u/lilghostlilghost

I used to be a stripper and a pretty good pole dancer, but it’s been years since I was dancing, and now that I’m trying to get back into pole dance I feel like I’m starting from scratch with everything! Does anybody have some good online Pole programs/classes? I really thought I would have more muscle memory than this.

I see so many people craving friendship and love but aren’t willing to use refresh!

*à la Chani Nichols* Have courage! Expand your radius to everywhere! Open yourself up to the possibility that the people you’re looking for might be far but willing to travel! Make online friendships (aka build community) because you never know who you can meet through other people! Don’t give up!

As someone that successfully found friends and a lover it makes me sad that people aren’t using this incredible resource that will only be more successful if we use it. I know it’s exhausting but ime it’s better for CC friends and lovers than any other app. Yes, you might need to expand your radius to literally everywhere and yes you might have to expand your idea of what your “type” is and yes you will have to exercise your social skills but how lucky are we that an app made for us even exists? I have been begging for a mask 4 mask app since 2022 and now that it has been made my life is so much better for it.

If you haven’t gotten it yet what do you have to lose?

And if you are on it and haven’t met anyone yet consider 2 things:

1. Friends can be just as fulfilling as lovers in your life if you value people for who they are and how they treat you over whether you can have sex with them. Develop friendships while you search for more. You never know if friendship COULD turn into more or help you meet someone you would have never found yourself. Community begets community!!
2. People are breaking up all the time and that’s a good thing! How many stories have you heard of CC people with non CC partners? I have personally seen this story many times and more often than not those relationships end. More CC people become single and available all the time from either non CC partners or from CC relationships that just don’t work out, just like “regular” people. And just as many people are STARTING to become CC as there are CC people giving up on their precaution level (which, I argue, wouldn’t be happening as often as we see on this sub if people had more CC community) Your person might be out there but just not single….yet. Another reason to make platonic relationships without expectations while you wait for your timing to work out with someone (or maybe even for your own friends to lovers experience to unfold!)

I know this seems overly hopeful to many of you, but I also was once one of you, searching for friends and trying to find love. Keep your hope alive and don’t give up. Isn’t that all we’ve got?

EDIT:

I didn’t realize so many people didn’t even know about this! Refresh Connections is a phone app for Covid Cautious people available in some but not yet all countries.

I got my tubes removed and I was so happy about it but I keep having nightmares about being in a situation like those women that were made into human incubators because I still have my uterus. If I had known laparoscopic hysterectomies were an option I would have done that but my healthcare provider didn’t even bring it up. Ugh. Does anyone else feel this way?