u/menabihehe

I’m 25, and recently I have been wondering whether I am actually interested in polyamory.

First of all, I’m not looking for relationship or dating advice here, but what I’m more interested in hearing is whether what I'm thinking is on the right track or other people’s experiences with realizing they might be interested in polyamory.

Two men have been on my mind constantly these days, and I'm having sexual dreams about them, and on top of that, they are my colleagues, and both men are good friends with each other.

One is 6–7 years older, bisexual, and recently left the job and knows I’m sapiosexual and have certain kinks, and for a while he gave me some signs that made me wonder if he was interested in me, although I could have misread them. The other is 2–3 years younger, still works with me, and as far as I know, he is straight and yeah, he definitely doesn't like me like he just ignores me most of the time.

I don't know why, but I have been imagining the three of us together and having sex or I'm jacking off thinking about these two every day.

That made me wonder if I am genuinely interested in polyamory, or if I am simply very attracted to these two men, or if I like seeing both making out with each other.

So, if anyone could genuinely help me to understand what this is all about, it would help me out a lot.

You have to choose ONE ML to come save you.

Choose wisely because apparently your life depends on it. 😂

Who are you trusting and WHY?

And yes, I need actual reasoning. “Because he’s hot” is technically valid, but I will be judging you.

Okay so I just saw a post a while ago where they wanted rec on a BL manhwa where the MC pretends to like/love the ML for some benefit, revenge, or secret reason, planning to leave him after a while but ends up falling deeply in love for real instead.

I can't find that post anywhere now, and also I wanted more recs, so I'm hoping someone here knows it or can suggest similar ones!

Looking for:

• Manhwa (manga/manhua okay too)
• MC has a hidden agenda (revenge, benefit, secret) for getting close to ML
• MC plans to leave eventually but falls in love genuinely
• Bonus if it's funny/interesting along the way, and extra bonus if it makes me cry but ends happy

Please recommend me something that will make me cry but still have a happy ending!

Love and Thanks in advance!

Every day someone asks this community to identify a BL from three blurry memories and a dream... and somehow we still find it.

So let's make it harder.

Describe a BL as terribly and as misleadingly as possible (without completely lying) and let everyone else guess the title.

Guess this one..........

Hi, I'm a government officer whose entire career consists of getting sent into forests, mountains, caves, and the ocean to beat up anything that isn't human.

Every mission starts with, "Go eliminate the dangerous creature," and somehow ends with the dangerous creature trying to get into my pants instead.

My village thinks I'm their greatest hero. The monsters think I'm... well... the one.

I just wanted to earn enough money to survive, but somehow "special services" keep getting added to my job description.

My boss pays me in giant golden eggs... the more I manage to shove them down a certain hole, the bigger the payday.

At this point, I'm less of a warrior and more of a government-funded dating service for lonely mythical creatures... and apparently my coworkers aren't much different.

(P.S. Feel free to post your own terrible descriptions. The more misleading but technically true the better.)

Hey everyone!

I recently finished reading Amber Alert after seeing it recommended here, and I ended up loving it way more than I expected. Now I've apparently unlocked a new obsession with age-gap romances. 😭

I'm looking for more stories with an age-gap dynamic, and I'm honestly open to any trope or vibe. It can be:

• Toxic or messy
• Soft and wholesome
• Angst-filled
• Slow burn
• Enemies to lovers
• Married couple
• Forbidden romance
• Anything in between

I don't mind whether it's a manhwa, manhua, manga, or webtoon. As long as the age-gap is a major part of the story and the plot is engaging, I'm in!

Please drop your best recommendations. Thanks and love in advance! 🫶

I'm looking for a Chinese BL manhua that I read around five years ago.

Here's what I remember:

• The ML (male lead) was fair-skinned with either white or blond hair.
• The MC (main character) had a darker/dusky complexion with black or possibly purple hair.
• I think they were already married when the story began.
• The ML disliked or even hated the MC for some reason and had a boyfriend.
• The MC was a musician (I'm not sure what kind).
• Eventually, the MC decided to leave the ML, and only after that did the ML realize he was in love with him.
• I also remember that the ML's boyfriend was using a fake identity, pretending to be the person the ML had a crush on when he was younger so basically the ML's boyfriend was deceiving him.

Does anyone know which manhua this might be?

Please don't judge me or think, "Is she okay?" because of my choice. I know it's probably not what most people would expect. 

So... if I had one chance to live in any Yaoi/Yuri manhwa, I would choose Pearl Boy, and I would be Jooha. I have my reasons for why this manhwa and why these characters, and I will explain them later.

Before that, though, I want to know your choice!

I love making discussion posts like this because I get to hear everyone's opinions and learn about their favorite manhwas. It's always fun to see how differently people connect with these stories, and I really enjoy talking with others who love them as much as I do.

So... I'm really curious to see everyone's answers! 💕

Ngl I never thought a BL manhwa could mess me up this bad like to the point where I'm genuinely concerned about the author's mental health, and I don't say that about creators lightly.

I have read and watched a lot of toxic/dark BL before but this one is different tbh....

I'm talking about Non-Zero Sum, I guess I dropped it last year because life got busy, so I recently came across it again and thought let's see where the storyline is now and honestly, I already knew how all the MLs had abused and raped the MC, so I didn't have much hope going in....but after reading it again... I was speechless tbh as It got even more toxic to bare now.

Usually with toxic BL you push through the angst because you are holding out for something redemption, a rescue, at least a satisfying revenge arc or a hope but this manhwa gives you none of that.

⚠️ SPOILERS BELOW ⚠️

Non-Zero Sum is basically a story about a friendship that falls apart, turning into this messed up game played in the name of love and concern between four friends. It's full of manipulation, fear, betrayal, assault, and trauma.

• Yoon Hae-won (The Target): Vulnerable, broke, and alone. His world shatters when his secrets are exposed. He loses all autonomy and enters a desperate survival mode.
• Go Tae-gyeom (The Blackmailer): Weaponizes Hae-won's secrets to blackmail and force him into a toxic, abusive relationship.
• Seo Hae-young (The Isolation): Responds to the truth with feelings of betrayal. He cuts Hae-won off, destroying his only emotional safety net.
• Joo Hyun-woo (The Predator): Weaponizes the remaining chaos. He manipulates an isolated Hae-won to strip away his last shred of control.

In short, the three male leads completely break Hae-won through blackmail, sexual assault, and mental torture.

Tae-gyeom and Hyun-woo are driven by lust and greed and they use Hae-won's secrets to force him into a toxic relationship, and lie that he wants it too. Hae-young, on the other hand, is a sociopath who can't really feel empathy and when he finds out Hae-won's secrets, he feels betrayed and angry, so he punishes him brutally for it.

Together, they break Hae-won's mind just to feed their own twisted need for control, all while pretending it's "love and concern."

And now, none of them want to let him go or share him and they just want to keep him to themselves so they can keep using him, there is no real love here as they just want to keep Hae-won trapped for their own selfish reasons.

Watching Haewon slowly internalize the abuse, watching his love curdle into pure fear until he just accepts this as his life... it stops feeling like a story and starts feeling like psychological torture to read.

And AFTER all that, Joo Hyunwoo tries to kidnap him and flee the country with him while he's still completely broken. Haewon somehow escapes all three of them and I was like "okay, it's finally over"...

...aaand then it says to be continued.

Like genuinely what more is left to put this poor man through 💀

Tell me why you love it, why you think so many people dislike it (or never gave it a chance), and what you'd say to convince someone to read it.

For me, it's Jinx. I know this is one of the most controversial BL manhwa out there, but I genuinely love it.

Before anyone comes for me, I hated Jaekyung's behavior at many points, but I don't think Jinx is just about abuse or toxicity like a lot of people make it out to be.

To me, it's the story of two broken people.

Dan is one of the most selfless protagonists I've read. He sacrifices everything for his grandmother and always puts others before himself, even when it hurts him.

Jaekyung hides behind a cold, ruthless image, but underneath he's just a lost person carrying a lot of trauma. That doesn't excuse his actions, but it explains why he became that way.

My favorite part was watching his slow character development. In the end, he wasn't chasing fame or titles anymore he just wanted Dan to be happy, even if it meant giving up everything.

I also loved the side characters, especially Dan's grandmother, team black and jk first coach. They saw the good in Jaekyung long before he saw it himself.

I completely understand why people dislike Jinx, and that's valid. But I think many people write it off as "just another toxic BL" without giving the story or the character growth a real chance.

(Please don't start a Jinx war😂 I just want to know what BL everyone else loves even though most people don't.)

Hi, I'm 25 (F)

I honestly don't know where else to talk about this, but I feel like this might be a safe place to get some outside perspectives.

Recently, I discovered something about myself, and I'm not sure how to process it. I've realized that the idea of being in an MMF triad relationship genuinely excites me. I don't really know why, but it's something I keep thinking about.

I also have a different perspective on love than most people. I don't believe love is always a forever story where you spend your entire life with one person. To me, love comes in different phases. You can fall in love with different people throughout your life, and you can even fall out of love with someone you once deeply cared about. Feelings aren't always constant, and I don't think they have to be.

Ever since I was a kid, I've had multiple crushes at the same time. At one point in my life, I was attracted to both men and women. Because of that, I've often wondered why someone should have to choose just one person if they genuinely have feelings for two.

Right now, I'm in a situation where I like two men at the same time, but for different reasons. Neither of them knows how I feel, and they're actually good friends with each other. I don't even think either of them likes me back, so the idea of a triad is really beside the point.

I'm confused about whether I should be honest with them about my feelings or just keep it to myself and move on. I also find myself constantly imagining different scenarios involving the two of them, and it's making me question whether this is just a fantasy or if it reflects the kind of relationships I actually want.

More than anything, I'm trying to understand myself. Is it normal to feel this way? Has anyone else realized they might not be wired for traditional monogamy, or found themselves genuinely liking two people at the same time? I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've experienced something similar.

Tell me why you love it, why you think so many people dislike it (or never gave it a chance), and what you'd say to convince someone to read it.

For me, it's Jinx. I know this is one of the most controversial BL manhwa out there, but I genuinely love it.

Before anyone comes for me, I hated Jaekyung's behavior at many points, but I don't think Jinx is just about abuse or toxicity like a lot of people make it out to be.

To me, it's the story of two broken people.

Dan is one of the most selfless protagonists I've read. He sacrifices everything for his grandmother and always puts others before himself, even when it hurts him.

Jaekyung hides behind a cold, ruthless image, but underneath he's just a lost person carrying a lot of trauma. That doesn't excuse his actions, but it explains why he became that way.

My favorite part was watching his slow character development. In the end, he wasn't chasing fame or titles anymore he just wanted Dan to be happy, even if it meant giving up everything.

I also loved the side characters, especially Dan's grandmother, team black and jk first coach. They saw the good in Jaekyung long before he saw it himself.

I completely understand why people dislike Jinx, and that's valid. But I think many people write it off as "just another toxic BL" without giving the story or the character growth a real chance.

(Please don't start a Jinx war😂 I just want to know what BL everyone else loves even though most people don't.)

Hellooooo!!!!

I recently read Bed for Three again, and I absolutely loved it all over again......

What stood out to me wasn't just the romance—it was the fact that the MC didn't have to choose between the two love interests. Instead, they all ended up together in a genuine, healthy triad, and it felt so natural.

I'm looking for more BL manhwa with a similar vibe:

• MMM/poly relationship (preferably endgame)
• A strong, well-written plot
• Plenty of romance and chemistry between all three characters
• Some angst or a little toxicity at the beginning is totally fine, as long as there's a good redemption arc and character growth
• Lots of wholesome, cute, and domestic moments once they get together

I'm not looking for stories where the MC ends up choosing just one person. I really want a true poly relationship where everyone is equally involved and happy together.

Completed series are preferred, but ongoing ones are welcome too!

Thank you in advance for any recommendations!!