u/mighty-blueberry7

Hello :) This is a long post, but it's because I'm truly hoping to connect with a special woman. I'm a 37 year old single cis woman living in Pennsylvania with a stable career, my own car, and my own place. If the connection is right, I'm open to long distance, but am ideally looking for someone where the ability to actually be together is most viable (PA, OH, NY, DE, NJ, NY, MD, WV). That said, if my post resonates with you, please message me regardless of where you live. I'm looking for a meaningful, deep connection. In case it's a dealbreaker, I do have one child who's 8 from a previous marriage, a very amicable 50/50 coparenting arrangement, and I am not having more children. :)

I'm constantly praised as strong, resilient, and ambitious, but I really am looking for a woman who I can be more relaxed with, and let my hair down around, so to speak. I'm attracted to assertive, competent, intelligent women who can understand and appreciate that I'm independent, but who can also meet me halfway and be the strong one sometimes, too.

I love all things cozy. Sitting by a fireplace with a glass of wine and comfy blankets, some niche documentary or new A24 movie playing, something delicious in the oven, or some good takeout... sounds like a great night to me. I love to read, and am currently rotating between "Water Moon" by Samantha Sotto Yambao and "Blood Over Bright Haven" by M. L. Wang.

I'm a huge film fan but haven't been watching too many new releases lately. I do really want to see Backrooms, though, as I find the aesthetic intriguing. I watch a lot of documentaries. Some of my favorites are "Fire of Love", "Shirkers", and "The Alpinist".

Here comes the more vulnerable part. I have PTSD and do need to be with someone who can understand that. I went through something extremely traumatic several years ago, that no one should ever have to go through, and I am changed from it. (Yes, I am in therapy, and am very pro-therapy!) That said, I really can't handle chaos, inconsistency, dishonesty, or anything that feels unreliable or intermittent as it causes me extreme anxiety stress... I need peace and stability in my life, and I prioritize it. I would not work well with someone who is not a good communicator or who is more fly-by-the-seat-of-pants in planning and lifestyle. I am not a risk taker, and my safety is important to me, so I need to be with someone who can respect that. I also have sensory sensitivities and do not like being in super crowded, noisy environments. If you are someone, for example, who loves to go to big, live concerts all the time, we sadly would not be a fit. I also can get easily scared or stressed around men I do not know, so I hope I can find a woman and partner who is sensitive to that.

One of my major interests and something that is extremely healing for me is being in nature. :) I've also started gardening, and am quite invested in my small flower garden. I have a spreadsheet of all my plants, with columns to denote which butterflies and other pollinators they support. I love to hike and have done a lot of solo hiking this year, which was a really meaningful experience to me. I haven't been out as much this summer because of the heat, but would love a partner who would like to go out into nature with me, and who would tolerate (or maybe even appreciate) that I like to take photos of new bugs I see, or flowers, and learn about the local ecosystem.

I'd say I'm femme (shaped like an old-fashioned Coke bottle, more or less, mid-length brunette hair) but am far from super femme. Like a lot of people, I don't think I fit in some neat box. I am genuinely curvy, though, with a defined waist and am on the thicker side. Happy to exchange photos after connecting for a bit, but I disclose that now because I realize some women are not into curvy women.

Other things I love: cozy video games (I'm playing Stray right now and adore it!), coffee, sitting on my back porch reading a book, sending my friends updates about my plants, going to arts events like film and book festivals, and sleeping in. :)

Okay, I suppose I should end this little mini essay here. I realize this is long-winded for most, but I'm a long-winded person, and language is the primary way I connect. If this resonates with you, please send me a message. I'd love to hear from you. Please be 33+ in age and please tell me your age and some basic information about yourself in your first message. :) Also, I realize I mentioned trauma in this post as a way to be upfront and gauge compatibility since I have a disability, but I would appreciate people not asking for specifics. Thank you in advance for being considerate. :)

I’m having a sad night and would just enjoy having someone to talk to. If something naturally develops from that, great, and if not, that’s cool, too.

I have a good career, have some close friends, and a meaningful relationship with my family… yet I’m still lonely. Can anyone relate to this?

My hobbies include hiking, photographing every new wildflower I see, reading, watching movies, and lately, playing video games. I’m not perfect… for example, I buy more books than I’ll probably ever read and hoard blankets while insisting the ceiling fan stays on.

I’m the type of person who would rather spend time with a close friend or two having great conversation than be out at a loud event. I’m also the type of person who loves to try new activities even if I’m really bad at them. I’ve tried aerial yoga and rock climbing in the recent past. Hopefully that gives you an idea about my personality.

Potential dealbreakers: I’m Probably a 5-7 looks wise to the average person, depending on someone’s preferences. I’m bi, so open to chatting with both men and women. Divorced for several years. Mom of one, successfully coparenting, & not having more kids. Happy to exchange photos after chatting a bit.