u/lanad3lr3y_81

they are so nasty. especially in any sub beginning with “am i”. i feel like one person gives a response and everybody else just bandwagons and just offers genuinely vague advice. i cant name a time i asked for advice and got genuinely good advice.

earlier today i posted about an instance at my job where i got a little sassy with a client due to a miscommunication and everybody was acting like i was a spawn of the devil. basically i asked a customer if she was interested in opening a credit card for a discount and she said no. we have to share benefits so i went into that and she even sharper said no and THEN told me she already had the credit card. i simply stated she should’ve told me that initially then i wouldn’t have tried to push it. and i felt a little bad for the tone i used but just felt like it was a stupid argument. but oh my gosh people were assholes in the aitah thread. they were acting like i was this nasty fucked up person for giving the customer an alternative to save both of us the annoyance. and they were just like “the customer is always right” (the quote is hella misinterpreted btw) and claiming i was taking my bad mood out on her which was not true at all. this one woman in the thread was so rude saying she’d report me to my manager for that so i said then i’d just laugh and the manager would too because they don’t take complaints seriously for credit card pushing. and said it is bitchy to interrupt someone when their speaking. she then said that “reflects” the type of person i actually am which is not true. i can be nice or i can be rude. it depends on how im treated. i’m nice to customers but if they’re rude to me i do tell them i will not be spoken to like that because im a human being. and im always nice to customer service people unlike these ingrates in the thread.

and there’s been more, i post about relationship issues, disagreements with family, etc and people act like im this piece of shit. like no im not, im just trying my best. and sometimes make mistakes.

one time i posted about wanting to find a new job, after being pressed to give my reason, when i gave the reason people were telling me my reason wasn’t “valid”. like hello? wanting a new job is perfectly normal and maybe my reason isn’t the best reason but i can leave a job for any reason i wish.

reddit is the worst place for advice because they’re not seeing the whole picture and they just see it off the words on the screen. it doesn’t help how negative everybody is here either. im sticking my posts to stuff about tv and music from now on because the people aren’t overly harsh there 🤣

and i must note, every now and then there are people who are nice and actually explain either what the problem truly was without using nasty judgemental language or making me feel bad about my entire existence. its especially annoying when they use the nasty mocking condescending names that older people use to mock those younger than them.

i (17m) am working a retail job currently. i am very burnt out and woke up tired today and not in a great mood. anyway i walked into work and assisted several customers with their checkout. maybe 5 customers in this older woman (maybe late 50’s-early 60’s) comes up. she’s buying one thing. so i work for a company that’s very adamant about us selling credit cards. if they say no we have to push 2 benefits, its not my favorite thing but it is what it is. so i ask this woman if she’d be interested in saving some money by opening a credit card and she says “im all set.” in a pretty flat tone. so i go into the required spiel and she cuts me off in a very sharp tone and says “im all set, i have the card.” and i just didn’t really think and said “you could’ve said that.” i probably sounded a little annoyed but i was, there’s no need to interrupt me rudely when im speaking and she could’ve said that and saved both of us the spiel. then she was like, “no, you could’ve asked me if i had the card.” which we’re not supposed to ask like that, we’re supposed to ask them if they want to save money by opening the card. i didn’t even argue with that because there’s no point and she seemed rigid. i just think it’s ridiculous to get annoyed at me for going into a spiel i wouldn’t even have to go into if she just stated she had the card upon my first ask. i think i should’ve watched my tone, but im so sick of customers being rude or cutting me off when im speaking. so am i the asshole?

i’m looking for a summer job. i am currently at tj maxx but due to some upsetting stuff that happened, i no longer feel comfortable working for the company and am actively searching for a new job. my sister and i went to the mall the other day and noticed hollister was hiring. so i actually did like tj maxx up until the incidents, so i think i would like this too because its a similar job. it also seems like a chill environment as its in the mall and our mall is never too busy. i did get emailed about doing a video interview. i get nervous so could anybody prepare me for some of the potential questions too? thank you

i remember as a child really hating the i ready. while i liked it when it was first introduced in second grade because i liked the little characters and i thought the mini games were fun, they completely changed the website when i was in third grade. it just became kind of low effort and the teachers in third grade only let us go to the library every other week and the other weeks were used for i-ready. i used to love to read and was a fast reader and i found it really irritating that we were doing stuff like this instead of going to the library and i’d usually be stuck with the same books for two weeks. there were also times id get the answer right and the website would claim i didn’t. in 4th grade i remember we would have creative writing every friday morning but i remember some weeks they’d make us have i ready instead during that time. in 5th grade our teacher allowed us to spend the rest of the class playing computer games if we had 45 minutes during the week of i-ready done. i remember some kids would just rush through to get the 45 minutes and sometimes i didn’t understand some of the stuff because it was difficult and confusing but she started making it about accuracy and i found that unfair because i tried my best. i remember during online learning they lied to my sister saying if they did a certain number of i-ready lessons overall they’d do “something funny” to the principal. they did and never delivered so they did all that work for nothing.

anyway once i got to middle school it became much less frequent and it’s been gone since for us at least. but i want to be a teacher and im really hoping it goes away or im not required to do it. id much rather spend that time teaching or actually assigning work i provide not just the low effort filler crap i-ready is. i also found it very irritating that teachers weren’t allowed to help us. maybe it was just my school but i remember the teachers being like “your a smart kid.” instead of helping because i really struggled with math. it was on the lessons too.

but what do you guys think about i-ready from a teacher perspective?

while i do get annoyed with customers being snappy/rude or interrupting me about the card spiel that doesn’t happen too much (maybe like once or twice a month). i don’t like wrapping but usually the managers will help and i do get why it’s a thing. i only get pissed when they ask for unnecessary items wrapped, such as plastic items or shoes… i do get annoyed with gift receipts. they are sometimes really rude about it too. it’s always old women who are buying clothes for their grandchildren. and they’re like “i need a gift receipt.” like excuse me?? you can say “could i please have a gift receipt?” and then i do one and they’re like “oh well this needs to be seperate.” so i need the manager to come over and approve it and the managers busy like maybe tell me that beforehand you need 3 seperate ones? one time i even had a woman ask and i printed out the normal receipt first. she didn’t even wait, ripped it out of my hand and said “this isn’t a gift receipt.” like bitch please give me a minute. it’s such an inconvenience and it forces customers behind them to wait longer in line. people can return things non receipted and honestly it’s not a huge deal if people know the price of the gift you get them. i never ask for gift receipts because i know how annoying it can be. we honestly should start charging extra per gift receipt. in massachusetts they charge $0.10 per paper bag. maybe we should charge $0.10 per gift receipt and $0.10 per wrapped item. just a thought… i otherwise like the job but this one thing super pisses me off especially when they act entitled.

if it’s a customer who says “could i please have one if you don’t mind?” it doesn’t bother me as much. it just bothers me when they act all entitled to one and then complain about me doing what they ask for if they don’t communicate it to me. like i really think the $0.10 would be nice so maybe customers would think twice before wasting my time.