Dog/Dog aggression - how to stop the staring?

I'll start by saying I'm following Larry Krohns methods very heavily with my two pit mixes fighting in the home. Have done a paid call with him, but it's hard to pin him down for follow up calls.

Issue I'm looking for some clarification on revolves specifically around the younger of my two dogs. We've had multiple fights and incidents, that seemingly have been started by one or the other dog. Can't really say who the aggressor is at this point. However dogs have been separated for 6~ weeks and we are working on socializing.

The problem I'm having, is that my older dog seemingly ignores the younger one in these socialization attempts (walks, one dog kenneled in the same room other dog out, through baby gates in the home), but the younger pup has a "staring problem". Even on walks when we're 50' away from the other dog, he is still just completely focused on him. In the kennel, he will stand, not relax, and just lock eyes directly on the older dog, to the point the constant contact will eventually initiate them aggressively barking at eachother. Sometimes he will even let out little growls, which pisses older dog off causing the shouting matches.

I want to know the correct and proper balanced method of correcting these stares, and how to get the younger dog to ignore the older one like the older dog seems good at.

I'm relatively new to balances training, and punishments, so I don't want to screw it up.

Other points worth mentioning. Older dog is E collar trained. Working on conditioning the young one now (Larry Krohns book method). I don't use prong collars. They both are very obedient, understand and respond well to NO, both very much attached to me and focused on me, play very well tug fetch etc. older dog is not kennel trained and has bad confinement anxiety, which we are working on so eventually we can have him crated with the younger one in the room instead of the other way around.

Socialization is hard with my wife and I's work schedules, and 4 year old who is absolutely terrified of having both dogs in the same room after witnessing a few of the fights. We 100% need to do more walks, and find ways to make socialization work so we can progress, this staring problem is just making things more difficult.

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u/kput7 — 11 days ago

Subwoofer location? (+ A dragon)

Hello!

I picked up an SVS PB-1000 today to add to my small cinema, giving me now a the SVS + a JBL Studio 260P, and Dayton 300 kicker.

I'll start by saying that I am virtually tone deaf. Highs and lows, peaks and valleys, positives and negatives, all the technical sound stuff? I don't really get it, understand it, or hear a clear difference. Which makes all of this tough. Plus a smaller room, weird rear channel placement (long story to properly explain, but it involves where I had to cut my concrete slab to run wiring), and unsealed open room.

When adding the SVS I expected to hear a large, staggering difference running such a high end sub. Room shaking, earth shattering, worth my money bass.

But what I'm getting, even when running just the SVS, doesn't really sound or feel like anything special. Cranking the JBL I feel like it's actual hitting harder and the SVS just feels negligible.

Part of this could very well be placement, so I'm going to start there!

Marantz NR1608 Receiver. I've run A1 EVO on the room prior to this sub install. Running 120hz LFE, SVS in LFE mode, and the JBL with crossovers fully cranked. All speakers set to small and crossovers at 80 for the towers.

Appreciate any tips! Should the SVS be up front and the JBL in the back now? What am I missing? Are my expectations just too high?(The SVS is hiding between the white and grey couch next to the audio cabinet). Also sorry about the mess! We have a 4 year old and no time to clean things. 🙃

u/kput7 — 1 month ago

Fron Resource Guarding to ??? - please help

Sorry for the long post, but I’ll try to keep this as concise and organized as possible. tldr at bottom.

I’m looking for some insight because I’m starting to feel like this has evolved beyond a simple resource-guarding issue.

The dogs

Dog A: 10-year-old intact male pit mix. I got him when my ex and I separated; he was originally her brother’s dog. He has significant separation anxiety and cannot be kenneled, but otherwise has excellent manners and knows basic commands. He is completely trustworthy with us and our 3 cats and is an absolute snuggle bug. He has had mild resource guarding around food in the past, mainly freezing if approached while eating, but this has improved significantly. Our cats can even eat next to him without an issue.

Dog B: 1-year-old neutered male pit mix. We got him from the Humane Society at 8 weeks old. He is playful and very typical of a young dog.

Their history

These two have always been extremely bonded. They wrestle, play, groom each other, snuggle, and generally act like best friends. When Dog B was 3–4 months old, Dog A corrected him a few times around food/couches, but there were no issues for many months afterward.

We feed them separately and make sure treats/toys are distributed fairly.

How the fighting started

About 2 months ago, Dog B ran after and nipped Dog A and appeared to be guarding a pile of vomit.

About a week later, they had a serious fight that resulted in scratches, scrapes, and blood being drawn. There was a pile of Dog B's vomit in the room again (he had vomited in his kennel), so we assumed he was guarding it.

This seemed to come out of nowhere because there had been no previous history of serious aggression between them.

Our first trainer believed Dog B's behavior looked more like a fear/confidence or fight-or-flight response and recommended working on his confidence and exposure to the world.

A second trainer then recommended establishing more of a "dominance hierarchy" in the house and gave us exercises to work on that.

There were a few more altercations afterward, and they all seemed to involve some type of food/resource being nearby (a bagel on the counter, cereal box nearby, etc.).

What concerns me now

We are currently working with a third trainer who is heavily R+ focused and seems much more knowledgeable about resource guarding. The dogs are completely separated in the house with gates/barriers, and they are not allowed loose together. We also have muzzles for controlled training.

However, based on the most recent incidents, I'm starting to worry that this has evolved beyond resource guarding.

For example:

  • Dog A attacked the kennel: Dog B was kenneled in the bedroom. Dog A walked into the room, noticed him, approached the kennel, and began aggressively barking and biting at the kennel. Dog B tucked his tail and appeared frightened. Interestingly, this seems to happen only when my wife is home without me. If I am present, Dog A may walk over, sniff the kennel, and leave. They are now never allowed in that room together.
  • Apparently no resource present: One dog accidentally got through a closing door while I was with Dog B. They approached each other, initially sniffing, and Dog A immediately became stiff and fixated simply because Dog B was nearby. I stepped between them and separated them before it escalated, but I believe another fight would have happened if I hadn't intervened.
  • A similar incident happened previously: Dog B tucked his tail and tried to move behind me when Dog A approached, and Dog A then lunged at him.

None of these recent incidents involved an obvious resource.

What concerns me most is that Dog A now seems to be initiating these encounters. We've also noticed increasingly hard stares from Dog A, while Dog B responds by tucking his tail, backing away, or trying to get behind me.

The strange part

If we maintain roughly 4–5+ feet of distance, there generally isn't an issue.

Dog B doesn't seek Dog A out or immediately try to engage with him. We have worked on counterconditioning around each other, including the methods in this article:

https://www.whole-dog-journal.com/behavior/resource-guarding/how-to-manage-your-resource-guarding-dog/

Honestly, Dog B barely seems to care that Dog A is even there when they're 5–15 feet apart.

Our current trainer has also had us practice calm "parallel" time: one dog leashed and muzzled on one couch with one person, and the other dog on another couch with the other person while we watch TV.

In those situations, Dog A generally ignores Dog B and relaxes.

Other important context

Before we completely separated them, they still regularly played, ran together, snuggled, and groomed each other. They have also been loose together in the backyard without issues.

We have now completely separated them because of the escalation.

Dog A was recently started on Chloricalm at our trainer's recommendation, primarily to help with his significant separation anxiety while my wife is upstairs with Dog B. We're only about a week in, so we haven't noticed much effect yet. We're also trying CBD.

Where I'm at

I am fully aware that rehoming the puppy might have to be a consideration here, but with as absolutely heartbreaking that would be, I am prepared to exhaust all options first. I am mainly writing today because I feel this has changed from a simple RG issue to something else, but don't know what, or how to approach it. Our trainer is coming once a week, but the days are slowly creeping by with this being a constant daily issue. Any tips, idea, or hope would be appreciated. We have also considered seeking out a licensed vet behaviorist, but there are none near our home state of Nebraska and information regarding local options are thin.

*I did use ChatGPT to structure and format this for easier reading and a more concise post before the "This is AI" comments hit lol.

tldr;

Two male pit mixes were best friends, but about 2 months ago younger dog appeared to resource guard vomit, which led to their first serious fight and several subsequent fights around food/resources. Now, older dog seems to be initiating aggression even when no resource is present, but only in very close proximity, while the younger dog is showing fear/appeasement. They are currently completely separated and working with an R+ trainer, but I'm trying to figure out whether this has evolved beyond resource guarding into fear-based conflict/inter-dog aggression and whether there is realistically a path to safely coexisting again.

u/kput7 — 2 months ago

[B1] Book Condition

A little disappointed with how my copy showed up in the mail today via Barnes and Nobles 😔

I collect 1st/1st Printings so was hoping for a near immaculate copy to add to my shelf.

Going to stop by a physical store today and see if they have something in a little better shape available, then can gift this copy to someone 😊

Edit: Went to Barnes and Nobles #1. They received one copy and it was already gone. Barnes and Nobles #2 also received one copy, I managed to snag it. It's in better condition, but still not even close to perfect sadly. A little tear at the top of the binding and a wrinkle on the spine. Oh well, it'll have to do for now I guess until retailers get better copies. Or, cough cough some sort of special edition hardback is released.

u/kput7 — 2 months ago
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Only Finished Series - what to read next?

Currently finishing up Mark of the Fool and looking for my next read!

Only interested in completed series at this time.

* Denotes my favorites

Have read:

The Wandering Inn*

Cradle*

Mark of the Fool

Mother of Learning

Age of Myth

Life Reset

Mage Errant*

Practical Guide to Evil*

Read but DNF/Did not like

Worm

Bad Luck Charlie

Rhenwars Saga

Obviously some of these aren't traditional "litrpg", but any super long series reccomendations would be welcome. My actual reading list is too long to post here - but I'm mostly into this genre at the moment.

Also, I don't think I'm quite ready for Dungeon Crawler Carl yet, thanks though lol

Thanks!

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u/kput7 — 3 months ago

Restaurants to visit - GPT Results

99% of the time I use Reddit to choose travel destinations, Restaurants , etc. as I appreciate the wide variety of authentic replies and answers - versus search engines with sponsored ads, incentivized blog posts and the like.

I frequently use ChatGPT to sort through numerous reddit posts to save myself some time of searching through them myself. We're visiting San Lucas next week, staying at Corazon Cabo, and I wanted a good list of restaurant options. Here is what GPT came up with when told to specifically use Reddit reccomendations.

Curious how this list actually stacks up, and if any of these are truly "must go" or "must avoid".

We'll be in town for a week, I do have dinner booked at Sunset Mona Lisa for our anniversary 😁

Best Taco Stops

Birria de Res Los Montaño

Taquería Danny

Taquería El Güero Germán

Taquería Morelos

Los de Abajo Taquería

Tacos Rossy

Tacos Gardenias

Tacos Guss

🐟 Best Seafood

Mariscos La Palmita

Captain MOY - Seafood tacos y más!

Claro Fish Jr.

La Oveja Negra

🍽️ Authentic Mexican / Local Favorites

Restaurante El Brody

El Mexicano

Bajarosha

La Guadalupana

Los Tres Gallos

Maria Corona

La Golondrina

⭐ Reddit's Overall Must-Try Local Restaurants

Birria de Res Los Montaño

Mariscos La Palmita

Restaurante El Brody

El Mexicano

Taquería El Güero Germán

Taquería Danny

Captain MOY - Seafood tacos y más!

Café de Ciudad

Bajarosha

La Guadalupana

📍 Worth Visiting Despite Being Tourist-Friendly

Tacos Gardenias

Tacos Guss

Los Tres Gallos

Maria Corona

La Golondrina

Must-Visit Restaurants in Cabo

Mariscos La Palmita (Seafood)

Birria de Res Los Montaño (Birria Tacos)

Taquería El Güero Germán (Street Tacos)

El Mexicano (Traditional Mexican)

Café de Ciudad (Breakfast)

Los Tres Gallos (Upscale Traditional Mexican)

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u/kput7 — 3 months ago

Inexpensive improvements?

Hello!

Edit: took these photos a while back. Surrounds have already been moved and angled at the couch 🫡 says it further down but tldr I guess

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Curious if anyone has some suggestions for improvements that can be made on my current setup for a better audio experience!

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Looking for something budget friendly - not wanting to go drop money on a new receiver or anything crazy

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Since taking these photos (they're a bit old), I've moved the atmos speakers up on the wall, scooted the rear surrounds back and angled them at the couch, and my 12" JBL sub died so I now have the single 10 up front.

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Dragon for attention!

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Speakers are JBL Studio 180 towers and JBL 12" sub. SVS atmos hats. Marantz 1608 receiver. Epson 4040UBE and Silver tickets screen.

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I'm not audio inclined and know very little about how things are *supposed* to sound, so I don't really know where things might be lacking with this setup. But any feedback is welcome!

u/kput7 — 4 months ago
▲ 138 r/WanderingInn+1 crossposts

Inncentives - Rewards for Pre-Ordering

https://wanderinginn.com/inncentives/

Looks like Pirateaba is offering some inncentives for pre-orders!
Simply submit a copy of your receipt via the link, for a chance to win some goodies. XP is gained with the more people who submit their claims.

Sounds like it only counts for pre-orders of the very first book.

Fun stuff!!

Will buy someone's signature bookplate if they don't want it 😂

u/FTaku8888 — 4 months ago

CenturyLink > Quantam Week+ outage

Previous CenturyLink fiber customer in Omaha NE, forced into Quantam several months back. Couple months ago a lightning strike fried the box outside the house and router.

Took quantam about a week to get out to the house, installed a new box thing inside the house on the wall and new router.

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Last week, Internet went out. Received a message from Quantam about an outage in the area without having to reach out. Now, 8 days later, continue to receive these texts daily, still no Internet.

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Have heard on Nextdoor it's a wide area and supposedly a line was cut, but don't really know for sure.

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Very frustrated with our experience so far and really needing to get Internet back up. Not sure if there's anything to be done? Would have switched providers already but it sounds like Cox's fake fiber is the only other option for my location.

u/kput7 — 4 months ago
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Mark of the Fool Easter Eggs

Just getting started into Mark of the Fool and have come across a second Easter egg referencing other books, just thought it was funny, not sure if others have noticed 😅

First was the Harry Potter potions class reference, and now The Wandering Inn. Kudos to the writer, love it!

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u/kput7 — 5 months ago

I'll preface by saying we are fairly novice snorkelers. Our only real experience was in Mo'orea and Bora Bora for our honeymoon last year, where I feel we were spoiled by the variety of sea life we encountered. Just hopping off our deck in Mo'orea I saw turtles, black sharks, eagle rays, lionfish of multiple varieties, octopi, and much much more. Visited a reef in Bora Bora eith a decent variety there too.

With that being said - would the trip out to Pulmo for snorkeling be worth it comparatively? Reading online it sounds like there's a huge variety of sea life, but am seeing very mixed reviews on the actual snorkeling experiences themselves.

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u/kput7 — 5 months ago