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I struggle a lot with needing people, especially close friends/family, to be okay with me before I can feel okay myself.

If someone might be angry, disappointed, misunderstand me, or dislike something I did, I can’t seem to let it go. I feel like I have to fix the situation or get reassurance before I can focus on anything else.

Some examples:

I’m afraid to open WhatsApp/email from people important to me because it might be bad news. I’m very afraid of people being angry with me. I often want other people to make decisions for me so I know I’m choosing “correctly.” I constantly second-guess how I communicate: “What if they misunderstand? What if they’re upset?” When I’m waiting for someone’s response, it feels like the whole thing is hanging over my heart.

It feels like I’m walking on a floor full of broken glass whenever I’m dealing with relationships.

I know intellectually that I can’t control how people feel about me, but emotionally I feel like I need their acceptance/validation before I can feel okay.

Has anyone experienced this? How did you learn to tolerate people potentially being upset with you without needing to immediately fix it or get reassurance?

Basically the title. I find it very hard to focus on tasks that require me to sit down and have a lot of ambiguity e.g. coding, planning. I also lose my ability to be initiative, rather just relying on other people/being reactive.

All I want is to sleep just for a bit to refresh, but when I close my eyes the fear of losing time makes me unable to sleep at all. The guilt is too strong. Please help me. I cannot keep wasting days just because of this issue, especially on work days where people expect me to be an initiator and lead things and be creative.

It was hard to find something, but I landed a job to work as a .NET developer at a company that makes football simulation games, where I will be doing the backend side of it. I am gonna start in a few weeks, and I want to get a head start to make sure I don't lose this job. Does anyone ever work in this domain, and what sort of knowledge/skill do I need to succeed in such a position? What can I prepare now? I asked the person who gave me the work and they said to wait until the day I start

Anyone ever worked here before? What was your experience?

I'm currently a developer with about 5 YOE, and much of the time I am deep into figuring out the domain of the business I am currently working for, how to extend the software to fit the domain, etc. Many times the domain are very industry specific and thus the knowledge is not transferable for any jobs outside of the company. Yes I do also have to deploy to the cloud etc. but my time is spent more in the domain part.

I am looking at the other roles like Cloud or Platform, and it seems that their day to day (e.g. managing permissions in AWS, managing Terraform modules, etc.) are more generic skills that can be brought outside, if they want to find new roles. What they do daily is also getting involved in knowledge that makes it easier to get certifications with less studying time, etc.

Am I missing something here? The only thing with Cloud or Platform is that it is much more mission-critical and so with e.g. on-call it will get very stressful at times. The job is also a lot of unplanned work e.g. urgent requests and so it can be mentally taxing to context switch a lot

I'm currently a developer with about 5 YOE, and much of the time I am deep into figuring out the domain of the business I am currently working for, how to extend the software to fit the domain, etc. Many times the domain are very industry specific and thus the knowledge is not transferable for any jobs outside of the company. Yes I do also have to deploy to the cloud etc. but my time is spent more in the domain part.

I am looking at the other roles like Cloud or Platform, and it seems that their day to day (e.g. managing permissions in AWS, managing Terraform modules, etc.) are more generic skills that can be brought outside, if they want to find new roles. What they do daily is also getting involved in knowledge that makes it easier to get certifications with less studying time, etc.

Am I missing something here? The only thing with Cloud or Platform is that it is much more mission-critical and so with e.g. on-call it will get very stressful at times. The job is also a lot of unplanned work e.g. urgent requests and so it can be mentally taxing to context switch a lot

I'm currently a .NET Developer, and just got an offer to be a junior cloud/platform engineer. Seeing that coding is nowadays really mostly done by AI, I am really thinking of going this route since I feel that this role will hone me further in systems design thinking and things that AI won't easily replace, as opposed to traditional software engineering/software design and the like. I can focus on system design without being bogged down on code reviews, learning the domain, etc. I am also interested in networking, VPCs etc. too.

But the role, as well as cloud engineer roles in general, requires (the interviewer told me bluntly) frequent context switching during the day, and on call rotations. I had experiences doing on call before, and I could not handle it to be honest. I really am a person who needs to be able to focus on one task at a time (e.g. with focus time etc.) and not juggle between multiple high prio tasks.

So the dilemma is that I would like to stay employable in the future, but that means going into a role I am not mentally built for, and may instead crash out and burn out and not have a future at all.

I am really at a crossroads here. Does anyone have any advice for me?

I'm currently a .NET Developer, and just got an offer to be a junior cloud/platform engineer. Seeing that coding is nowadays really mostly done by AI, I am really thinking of going this route since I feel that this role will hone me further in systems design thinking and things that AI won't easily replace, as opposed to traditional software engineering/software design and the like. I can focus on system design without being bogged down on code reviews, learning the domain, etc. I am also interested in networking, VPCs etc. too.

But the role, as well as cloud engineer roles in general, requires (the interviewer told me bluntly) frequent context switching during the day, and on call rotations. I had experiences doing on call before, and I could not handle it to be honest. I really am a person who needs to be able to focus on one task at a time (e.g. with focus time etc.) and not juggle between multiple high prio tasks.

So the dilemma is that I would like to stay employable in the future, but that means going into a role I am not mentally built for, and may instead crash out and burn out and not have a future at all.

I am really at a crossroads here. Does anyone have any advice for me?

I'm currently a .NET Developer, and just got an offer to be a junior cloud/platform engineer. Seeing that coding is nowadays really mostly done by AI, I am really thinking of going this route since I feel that this role will hone me further in systems design thinking and things that AI won't easily replace, as opposed to traditional software engineering/software design and the like. I can focus on system design without being bogged down on code reviews, learning the domain, etc. I am also interested in networking, VPCs etc. too.

But the role, as well as cloud engineer roles in general, requires (the interviewer told me bluntly) frequent context switching during the day, and on call rotations. I had experiences doing on call before, and I could not handle it to be honest. I really am a person who needs to be able to focus on one task at a time (e.g. with focus time etc.) and not juggle between multiple high prio tasks.

So the dilemma is that I would like to stay employable in the future, but that means going into a role I am not mentally built for, and may instead crash out and burn out and not have a future at all.

I am really at a crossroads here. Does anyone have any advice for me?

Has anyone here ever worked at Miniclip as a game dev? I got an opportunity there but just to get anyone's experience and opinions :)

I am a fullstack dev for about 5 years now, and I got an offer to become a platform engineer. I am really considering this offer because I really see software dev positions being impacted by AI, and it feels to me platform engineering is less impacted.

But I am really a person that has difficulties with a lot of context switching, and yeah I had my fair share of on calls during my time (I also did some DevOps stuff) and it was not very nice. Would it be possible for me to change as a person, or is it really hard to do/achieve? In software eng I really like that I can have a predictable deadline, timeboxing/focus time, etc.

Really at a crossroads here. I want to be more AI proof, but it seems to do that I need to sacrifice myself. But then again life doesn't revolve around me? Has anyone changed their character before?

I have been a dev for some time now about 5 years, and my contract ended. I am looking for a new job. I had during my days also worked on DevOps stuff, like managing k8s helm charts and deployments, managing Jenkins pipelines, AWS CDK and CloudFormation etc. on top of doing software dev only.

Now I have 2 offers from different companies, one as .NET dev also working on apps deployed in AWS EKS, and the other as a cloud/platform engineer working with Azure, AWS and k8s. Compensation is roughly the same.

I am unsure now. On the one hand I like product dev and especially that I get to do focused work/deep thinking time without getting disturbed constantly by issues. For the platform role they cautioned me that there will be a lot of context switching since I will have to deal with such different workloads. Also with cloud engineering I feel there is less safety due to lack of automated tests like we have for software, like sure there are lintwrs etc. but in the end it relies more on manual testing in Development env. anf so there is more room for failure. Also there is the on call aspect which scares me a lot.

But on the other hand I see that with AI, I feel the competition down the line later will be much higher for software eng in comparison to platform eng, and it feels like a more safe career in the future. Also since I work multi cloud I can be eligible for more jpbs. Whereas with .NET I will be pigeonholed with only .NET jobs.

What do you guys think? Any opinions? I am leaning a bit towards the platform side, but I am not sure I fit mentally as the job requires more context switch, more uncertainty and on-call aspects

Als je part-time (36 hrs per week) in de IT werkt (bijvoorbeeld als software-engineer of platform engineer), heb je dan in je ervaring echt alleen een werkweek van 36 uur? In mijn ervaring werkte ik 40 uur per week, maar soms moest ik toch tot 'snachts of langer blijven vanwege deadlines, productie-omgeving problemen, enzovoort. Die extra uren werden dan niet betaald. Ook gebeurde het regelmatig dat ik in het weekend nog bezig was om deadlines te halen.

Daarom twijfel ik over parttime werken. Ik ben bang dat ik bij een 36-urige werkweek uiteindelijk dezelfde hoeveelheid werk en druk krijg als iemand die 40 uur werkt, maar dan voor een lager salaris. Vooral als ik een halve-dag constructie neemt (b.v. Vrijdag 'smidags vrij).

Want werken in de IT is volgens mij een beetje anders dan andere banen (zoals horeca of machinist of verpleegkunde), omdat de werktijden daar vaak beter voorspelbaar zijn.

I got 5 YOE as a fullstack engineer, and some of those years I dabbled a lot with DevOps tasks (e.g. k8s, AWS deployments). I am looking for work, and I got an offer as a Platform Engineer and also a C# Developer (with different companies).

I am asking specially for the future; in your opinions, will software engineers be more affected by AI in comparison to platform engineers? Since it seems to me you need more platform engineers in order to run increasing AI workloads and since they are more critical, then it will be less impacted by AI. In addition, I feel like it is easier to get jobs as a platform engineer in comparison to software engineers, by collecting certifications and be a good expert with a vendor (e.g. AWS, Azure, k8s, etc.)

But what worries me with platform engineering is the on-call rotation; I have to do 1 week rotations. I had really bad experiences with on-call to be honest (during my days dabbling with DevOps). The manager for this position also said that there will be a lot of context switching even during normal days and so deep focus work would be less possible (compared to a software engineer).

I am also someone who is not really good with puzzle solving or logical thinking, my software dev experience has been mostly implementing simpler features and less abstract things.

What do you guys think, especially seeing the trend? No one has a crystal ball obviously, but just wanna hear your thoughts.

I have about 5 years of exp. as a software engineer. I did a lot of things with lots of different programming languages. I also did more devops stuff during some years, for example handling k8s helm deployments, maintaining the k8s environment, while also doing the development of the software itself, together with a team of course. Where my interest lies, I chase it and own it.

My contract ended, and now I have an offer from another company to be in their Platform team.

When I reflect at my life, I am actually struggling quite a lot in the problem solving/logic, or design, of software writing. For example, I am struggling if I am asked to write an algorithm for a feature, especially if the domain is complex or difficult to understand. I feel like I excel more in stuff like performance improvements or the features of the language e.g. using async await, optimizing queries to the database etc. But when it comes to low-code design, I cannot design/choose e.g. the appropriate model classes to model the domain, etc. I try to follow Clean Architecture etc. but the result becomes very over-engineered that as the software grows with more requests, in the end it became spaghetti code again.

When I got my jobs previously it was super lucky because the interviewers were super nice people who wanted to accommodate my mistakes, or it was just with the HR rep and a coding multiple choice quiz, but I know deep inside me I struggle with the problem solving/puzzle part itself. I also got lucky to be in teams where I basically implement a use case or a spec that is already clear (like pseudocode is already done), and so I just need to think of the edge cases and optimizing queries.

Finding a job as a software dev has been very tough. Many require not just the problem solving skills I mentioned, but also advanced deployment knowledge, etc. Also they test you on system design, SQL, Lambdas/Azure functions, aspects that perhaps you won't be daily exposed to in your daily work, since you would be drowning in solving the domain itself.

In contrast, with DevOps/Platform engineer tasks, I feel like it's less 'creative' and more scoped? Like there is less possible ways of achieving something since you would follow what the vendor (e.g. AWS, k8s etc.) recommends? And since you are not so involved in the domain, what you do daily translates well to what interviewers want to see, so there is less preparation needed when you need to find a new job. Like for example, my experience with debugging networking issues or writing Helm templates and the stories around it were relatable to the interviewer and that's how I got the job. But with software interviews, I need to prepare a lot more outside of what I have done in my previous job i.e. what I did does not easily translate to helping in interviews. I also like scripting more than designing software to be honest.

But one big downside with platform engineer is obviously being on call and the stress that comes with it...

I am also looking at the future as well, with AI automating more software engineering tasks. I feel like Platform Engineers/DevOps engineers are less impacted by it.

Does anyone have any thoughts? Maybe I am wrong in some parts

I have about 5 years of exp. as a software engineer. I did a lot of things with lots of different programming languages. I also did more devops stuff during some years, for example handling k8s helm deployments, maintaining the k8s environment, while also doing the development of the software itself, together with a team of course. Where my interest lies, I chase it and own it.

My contract ended, and now I have an offer from another company to be in their Platform team.

When I reflect at my life, I am actually struggling quite a lot in the problem solving/logic, or design, of software writing. For example, I am struggling if I am asked to write an algorithm for a feature, especially if the domain is complex or difficult to understand. I feel like I excel more in stuff like performance improvements or the features of the language e.g. using async await, optimizing queries to the database etc. But when it comes to low-code design, I cannot design/choose e.g. the appropriate model classes to model the domain, etc. I try to follow Clean Architecture etc. but the result becomes very over-engineered that as the software grows with more requests, in the end it became spaghetti code again.

When I got my jobs previously it was super lucky because the interviewers were super nice people who wanted to accommodate my mistakes, or it was just with the HR rep and a coding multiple choice quiz, but I know deep inside me I struggle with the problem solving/puzzle part itself. I also got lucky to be in teams where I basically implement a use case or a spec that is already clear (like pseudocode is already done), and so I just need to think of the edge cases and optimizing queries.

Finding a job as a software dev has been very tough. Many require not just the problem solving skills I mentioned, but also advanced deployment knowledge, etc. Also they test you on system design, SQL, Lambdas/Azure functions, aspects that perhaps you won't be daily exposed to in your daily work, since you would be drowning in solving the domain itself.

In contrast, with DevOps/Platform engineer tasks, I feel like it's less 'creative' and more scoped? Like there is less possible ways of achieving something since you would follow what the vendor (e.g. AWS, k8s etc.) recommends? And since you are not so involved in the domain, what you do daily translates well to what interviewers want to see, so there is less preparation needed when you need to find a new job. Like for example, my experience with debugging networking issues or writing Helm templates and the stories around it were relatable to the interviewer and that's how I got the job. But with software interviews, I need to prepare a lot more outside of what I have done in my previous job i.e. what I did does not easily translate to helping in interviews. I also like scripting more than designing software to be honest.

But one big downside with platform engineer is obviously being on call and the stress that comes with it...

I am also looking at the future as well, with AI automating more software engineering tasks. I feel like Platform Engineers/DevOps engineers are less impacted by it.

Does anyone have any thoughts? Maybe I am wrong in some parts

I find myself able to I think understand the whole idea of a conversation, since I do get the big picture. However I cannot seem to repeat what was said word per word. This makes me unable to catch perhaps hidden crucial details that are said but perhaps was said too fast.

How do you fix this? Currently I try to listen to a sentence, stop and try to repeat the sentence word for word. But what are your approaches to this?

I am in B1 and now going to B2, and following a class by NedLes for the Derde Ronde; I only did the intro les and not yet a full lesson. I try to follow the recommended way (read the text and understand it, then listen sentence by sentence, and then listen without reading), and try to do the exercises, but I feel like I am not doing it correct. What do you guys do to get the most out of it? I try to answer all the questions about the text, but yeah I am not sure if my answer is grammatically correct and so I feel lost on whether I am doing it the right way. Do you have tips and tricks that helped you to get more out of it?

And my issue is also that the spoken text is too slow, feels to me I can get most of it correct in first go.

If let's say I have a class like

public class Test 
{
    public string Test;
    public string Test2;

    public test(string test, string test2)
    {
        Test=test;
        Test2=test2;
    }
}

Then I have a unit test like (pseudo code)

var x = new Test("a", "b");
Assert.Equal("a", x.Test);
Assert.Equal("b", x.Test2);

Is this test actually meaningful/useful in any way? I feel like this is testing C# itself than the code. It would be different if there is a guard against the value of the property e.g. test cannot be equal to testing for example, but that is not the case here.