u/liminalhuman

hey leute!

ich wohne gerade in bremen und hab vor kurzem eine phd-stelle in karlsruhe angeboten bekommen. jetzt fang ich langsam an, mich mit der stadt zu beschäftigen und hab ein paar fragen.

kurz zu mir: ich bin 26 und ursprünglich nicht aus deutschland. mein hauptgrund für den umzug ist die uni, deswegen weiß ich ehrlich gesagt noch nicht so richtig, was mich in karlsruhe erwartet. ein bisschen zu mir ... ich wandere echt gern, arbeite im bereich visuelles/medien/kunst (das ist auch mein fach) und ich reise total gern.

ein paar leute haben mir vorgeschlagen, dass ich vielleicht lieber nach freiburg ziehen und dann nach karlsruhe pendeln soll, weil ich eh nur ein bis zwei mal die woche an der uni sein muss. ist der unterschied zwischen den beiden städten wirklich so groß? würde pendeln sich lohnen oder ist das am ende mehr stress als es wert ist?

ich bin außerdem queer, deswegen würde mich interessieren, ob es eine gute queere szene und events gibt.

und jetzt zur eigentlichen frage, bei der ich am meisten hilfe brauche: welche viertel würdet ihr mir empfehlen? ich bin mir noch echt unsicher, teilweise hätte ich gern was lebendiges mit nem schönen viertel-feeling, aber irgendwas ruhigeres, das trotzdem nah an den lebendigeren ecken ist, wäre vielleicht auch nice. also wenn ihr konkrete ecken oder stadtteile im kopf habt, die zu meinem profil passen könnten, immer her damit!

hello all! I visited london last month and as a student from germany, the meal deal was basically my breakfast everyday :D besides the "deal" discount, I found most of the things quite expensive, specifically without club card. I kept thinking if this is something that is always there for every branch, or more of a thing for branches in very crowded areas (since I was mainly in these areas). because I really don't see such consumptional pattern in germany, and was wondering if this is a thing in the uk...

Hey people! So, I am starting B1.1 in a week with Deutschakademie (did anyone take their course btw, how is it?) semi-intensive course (2 days a week for 2 months, 3 hours a day). My plan is to switch to intensive for B1.2, so in 3 months I can technically finish B1 course. Then I will start B2 intensive or semi-intensive directly. So from now, in 5-7 months I aim to finish both B1 and B2 classes. That doesn't mean I will be truly B1 or B2 but this is why I am here. I want to know what else I can do next do these classes that will help me, besides the homeworks, etc. I mean I know there are classics like: watch stuff in German, listen German audio etc. but I already do them. I was wondering if there are some things that worked for you, and some tips that will help with the course in general. For example, for speaking practice, I wish to have a private speaking partner but I don't have such budget, any services that will help with that, etc.? Thanks for reading! ^^

I had a really solid sleep routine for a long time. Headspace every night, same sleep meditation, lights off, done. It worked.

Then I got into podcasts at bedtime and things started to slip. Not in a dramatic way, I'd just spend longer scrolling around trying to pick something, settle on one, and fall asleep eventually. The problem is I can't sleep to anything, most podcasts don't work for me, and finding the right one became its own little task every night.

Now I'm in a stressful work stretch (deadline in about 3 weeks) and something has shifted. My sleep quality is actually okay. The issue is everything before sleep. Every evening I feel this low-grade dread, like "ugh, the day is ending, what did I even do today, what about tomorrow," and sleep has stopped being something I look forward to. It's just a thing I have to do. I turn off the light because I'm supposed to, not because I want to.

The annoying part is I know part of the answer: go back to the same boring Headspace meditation every night, kill the decision fatigue, stop treating bedtime like a content selection problem. But then another part of me resists it — I like having space for my own thoughts and imagination before I drift off, and a voice in my ear blocks that. So I'll sometimes put on rain sounds instead, which lets me think but also lets the spiraling in.

So it's this weird loop: structured audio kills my anxiety but also kills my mental space. No audio gives me my mental space but lets the anxiety in. Decision-making about which one is itself part of the problem.

Has anyone been through something like this? Especially the bit where sleep stops feeling like a reward and starts feeling like an obligation. How did you get back to actually wanting to go to bed?