u/king_cloud2

So I (19F) have been living with my stepdad (65M) for my entire life basically. Almost two years ago my mom left in a really hurtful way, leaving my brother and I to take care of my stepdad since he’s disabled. I’ll admit I was resentful towards my mom for leaving the way she did but to be fair I haven’t had the worst of the caretaking duties since we’d have nurses come in and we have an IHSS worker. But regardless for the last two years I’ve had to take care of my stepdad, cooking meals for him (while simultaneously learning how to cook) and having to inform the EMTs after his falls. I’ve dealt with mental health issues for 7 years now and even when I could barely take care of myself I had to be there for my stepdad. About two weeks ago we had an argument cuz I wasn’t “respecting” him, I said that I wasn’t over my mom leaving and burdening me with the responsibility of taking care of him. He said I don’t take care of him and so on and so forth. I stormed out of the house to cool off and when I was ready to go back inside the door was locked. I had literally nothing but the clothes on my back, I banged on the door begging to be let in, after no response I went knocking on the neighbors door hoping they would let me use their phone. I called my dad and he picked me up when I got there we decided it’d be best for me to stay at his place. And I have for the past two weeks. I could be making a bigger deal out of this than it actually is but he has yet to apologize or reach out directly (I haven’t blocked his number) and I’m just so confused about it all… AITA for not wanting to reconcile or for moving out in the first place?

So I (19F) and my mom (42F) have never had the greatest relationship. Growing up she’d blame me for just about everything and hardly supported me. I’d be lying if I said I was a “perfect” daughter although she didn’t exactly act like a decent mother. I’m the youngest of 3 kids and a month after I turned 18 she had disappeared, just left in the middle of the night. When my siblings and I finally got in contact with her she told us to keep it a secret from our stepdad (65M) and that she left to go to rehab for her alcoholism. A week later we found out she was in a nearby town, living with her new boyfriend. I’m not gonna lie she seems happier and I’m glad she seems to have found peace but at the end of the day she left the responsibility of taking care of my stepdad with a ton of health problems onto me and my extremely busy brother. I had to learn how to cook and felt I couldn’t go out even for a job because he might wind up in the hospital. She’s been contacting me lately asking me to visit her for “a day or two or three or twenty six” I haven’t even opened the messages because I’m still really upset. I’ve blamed myself for her leaving for about a year now and it just seems like she doesn’t think what she did was bad. So AITA for not yet forgiving her after a year and a half?

So I (19F) and my mom (42F) have never had the greatest relationship. Growing up she’d blame me for just about everything and hardly supported me. I’d be lying if I said I was a “perfect” daughter although she didn’t exactly act like a decent mother. I’m the youngest of 3 kids and a month after I turned 18 she had disappeared, just left in the middle of the night. When my siblings and I finally got in contact with her she told us to keep it a secret from our stepdad (65M) and that she left to go to rehab for her alcoholism. A week later we found out she was in a nearby town, living with her new boyfriend. I’m not gonna lie she seems happier and I’m glad she seems to have found peace but at the end of the day she left the responsibility of taking care of my stepdad with a ton of health problems onto me and my extremely busy brother. I had to learn how to cook and felt I couldn’t go out even for a job because he might wind up in the hospital. She’s been contacting me lately asking me to visit her for “a day or two or three or twenty six” I haven’t even opened the messages because I’m still really upset. I’ve blamed myself for her leaving for about a year now and it just seems like she doesn’t think what she did was bad. So AITA for not yet forgiving her after a year and a half?