u/mcherry-24

Hi all. So my partner and I got pregnant last November of 2025. We hadn’t even been together a full year at that point, but almost.

Once we found out our baby had DiGeorge Syndrome, we chose to terminate. I could not bare the feeling of my baby suffering at all through the countless medical problems and heart issues. His ultrasound at 14w showed multiple heart markers..
When I found out, I told my partner and his initial response was that we need to TFMR. I wasn’t completely on board immediately, but everything happened so quickly and I agreed to it.. I did not want my baby to suffer, I truly believed TFMR was the best option for our baby and us. I believed everything my partner said and and agreed with him, that our baby does not deserve to suffer.

After a few weeks I became guilty, and wishing I would not have made that decision. To make matters worse, my partner has now decided he didn’t want to try for another. He says we met each other and didn’t take the time to truly get to know each other and got pregnant on a whim. (Our pregnancy was not planned, but not prevented either) I just genuinely thought I was infertile due to pcos.

We TFMR in February, it’s now August, and he still doesn’t want to try again. He doesn’t think we are far enough in life and is just always paranoid about money and other things. I understand his point and I do agree but another part of me knows I cannot wait, I’m 27 and I really just wish I would have already had a baby in my arms.

Has anyone dealt with this? TFMR but partner didn’t want another after the fact?

To me, it feels like false hope. I just feel so broken and disgusted with myself for allowing it. I feel guilty for wanting another baby that’s healthy after we terminated due to medical reasons. He also has not gotten tested to see if he had the gene that our baby had… I’m just so lost. They say it was very likely that it was a random case, but I got tested immediately to make sure . He still hasn’t.

Please do not be rude. I’m already so harsh on myself and I just want words of encouraging advice or those who have experienced this. I love this man so much and just wish things happened differently.

First off, I accepted everything I was offered, because I still have no idea how much my schooling is going to cost. I’m beyond frustrated and confused. May sound stupid but it’s my first time dealing with financial aid. How do I even find out how much my schooling is going to be? What if I accepted more than I will need? Also, I accepted all my offers, and completed the MPN, but I still don’t see anything in my “loans” on FAFSA. I don’t start until August 24.

Someone please help.. yes I’ve been emailing my financial aid office but I’m still overly confused. 😕😭🤦‍♀️

Thank you!

I (26F) am completely ready and want to start asap. We had one pregnancy this past year and sadly had a loss at 18w in February 2026.
I wanted to start trying asap but my partner is just not on the same page. He doesn’t even want to live in the state we currently are in. I’m starting to think we may not be compatible and we both want different things. I love him very much but I imagined myself to have babies by now, and every time he tells me no, not yet, my heart breaks inside and I question if we are even meant to be.

I have my own place, he stays in a place that his work pays for. Good jobs, and I constantly ask him for us to get a place together and he declines since he doesn’t have to pay a dime for where he lives currently.

He ultimately wants me to move back with him to his home state, and I just don’t think I want to. At one point I was willing. But after everything we’ve been through I am starting to despise him for telling me no to “trying”.

Any advice? I really do love him, but I don’t know I can wait any longer. I know if I were to restart and meet someone new, it would still be time before kids came into the picture.

But after my loss, I just want to so desperately be a mother. I’m at a loss.

Please no rude comments as I’m already so emotional.