u/luziscdcorner

I meet people online regularly. Mostly guys. And it’s the same every damn time. We chat, I find them nice, they are just out for sexting. I do it anyways. Almost never because I want to, but rather because they want to and I don’t want to disappoint them. It means nothing to me in most cases, yet when they stop caring about me (which always happens), I am extremely sad and kind of panic and I don’t know why. How do I stop myself from giving into these things that make me feel horrible, disgusting and frustrated afterwards? I want to (someday) find a real relationship with someone I love, not these brief flings anymoregg

I had a phase - about 5-6 years ago where I read actively. Since then, I pretty much ditched this hobby, initially because I hadn’t found any books that interested me, later because I just stopped enjoying it. Nowadays I am pretty much addicted to cheap dopamine like my phone and have trouble reading. But that is also partly because I just can’t find anything that holds my attention. If the first 20 pages aren’t already great, I lose motivation and interest and fall into another reading slump.
Recently, I thought I’d give Frankenstein a try because the story caught my attention when watching the new Frankenstein movie. After having a hard time with the language and not really understanding the purpose of the first \~10 pages I just gave up. It’s frustrating because a) I invested money in this book and b) I just feel stupid as soon as I have trouble understanding stuff.

So my question here is: how do I actually get back into reading? At the moment, I’m considering reading Pride and Prejudice because a friend had recommended it to me a while ago but at this point I’m just scared of running into the same issues as before. But at the same time, just because I consume cheap dopamine doesn’t mean that I want the books I read to be some low-level stuff. I **want** to read actually great literature but at this point I just feel extremely discouraged to do so.

i’ve been considering finally getting a pet snake for a while now, but theres one thing i’m unsure about. should a get a juvenile snake or a grown adult? what would experienced snake owners recommend to a first time owner?

does anyone on here have experience with little ouchies pain stim tools? and i don’t mean any of the rip-off amazon brands but the real ones. if so, did it help you? i have a pretty bad habit of skin picking and really want to try them out!