u/kitglo

I'd like to preface this with the disclosure that I am autistic and am bumping up against my own inner logic and rules and trying to shape expectations. Kind insight is appreciated. And also just venting. Would also love to hear other people's neurodivergence fixations in solidarity. 🖤

I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant as a first time parent. The baby shower is about a month and a half away. We sent out invites along with the Babylist registry link about a month ago. A bunch of people in our lives have been asking for the registry. No one has bought anything from it yet. We've received a couple of cute onesies from my mom (my hub calls it 'the cute clothing trap' and we expected folks to favor cutesy items over functional registry items) but nothing else. I'm both anxious and annoyed by this. I want to know what we'll need to buy ourselves. I'm hella anxious about not feeling like we'll be prepared if we dont know what to buy ourselves until baby is almost here. And in my mind, if someone asks for the registry it's because they wish to buy something off of it, so why are all the people who brought it up not using it? I was really careful to put a lot of price-point variance, cute-and-functional, and utilize marking items as priority.

I know I'm getting wrapped up in the 'tism frustration about how I expect it to be vs how it is. And I know we still have time, but pregnancy is weird and I feel like its both forever and also no time at all. When do you all think people will start actually using the registry?