r/R4R30Plus

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39 [F4M] Not sure I can physically bring myself to open Hinge anymore

Maybe you’re in the same boat?

I long for and welcome a real connection in my life. Someone to be curious with. Someone with whom to laugh at the absurdity of this world we live in, or to lament the darkness that also exists.

I love nature, swimming, travel, most creatures, touching plants, and finding out how things work.

If you’re ready to be curious about each other’s minds, come say hello!

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u/melancholiflower — 1 day ago

[F4M] 37 - Looking for meaningful dating, romance & great conversations

Hello! I**'m a 37-year-old woman looking to date and build a meaningful romantic connection with a single man. I'm open to seeing where things naturally lead.
Nationality or country doesn
'**t matter to me at all; what truly counts is emotional maturity, kindness, a good sense of humor, and mutual respect. If you are looking for a genuine connection and enjoy engaging conversations, feel free to send me a message with a brief introduction about yourself

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u/AssignmentOptimal700 — 21 hours ago

32 [F4M] Hi, let’s chat! :))

Hello! I’m just looking for someone to chat with and talk about life. I’m single, no kids—as in, really single haha! 😆

I don’t really have any preferences. For me, it’s more about compatibility. I just don’t like liars, that’s it! Let’s chat and see where it goes.

32 years old and above, preferably.

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u/Chimsywhimsy — 1 day ago

[F4M][36F] Hoping to meet someone and build a connection.

I’m a 36 year old woman living in Canada. Not opposed to long distance if it’s the right person. About me is hard - I love reading, hiking, cooking, laughing until it hurts. I have an established career and take pride in my work (social work sector). I am tiny - 5”4 and brunette. I have green eyes. I also like gaming and spending time outdoors. I am sober by choice - no alcohol. Not into parties.

If you want to talk, send me a message!

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u/tokyomooon — 1 day ago

49[F4R] Feeling a bit bored and could use some company Friendship

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

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u/Hard_Duck9730 — 1 day ago

37 [F4R] Midwest - Let's be friends!

I just moved hundreds of miles from the area I was born and raised because the Midwest just feels like home. I absolutely love it here and it was the best decision, but I haven't established a friend group so it's a bit lonely. I'd love people to chat with, play games with, a fantasy football league to join would be pretty clutch too, I'm down for whatever.

About me:

•Geek/Nerd

•Scientist

•Learning SO much about home repairs and maintenance

•Average looking middle aged overweight and stressed mom

•Hobbies I love: Hiking, kayaking, reading, gardening, swimming, snowboarding, baking, cooking, crochet, painting, crafting, fishing, photography, MCU, puzzles, camping, board games

•Avidly follow Football and NASCAR, casually follow baseball and hockey, and I'll pay attention to Basketball in the Spring

•Laid back and optimistic, I tend to see the best of things and I don't understand why anyone would want to be miserable, life's too short

•Not looking for anything specific, just human connection whether we bring each other joy for a few hours of conversation or we become lifelong besties.

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36 [M4F] Let us skip the boring introductions so I can start sending you wildly long text messages & VNs

Let us admit this whole process is super weird. We are just two people staring at glowing rectangles. But you clicked this. And now I have a tiny window to convince you I am worth your time

I am a guy who will send you wildly long text messages or VNs about very small things. I am also the guy who will look at you across a crowded room and try to make you laugh without speaking

Full disclosure on my flaws. I do not eat meat or eggs. I am terrified of mushrooms. Chopped onions ruin my day. If you can accept these tragic food rules, I promise to treat you like absolute royalty

We should skip the boring introductions. Send me a message and tell me your worst habit. I am completely ready to be obsessed with it

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u/smoking_neets — 1 day ago

37 [F4M] #Italy I'm looking for my person

Hi everyone! I'm a 37-year-old woman looking for a serious and genuine relationship. I'm open to long-distance and nationality doesn't matter to me. I actually find the idea of connecting across cultures beautiful and enriching. I'm a computer engineer, so I spend most of my days problem-solving and diving deep into the world of artificial intelligence; I love discussing how technology shapes our future and the ethical questions behind it. When I'm not glued to a screen, I recharge in nature. long walks, hiking, or simply sitting in a park with a good book. I'm deeply nerdy at heart; I enjoy sci-fi, fantasy lore, and intellectually stimulating conversations that make me think. What attracts me most is intelligence paired with sincerity someone honest, emotionally mature, and ready to build a future together. I'm fluent in English, Italian, and Spanish, so language isn't a barrier. If you're looking for a meaningful connection and appreciate a sharp, passionate woman with a lot of love to give, let's chat!

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u/Lioren35 — 1 day ago

30 [F4M] Nerdy hopeless romantic seeking player 2

Hey, hi, hello! It’s me, deciding to try and put myself out there and look for love on the internet. 

I want to find someone that I can be my overly excitable, silly self with and in return have them be their true self with me. I love the idea of doing things together, even if we’re not always physically side by side. Let’s play games, be on call, watch movies. I crave that friendship aspect of a relationship first and foremost. Let’s be best friends~ but I also want the flirty banter while getting to know one another. Being antsy and excited waiting for your responses, and vice versa. The messaging and calls that only stop because one of us needs to sleep, begrudgingly. Let me be your favourite notification. All of those cheesy things. 

So with all that said- why message me? What makes me special? I’m glad you asked! Let me tell you. 

- I’m an avid video and board game player. I’m a tiny bit competitive and will (lovingly) smack talk you when I win.
- Movies and shows are a big passion of mine. I love horror and psychological thrillers. 
- When I’m passionate about something, I put my all into it. I will send paragraphs of my opinions, full of exclamation marks and excitement. I can ramble for hours so prepare yourself :) 
- With that in mind, I also love receiving walls of text. Tell me about your day, interests, thoughts. Anything! I’m happy to listen. 
- I’ll make you all the baked goods. I’m not the best cook but I will shower you in sweets. Cupcakes, cookies, pies, tarts. You name it- I’ll make it. 
- I am a complete animal lover. I grew up on a farm so I am a certified horse girl. While I don’t live there anymore, I think I still have some country in me. Maybe.
- I have an absolute perfect little menace of a kitten I love to spam photos of. 
- Hiking is another passion of mine. I’ll take you on all my favourite mountain trails. I try to go to Banff several times a year, and honestly, I’d live there if I could. 
- I love the classic nerdy things. Star Wars? Yes. DnD? Yes. Comic books? Yes. Journaling? Yes. TTRPG’s? Yes. Pathfinder? Yes. Looking up at the stars and pointing out constellations? Yes.
- I’d say my love languages are words of affirmation, all things horror, and pet pictures.
- I am brunette, short, and curvy. If that’s your type- you’re in luck. Also no kiddos and no plans to ever have any. (Located in Alberta, Canada btw!)
- I do suffer from some pretty severe anxiety and depression. Why is that a plus? Well, if you also struggle with it, I will understand and be supportive. I know it can be terrible but maybe I can help make it a little less miserable. 

Well that’s about it! I hope this helped pique your interest. I don’t have too many preferences but I do ask you to be 30 or older please! (Also, I’d really prefer Alberta based, or Canada based, but I’m willing to chat with anyone if we vibe!) 
Otherwise, feel free to send a message with a bit about you. I’m excited to hear from you <3 

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u/fictionalfawn — 1 day ago

38#[F4M]#NY#Serious Relationship

I'm not good at actively trying to please others, and I have no interest in wasting time on meaningless social interactions.

I'm slow to warm up, but once you get to know me, I'm actually very easy to get along with.

I enjoy traveling, food, movies, and music, and I also like to enjoy life quietly by myself occasionally. More than being in a crowd, I value comfortable interactions; more than sweet words, I value sincerity and actions.

I don't seek dramatic relationships; I just want to meet people who are worth getting to know. If we get along, we chat; if not, that's fine too.

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39 [M4F] online/anywhere lets strike up an exciting conversation!

Hi there, hows your day going? Good i hope! I dont have much going on today and would love to meet someone to chat with!

Big on books and would love to chat them! Ive read a few this year and working on another big book currently.

Horror movies are my jam.

I live to bake and cook. If you like food we will get along.

Im a big fan of good music. That means not country, sorry country folks. Its not a deal breaker but im not a fan..

If you are curvy/alt/nerdy please move to the front of the line. Also know effort you put in is effort you will get back.

Send me a message and lets chat!

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u/velvetphoniex — 1 day ago

33 [M4F] Europe. Staying up all night to chat to vent and let everything out (English and Spanish)

I am an honest, laid back, fun, no Drama kinda guy. I like being independent and having my own things. Currently working and seeing where life take me next.

I love to laugh, festivals, the beach and just anything fun. I don't do clubs but I like a staying up all night. I would love to chat with someone who can make a simple day into one special and full of adventures.

I'd like to talk with someone, laid back, adventurous and specially a talkative person. Someone who has the time and energy to explore a new friendship. Vent, talk about life, about anything in our mind. Someone who is actually tired of her current daily life and want something new with the hopes of it becoming long term adventure.

Let's avoid the one word answers. I ask toooons of questions but I don't want to be the only one asking. If anything i said caught your attention then send me a message.

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u/vidaSinflitrosi — 1 day ago

38 [M4F]#Online/Illinois Should we date? Let's figure it out mathematically

Ok. Being single can be really comfortable. Starting something new can be a hassle. But hopefully the hassle is worth it in the long run. So I'll be quick, and you can decide for yourself!

**Pros:**

* zero drama, no mysterious exes sending “u up?” texts at 2 a.m.

* mostly retired means I have plenty of time to engage in my crazy flavor of the month hobbies. like learning card tricks or becoming a good bowler.

* Loyal as hell. once I’m in, I’m in. Expect consistency, effort, and actual follow-through.

* equal parts dad joke and quick wit; you’ll laugh, groan, or both.

* you’ll feel heard, even when you’re just venting about your coworker named Dana.

* Cuddling MVP award-winning performance in “staying up too late and pretending we’re watching the show.”

* Culinary adventurer I’ll try any recipe once; even if my base instinct is to eat like an 8 year old.

* Conversation stamina can talk from “hey” to sunrise without running out of things to say.

* Nerd-friendly Simpsons references, bad B-movies, board games, and chaotic trivia nights welcome.

**Cons:**

* Will absolutely eat the last handful of popcorn and pretend I didn’t.

* Has a deep, possibly unhealthy attachment to reality TV marathons.

* Occasionally answers rhetorical questions with detailed PowerPoint-level explanations.

* Could wake up one morning absolutely convinced I should adopt a Komodo Dragon.

* Will quote 90s cartoons out loud in public without warning.

* Might go through an intense spurt of obsession with obscure, not useful hobbies, and forget all about them 3 months later.

* Will criticize your breakfast food choices.

* Tends to turn “just one episode” into six.

* My cat is in charge of the household, and we both know it.

If you’re still reading this, you're definitely the kind of person i want to talk to! My list of standards are low. don't be in a relationship, (especially not secretly with someone, that keeps happening) including recently separated or divorced. Be willing to spend some time together, either with text voice or video chats. Live on my side of the planet!

Still interested? Message me now and subscribe to my newsletter, and you can hear all the exclusive info on any of the following anecdotes:

  1. my visit to the north pole

  2. the 2 times i almost died.

  3. why i dropped out of high school to try to become a pro wrestler

  4. the redneck brawl i saw at a wedding.

  5. the time i saw a sea monster

  6. Who and where i think i met the devil.

  7. Why i can never return to the state of Rhode Island.

and many more!

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u/headrush46n2 — 1 day ago

33 [F4M] US

33F | gym rat, ER/trauma nurse, soldier & lover girl

I like lifting heavy things, going on adventures, being outside, trying questionable new hobbies, and people who can make me laugh. Sarcastic, affectionate, independent, and dangerously susceptible to good banter.
Currently deployed and looking for genuine connection—friendship, flirting, accidental love story… 🤷‍♀️

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u/BootsToBikini — 2 days ago

34 [m4f] #online - looking for someone I can talk with throughout the day and night

I am in need of someone I can talk to throughout the day and night. I have a weird schedule and am up all night, and I never have anyone I can talk with. I miss having a close connection to someone, and am looking to meet someone I can really connect with. I am into video games, anime, music, songwriting, magic the gathering, and dungeons and dragons. I also love talking about rabbit holes and conspiracy theories, alien theories, stuff like that. If you’d like to chat, please send me a message!

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u/bravest-toaster67 — 1 day ago

34 [M4F] #UK - Looking for the one I'll be with forever

I'm pretty empathetic and in tune with my emotions, so someone similar would be nice.

I'm 6'8'' (202cm) but I'm not limited to someone tall.

I love history, art, science, music (I play piano and guitar), also I love to bake. I love animals too and they usually love me as well. More indoorsy so not one to go hiking; but I do like a gentle walk, days out to museums and similar stuff.

I lived in the USA for a couple of years, and in Scotland for 8 years (currently living in England). I've also traveled all over Europe.

My love language is words of affirmation and physical touch. I'm the type to want to cuddle in the evening. I want to be closer instead of being distant when I'm going through a tough time.

I don't want kids, and I'm not religious. Looking for someone in Europe (including the UK and Ireland etc). I am well situated with a good job so I am looking to stay in the UK.

If you think we'd enjoy talking to each other then send me a message with some things about you 😊

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37 [F4M] #est Ready for spooky season but don’t want any ghosts

Twice now I’ve found a great guy who is well read, interesting, share hobbies, and actually quite good looking but I’ve either put all the effort into chatting or I’ve been ghosted.

Looking for my bookish boyfriend. I’ve got all the typical millennial hobbies: reading, baking, thrifting, upcycling. I’m educated and a good conversationalist. I’m not afraid of speaking my mind and being honest.

I’m not looking to be your next short term distraction.

Share what you’re reading, a joke, something to start a conversation and let’s see where it goes.

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u/myvisionbored — 1 day ago

36 [f4m] PNW Seeking someone to watch horror with.

It doesn’t have to be movies, that’s just my main jam. I like watching playthroughs of horror video games, too.

But as much as I like those things alone, I think it’s better when there’s someone else to be terrified with.

So, if you’re 30+, love horror, and would like a companion on the journey of being terrified, hit me up?

Ps, if you wanna hit me up, start with what scares you the most.

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u/EloquentAuntEstelle — 1 day ago

[F4M] going thru it… wanna talk? Midwest

I’m currently stuck in a pretty shitty living situation and an “it’s complicated” situationship that has left me feeling incredibly lonely. Finances are the biggest thing keeping me here right now. I have kids, bills, and responsibilities, so unfortunately I can’t just pack a suitcase and disappear into the sunset.
I am working on a way out. I’m figuring out what I need financially and practically to get myself and my kids somewhere happier and more peaceful. It just can’t happen overnight.

In the meantime, I miss having someone I genuinely feel close to. Someone to talk to throughout the day, share stupid little things with, laugh with, have ridiculous conversations and deep late-night ones, and actually feel seen by.

A little about me I’m 38, a mom, animal lover. I love music, gaming, photography, painting, plants, puzzles, cooking, baking, coffee and good food. I’m happiest outside kayaking, camping, hiking or near the water, but I’m equally happy being cozy at home with animals, a game or movie.

And yes, there’s this stupid little fairy-tale part of me that imagines the right person somehow stumbling across this post, seeing me buried in this mess and saying, “Come on. You don’t have to live like this anymore.”😂 I know that’s not how it works. I have to build my own way out.

For now, I’m really just looking for connection. Friendship, stupid conversations, deep conversations, flirting if it naturally goes there, whatever develops. I’m not trying to force anything.
I think I mostly just miss feeling seen.
If you’re lonely too, say hi. Maybe two internet strangers can make life feel a little less lonely for each other.

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u/AdOrnery8097 — 2 days ago