grocery stores, department stores, plazas, malls, big open fields that go on endlessly, and parents house. sorry if this sounds like so obvious, i just put this together myself tho

I'm 12 btw

See it so often with friends, family, and others where it's like bitch you know that ring is fake, you know he's full of shit when he tells you that "communication and being real are, like, really to core to who I am", you know he doesn't gaf about anything besides sports betting and the game you can see it in his eyes, and you don't need closure yk damn well that's just an excuse bitch the fact that he doesn't want you IS the closure😭

I think it just irks me to see so much time wasted on entertaining delusions or playing house. I remember one friend talking about her boyfriend later admitting to lying about liking country music on their first date since she likes it and she seemed to think it was cute and whatnot but I would be horrified like is that not a deliberate lie to manipulate the situation in his favor😭😭 I guess that's not really the same thing but I just wanna see them get a bit of a grip.

i don't know how to contend with the fact that i am spiritually fat. firstly, i am a normal BMi but not what one would call skinny. i have a medium frame and am on the taller side, so ive never been a small person. im also very high achiever and hold myself to high standards, which i feel is the only reason i've yet to succumb to actual bodily fatness. i was an overweight child and would eat until i felt sick and couldnt physically fit any more food into my stomach, something something emotional eating (?) so i dieted and lost the extra weight in elementary school and managed to maintain a reasonably healthy body weight after that. the traumatic experience of being a fat child led me to vow never to become fat again, but i feel that the fatness lurks within me still, however hard i try to repress it. im unable to stop myself from eating food if it's in front of me and i simply love to eat. this has become even more of an issue now that i have an office job where everyone is always bringing in snacks and desserts that i tell myself not to eat and then seemingly become possessed and eat anyway.

and the gluttony isnt confined to just food, which is what makes this fatness truly spiritual and why i feel very rotten about it all. i go back to people who arent right for me for comfort and the high of it. cannot stop myself from texting and wanting to hook up with exes because of the rush when i get what i want. i feel like im betraying my true self and am even actively aware of this when im in the moment, but i feel utterly powerless to stop. idk. diagnose me i guess

7 year shut in finally taking my life seriously and wanting to change. going to college next year at the ripe old age of 25! i currently have no friends, never dated, basically no social life. I also didn't really have friends in grade school, middle school or high school so I'm undersocialized. live in a third world country where no one knows about neurodivergence or mental health so I never got diagnosed, but i think i have something. Hoping to get a scholarship abroad but i know it's difficult. want to finally make friends and build community but i feel like it's too late. can i change things now? most people don't wanna make friends at the age i am and don't wanna befriend the weird neurodivergent older classmate in college. will moving to a new country be the reset i need or am i cooked beyond comprehension and should just give up? (I'm also a woman and i feel like that somehow makes things worse for me)

The movie obsession is NOT a cautionary tale about wanting your crush to be in love with you. It is a cautionary tale about fucking/dating people in your coworker friend group. Nothing deadlier than an incestuous inner circle!!!!

Bit of a more goofy post but I’d rather have this discussion with people here than on the spongebob subreddit as I feel like they wouldn’t think about it as deeply.

I want to know if the fish view the main characters differently as they aren’t (typical) fish. The way some of the fish say “Krabs” sometimes seems a little racially/specially motivated to me. Why are main characters seemingly segregated from the other fish? Is the city a more affluent area than where Spongebob and the others live? So many questions…this is probably the stupidest way ive ever procrastinated.