u/matchabinaki

problem/goal: hooked up with this guy from reddit and i found out he has a gf.

context: first part was posted here na sub find it nalang kasi no links allowed.

this happened some weeks ago, but i decided to post this now bc i know the people here are nosy lol and some were asking for an update.

but yes, of course i told the girlfriend. she deserves to know and she deserves better. i was just hesitant because i didn't want to get involved in another couple's issues and he knew where i lived bc he'd pick me up (lol don't make that mistake girls).

fortunately for me, she listened to what i had to say when i explained everything and she didn't blame me or anything. i used a dump account and showed her all the screenshots of our convo. she reassured me that her anger and resentment was directed towards the guy and she appreciated me telling her because apparently, she found out din a few days before i messaged her, na someone was messaging her bf sa tg (not me, another girl) and she confronted him about it when she saw their intimate convo.

she also knew that he would hook up with other girls from reddit, which was ironic daw for her since they also met thru reddit a year ago. i know i wasn't in a position to give her advice but i told her, girl to girl, not to get back with him bc he's a piece of shit and she should also get tested just in case. again, she told me she was grateful i reached out to her and tbh i hope she heals from this and get as far away from him as possible. :')

Problem/Goal: Met this guy here on reddit, we hooked up and we've been messaging each other for weeks now. I recently found out he has a gf and I want to tell her that her bf has been cheating on her. Or should I?

Context: Posted on a NSFW r4r sub and this guy replied to it. We move the conversation to Telegram and we hit it off. That same night, he picked me up and we hooked up in his car. It was supposed to be a one time thing but I messaged him a week later, and he responded. Same scenario happened. We've been messaging occasionally sa tg and he calls me "baby" pa nga.

His FB profile was featured in my suggestions today (we're from the same school but I'm in Medicine and he's graduating this year) and naka link doon yung IG acc niya. Private yung acc but in his bio was the account of his girlfriend. Her account is public and I saw her posts about them being together, her latest post was on January 9 for their anniversary and it was so obvious through her captions that she was or is a girl in love. I had no idea and I realized I should have done a more thorough background check.

Telling her would be the right thing and I want to do it, but a part of me doesn't want to get involve in their lover's spat after and I definitely don't want to argue with the girl incase she makes me the villain in their love story 😭 like we all know some gfs attack the "other woman" instead of their cheating bfs.

My friends don't know I've been hooking up and talking to this guy, so I'm here asking strangers who might have had the same experience as me 😭

Previous Attempts: I've already drafted a message to send to her IG using a dump account but I'm still unsure whether or not I should send it because she might not read it din or she might not believe me.

Edits: Added more details and corrected grammar.

just looking for a companion to pre-game for the night as I wait for my (very dugayan) friends later. if naa ka car/motor pls come pick me up haha