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Do any of you get a very small, blackhead type sore along with the normal red one on/by the lip during an outbreak? It looks like a barnacle kinda? A lot like a blackhead but on/right on the border of the upper lip and painful (mostly if you touch it) whereas blackheads aren’t.

I was thinking this might be a normal part of HSV-1 because my friend, who I think has it but not sure, had what I thought was a cold sore a few months ago and on top of the regular looking sore on her bottom lip, she had a blackhead type one right above her top lip pretty similar to what I have now. Is this normal/do any of you experience this or should I be worried?

Also side note: I’m very unsure if my friend actually has it bc she’s never had sex and has barely even kissed anyone. I know people can get it in other ways, but is that pretty rare? Bc the amount of people online, specifically young people on TikTok, claiming they got it from sharing a water bottle in middle school or sharing a fork with a family member seems sus to me. I feel like a lot of them lie about how they got it so they can’t vent online without being shamed as much.

So after getting oral HSV-1 I had no idea that it could spread through other means besides kissing and oral sex. I had a terrible experience where a friend I had told (I had no idea how bad the stigma was or that it could affect my friendships) started refusing to share drinks with me (“if you have a sore” she ended up telling me later). I was shocked bc I genuinely didn’t know this was a thing. So now every time we hang out she’ll only drink a shared drink BEFORE I do, she told me once she’s fine with sharing tho as long as I “confirm I have no sore inside my mouth” (she’s aware that it can also be inside the mouth). So I either have to watch her stop drinking a shared thing once I do or announce that I have no sores inside my mouth.

One time she did OFFER to let me use her lipgloss, probably because lipgloss only goes on the outside lips and she can physically see I don’t have a sore there so she doesn’t have to have me confirm I don’t.

Anyways, this obviously made me want to stop telling my friends. I figured I would just not tell them, continue sharing stuff as long as I’m sore-free, and move on. Studied abroad and shared drinks with a new friend group. Made me extra grateful I didn’t tell any of them. But obviously HSV has permanently altered my life in a lot of ways and one of them is that I feel I cannot share stuff with a FULLY clean conscious because “what about asymptomatic shedding”. Am I still risking something? I’m also surprised that that one friend was ok with sharing as long as I didn’t have no sore, bc if she knows that HSV can be inside the mouth than surely she knows about asymptomatic shedding.

I thought I did my research and knew it was extremely unlikely, but then ppl on this sub are telling me I still shouldn’t share under any circumstances (“you could still spread it!!”)?? Do you guys still share food, drinks, chapstick, vapes, etc? Because I don’t wanna cause myself this much pain and aggravation over something that’s such a small chance, but I also don’t wanna feel like a bad person

So I was looking at this YouTuber’s profile on personality database. People were stuck between typing her as an ESFP or ESTP. Many of the comments were saying she was ESFP because she “clearly doesn’t have Fe” (their way of saying she’s un-empathetic). But… I feel like the average ESFP is gonna be more caring than the average ESTP still? I sometimes feel like people use functions to justify anything, but what is the real difference between having Fe vs Fi in your stack? Is it just greater concern with other people and harmony (Fe) compared to personal values (Fi)? How would EXTP and EXFP actually be different there?

So no I’m not a scientist and I’m not trying to be negative, but people keep saying “5-10 years”…. Hasn’t that been said for literal decades? My grandma is 70 and has had this most of her life. Ugh I can’t even imagine the frustration for that long. Though she’s been married twice lol. I am crushed since I’m young and have to date. Already been dumped by a situationship bc of it. Mentioned it casually to my friend too, not realizing she would be an absolute dick about it and now refuses to share drinks with me. My mom even told me to stop disclosing 🤣 but I obviously have to. Stopped telling friends tho which is prob the right call.

Anyone else in the oral and genital HSV-1 gang? Is there more or less hope than hsv2? I heard that both genital kinds are actually gonna be easier to cure than the oral kind. Which kinda sucks bc my body has had a hard time with the oral, whereas I haven’t had a genital one since the first outbreak.

Anyways just kind of venting, I sometimes think about the fact that I’ll be in my 70s and still having this 😂 it’s so ridiculously awful… like I’ll never share drinks with a FULLY clear conscious, might not be able to kiss my baby one day, have to worry about spreading it, always have to have Valacyclovir in my house, scared I’ll have a cold sore and the people I don’t want to know in my life will find out anyway… all ts my whole life

Also of course just when I’m feeling better about it, Euphoria makes a joke that everyone is now editing 😬✌️