u/madmad011

So about 3 weeks back… my husband and I (married for 12 years) were in our room and I asked him what we should plan to wear for his cousins party. I said I should get new shoes and he said… what do you think you are? Some trophy wife? You need to work for what you have. I was so dumbfounded I didn’t say anything for a bit. He continued to say I wasn’t and started to laugh and then hugged me and started trying to kiss me while saying I need a nose job(a huge insecurity for me) and maybe a whole new face. I was so confused as to why that happened. I walked out the room, mostly because I didn’t want to cry. I brought it up the next day and he said he was joking and it wasn’t a big deal and he thought we were joking .. I asked him to explain how we were joking because all I did was say I needed new shoes. Anyways it’s been 3 weeks and it’s messing with me. We have 3 kids and every time I try to get ready and look nice I look at myself in the mirror and state as he said. You’re just a medal not a trophy..

Why was he so mean. I don’t get it. He’s never been that sort of mean to me. Sorry I just needed to vent.