u/livingwell1332

I had a platonic friendship with a girl for over 4 years. She has abandoned the friendship for weeks-months repeatedly. Otherwise, we talk 24/7 (literally expects me to call her while I’m at work.) Last year, for example, she left for 2 months when I told her I was having a bad day and asked why she didn’t get back to me for hours.

In April, she randomly stopped messaging me. Her last text was “can we talk a ton today pleaseeeee.” Then vanished for 5 weeks (besides one intermediate text saying she was busy). She called me out of the blue. I expressed that it hurt she did this, to which she replied, “it’s scary you were upset at me. Friends just drift apart, so promise me you won’t get angry.” Within minutes, she was back to saying I’m the best and asked what she’d do without me. She said it was awful not talking to me.

For the next 2 weeks, we’d talk daily for hours on end. (I was on a trip seeing family so couldn’t hang out.) When I didn’t answer her calls she’d say, “Sad!! Can we please at least text??” She’d laugh so hard and enjoy. She kept saying, “it’s just so nice and calm talking to you.”

Then, suddenly, she stops replying for 2 days. She calls me out of the blue late at night 4 times. I call back shortly after. She said, “Hi, I was sleeping.” I offered to call back tomorrow, to which she said, “Oh, you gotta go? Sounds like you’re busy.” I said, “No, I’m free let’s talk for 10 min.” I asked where she’d been, and she said she was with friends and family. I asked what she was up to the next day. She said she was going on vacation. When I asked where to, she said, “just kidding!” She then said she was getting fat. When I said no she isn’t, she said, “but you haven’t seen me in months.” She then said, “I hope you have a good life.” I replied, “I hope you have the best life.” She said “L-o-l.” I said, “ok have a nice rest.” She said “bye.” I said “goodnight.” She said, “no, goodbye forever.” I didn’t say anything and she then said, “why aren’t you hanging up?” I said, “ok bye.”

It’s been several weeks now. She didn’t acknowledge my birthday text (or the gift card I sent to her.) I can’t help but to feel this my fault. I have no idea what to do. This girl is on my mind all the time— I’m worried about her.

If anybody has advice, please help. Thank you!

I had a platonic friendship with a girl for over 4 years. She has abandoned the friendship for weeks-months repeatedly. Otherwise, we talk 24/7 (literally expects me to call her while I’m at work.) Last year, for example, she left for 2 months when I told her I was having a bad day and asked why she didn’t get back to me for hours.

In April, she randomly stopped messaging me. Her last text was “can we talk a ton today pleaseeeee.” Then vanished for 5 weeks (besides one intermediate text saying she was busy). She called me out of the blue. I expressed that it hurt she did this, to which she replied, “it’s scary you were upset at me. Friends just drift apart, so promise me you won’t get angry.” Within minutes, she was back to saying I’m the best and asked what she’d do without me. She said it was awful not talking to me.

For the next 2 weeks, we’d talk daily for hours on end. (I was on a trip seeing family so couldn’t hang out.) When I didn’t answer her calls she’d say, “Sad!! Can we please at least text??” She’d laugh so hard and enjoy. She kept saying, “it’s just so nice and calm talking to you.”

Then, suddenly, she stops replying for 2 days. She calls me out of the blue late at night 4 times. I call back shortly after. She said, “Hi, I was sleeping.” I offered to call back tomorrow, to which she said, “Oh, you gotta go? Sounds like you’re busy.” I said, “No, I’m free let’s talk for 10 min.” I asked where she’d been, and she said she was with friends and family. I asked what she was up to the next day. She said she was going on vacation. When I asked where to, she said, “just kidding!” She then said she was getting fat. When I said no she isn’t, she said, “but you haven’t seen me in months.” She then said, “I hope you have a good life.” I replied, “I hope you have the best life.” She said “L-o-l.” I said, “ok have a nice rest.” She said “bye.” I said “goodnight.” She said, “no, goodbye forever.” I didn’t say anything and she then said, “why aren’t you hanging up?” I said, “ok bye.”

It’s been several weeks now. She didn’t acknowledge my birthday text (or the gift card I sent to her.) I can’t help but to feel this my fault. I have no idea what to do. This girl is on my mind all the time— I’m worried about her.

If anybody has advice, please help. Thank you!

I had a platonic friendship with a girl for over 4 years. She has abandoned the friendship for weeks-months repeatedly. Otherwise, we talk 24/7 (literally expects me to call her while I’m at work.) Last year, for example, she left for 2 months when I told her I was having a bad day and asked why she didn’t get back to me for hours.

In April, she randomly stopped messaging me. Her last text was “can we talk a ton today pleaseeeee.” Then vanished for 5 weeks (besides one intermediate text saying she was busy). She called me out of the blue. I expressed that it hurt she did this, to which she replied, “it’s scary you were upset at me. Friends just drift apart, so promise me you won’t get angry.” Within minutes, she was back to saying I’m the best and asked what she’d do without me. She said it was awful not talking to me.

For the next 2 weeks, we’d talk daily for hours on end. (I was on a trip seeing family so couldn’t hang out.) When I didn’t answer her calls she’d say, “Sad!! Can we please at least text??” She’d laugh so hard and enjoy. She kept saying, “it’s just so nice and calm talking to you.”

Then, suddenly, she stops replying for 2 days. She calls me out of the blue late at night 4 times. I call back shortly after. She said, “Hi, I was sleeping.” I offered to call back tomorrow, to which she said, “Oh, you gotta go? Sounds like you’re busy.” I said, “No, I’m free let’s talk for 10 min.” I asked where she’d been, and she said she was with friends and family. I asked what she was up to the next day. She said she was going on vacation. When I asked where to, she said, “just kidding!” She then said she was getting fat. When I said no she isn’t, she said, “but you haven’t seen me in months.” She then said, “I hope you have a good life.” I replied, “I hope you have the best life.” She said “L-o-l.” I said, “ok have a nice rest.” She said “bye.” I said “goodnight.” She said, “no, goodbye forever.” I didn’t say anything and she then said, “why aren’t you hanging up?” I said, “ok bye.”

It’s been several weeks now. She didn’t acknowledge my birthday text (or the gift card I sent to her.) I can’t help but to feel this my fault. I have no idea what to do. This girl is on my mind all the time— I’m worried about her.

If anybody has advice, please help. Thank you!