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I am a vers top, I like to btm however for quite a while I am dealing with recurring bleeding/pain after sex — proctologist said everything is “normal”?

This has been driving me crazy for over a year.

I often get bleeding from my hole during sex and sometimes during bowel movements too.

The weird thing is that it usually doesn’t hurt much during sex itself, but there’s often blood, especially close to orgasm. Sometimes enough that it’s awkward for the top.

After sex (or cleaning out beforehand)I very often get a mild burning/splitting sensation around the hole. Not
severe pain, more like irritation or the feeling of tiny tear.

Visually everything looks mostly normal except maybe a tiny fissure. I can also feel a very small bump just inside the hole, like maybe 1/4 the size of a pea.

I went to a proctologist 1 year ago, and had a full exam done last year and he basically said nothing was abnormal.

But clearly SOMETHING is going on because I don’t think regular bleeding and irritation after bottoming is normal.

Has anyone dealt with this sort of issue before?

And most importantly — how did you fix it?

I really want to bottom more comfortably without constantly worrying about the slight splitting pain or blood afterward.

I am visiting Athens, I love the traditional soup AVGOLEMONO’ and make it often at home

I thought it would be fun to try it in a restaurant, any ideas where I can find the best one?

I am travelling is Athens, I got a message from a hot guy on Grindr, we start chatting and exchanging pics.

I re-read his profile which said in the description “apologies but not into Asians (you are still great people.” It immediately put me off.

I’m curious how other people see this?

Do you think statements like that on dating apps are racist, unnecessarily exclusionary, or just people being upfront about preferences?

For context, I myself am white.