pls help!!
aoa guys, i really really need some honest perspective on this bcs im feeling super embarrassed and conflicted right now.
i met this guy back in feb and we clicked really well. we both agreed early on to keep things serious and involve our families while getting to know each other. a couple months in, he told his parents, and eventually our dads spoke on the phone.
on my end, it took A LOTTT of effort to convince my dad. i basically had to reassure him endlessly about this guy's character and religious values. after weeks of me doing all this heavy lifting, my dad finally agreed to meet him in person, and that went fine(alhumdulilah)
now, his parents are supposed to come over to my place in a few weeks. but out of nowhere, he tells me that his mom specified this is NOT a formal rishta visit. its just a casual meetup to "see how we are," and they’ll decide afterwards if our families "click" enough to move forward.
to make it worse, he randomly mentioned that he’s basically having to force his mom to come.
that made me feel so small and embarrassed for my family. i put my reputation on the line with my dad to get him onboard for something serious, and now it feels like my family is about to host people who had to be dragged here just to audit us. the thought of my parents putting in all this effort just for his mom to decide she "doesn't vibe" with us later makes me sick to my stomach.
what do i do lol