u/luseauh

I've realised the past year that the idea of having children is so extremely scary for me. I realise that it all stems due to my ADHD and my possibly undiagnosed autism (not trying to self diagnose btw!! It's hard to get diagnosed in the UK as an adult, it's a 2 year+ waiting list💔).

I realise I'm too scared to cope with the workload that comes with having kids, the crying, the taking care of someone 24/7 just scares me a lot and I know I won't be able to handle it.

I'm unmedicated so I wonder if I got medicated would it help? It's hard for me to accept this as I do want kids but my fear of being too incompetent to raise them scares me and I'm worried I'll resent them.

The only way I can imagine I would be able to have them is if I have a lot of help from family and I mean a LOT.

I'm not asking for anyone to talk me into having kids or not having them but I'm asking if anyone has faced a similar realisation and how they've dealt with it. How do I deal with this?

I've realised the past year that the idea of having children is so extremely scary for me. I realise that it all stems due to my ADHD and my possibly undiagnosed autism (not trying to self diagnose btw!! It's hard to get diagnosed in the UK as an adult, it's a 2 year+ waiting list💔).

I realise I'm too scared to cope with the workload that comes with having kids, the crying, the taking care of someone 24/7 just scares me a lot and I know I won't be able to handle it.

I'm unmedicated so I wonder if I got medicated would it help? It's hard for me to accept this as I do want kids but my fear of being too incompetent to raise them scares me and I'm worried I'll resent them.

The only way I can imagine I would be able to have them is if I have a lot of help from family and I mean a LOT.

I'm not asking for anyone to talk me into having kids or not having them but I'm asking if anyone has faced a similar realisation and how they've dealt with it. How do I deal with this?

Edit:typos

Assalamu alaykum!!

For some context I'm a revert and I'm going to a wedding of a family member, I can't wear the hijab there as not everyone knows I'm Muslim yet but I want to dress as modest as possible even though my hair will be showing🥲

If anyone knows of any long sleeve dresses which are not tight on the waist or arms or anywhere then let me know please.

For some context I'm a UK4/6 and abaya size 50/52

Edit: I can't get something like an abaya or a very obvious islamic website because my mum will be asking to see the dress first and she's paying for it so🫠 also no shein please!! I don't support companies like that