u/lexitronr

Hello! So coming off of the title, I want to make this birthday a special one! We do let each other pick the gifts on special days so that will be his choice but I want to create a day for us to have fun and experience something special!

For context, we have an 8 month old baby, which grandma will be able to babysit for the day but a trip is out of the plans for now. We also aren’t big drinkers so going to bars for a night isn’t our thing.

As for him, he loves escape rooms or anything that involves a “challenge”. He likes movies a lot but not just any movies he is particular about the ones he likes. Other than that he just likes to have a chill time really, he’s not super out-going but I know he will appreciate something he can cherish and remember.

We’ve only been married a year and half and together for 2 years so forgive me if I seem naive to knowing exactly what to do.

What are some experiences you’ve had or your wife/girlfriend did for you that really stood out? What do men like? What’s the perfect birthday plan for you?

Hello! So coming off of the title, I want to make this birthday a special one! We do let each other pick the gifts on special days so that will be his choice but I want to create a day for us to have fun and experience something special!

For context, we have an 8 month old baby, which grandma will be able to babysit for the day but a trip is out of the plans for now. We also aren’t big drinkers so going to bars for a night isn’t our thing.

As for him, he loves escape rooms or anything that involves a “challenge”. He likes movies a lot but not just any movies he is particular about the ones he likes. Other than that he just likes to have a chill time really, he’s not super out-going but I know he will appreciate something he can cherish and remember.

We’ve only been married a year and half and together for 2 years so forgive me if I seem naive to knowing exactly what to do.

What are some experiences you’ve had or your wife/girlfriend did for you that really stood out? What do men like? What’s the perfect birthday plan for you?

Hello! So coming off of the title, I want to make this birthday a special one! We do let each other pick the gifts on special days so that will be his choice but I want to create a day for us to have fun and experience something special!

For context, we have an 8 month old baby, which grandma will be able to babysit for the day but a trip is out of the plans for now. We also aren’t big drinkers so going to bars for a night isn’t our thing.

As for him, he loves escape rooms or anything that involves a “challenge”. He likes movies a lot but not just any movies he is particular about the ones he likes. Other than that he just likes to have a chill time really, he’s not super out-going but I know he will appreciate something he can cherish and remember.

We’ve only been married a year and half and together for 2 years so forgive me if I seem naive to knowing exactly what to do.

What are some experiences you’ve had or your wife/girlfriend did for you that really stood out? What do men like? What’s the perfect birthday plan for you?

My husband is a believer, I believe he has strong faith … but no desire to actually have a relationship with God. He has a strong reverence for the Lord and definitely has a desire to raise our child in the ways of the Lord but I don’t think he prays, and if he does it’s rare or only at church. And he never expresses a desire to read the Bible with me or on his own. I admit this is devastating to me, I want to seek The Lord together. I have expressed this to him in the past but I think I was too pushy and controlling so we decided to pursue our own relationships with the Lord separately. But I’ve seen no growth in him…

Recently I’ve asked him if he would like to join me while I pray and do my Bible studies before bed, he agrees and we pray together and do our own separate Bible studies. It’s very nice, until I realized I am the only one who initiates, he never suggests we pray or read the Bible. This is very discouraging. I feel like I’m forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to do. Because if he really wanted to do it wouldn’t he also be initiating or suggesting we pray/read?

I know the answer is to pray, and trust me I’ve been praying for years now. My faith is in God, and I believe he can do anything, but my fear is what if my husband simply doesn’t want a deep relationship with him, isn’t that his free will?

Am I being too harsh on him? What can I do?