r/R4R30Plus

Changing shit up from my usual and trying something new and short. I’m getting those Sunday Scaries and need some company.

Me: short, witty, cute, kind, watching The Substance while fighting off what my mom calls the midnight shpilkes. I have stories.

You: any height, cute, witty, with interesting things to say. Not conservative. Open minded.

Let’s do it

35+ unless you look like Paul Newman in Cool Hand Luke

I’m a single mom of two kids and hopefully looking to find a connection that isn’t shallow. I’ve attempted dating apps but as a below average looking woman, it’s a struggle to find anything meaningful. I’m introverted. Work as a manager at a retail store.

Im looking for at the very least a friend but maybe I will find my forever person on here as well (if I’m allowed to be that hopeful lol).

Anyone 30+ and from North America or Europe can message me and just no smokers, drug users or no one with a criminal history. Also please actually be single.

Hi,

I’m a Singaporean Chinese woman in my early thirties. Never married, and I’ve only had one relationship. I’ve come to realise that I would much rather wait for something genuine than settle simply because it is convenient.

I’m hoping to meet someone who enjoys thoughtful conversations, approaches life with curiosity, and believes that relationships are built through continuous choices rather than grand declarations. To me, companionship is found in the quieter moments of sharing a meal, discovering a new coffee spots, wandering through nature, talking about everything and nothing, and gradually becoming each other’s favourite person to come home to.

I value emotional maturity, kindness, and honest communication. Conflict doesn’t worry me but avoiding it does. I believe the strongest relationships aren’t those without disagreements, but those where both people are willing to listen, understand, and grow together.

I’m looking for a long-term relationship with a DDlg dynamic, where trust, care, guidance, and mutual respect naturally form the foundation. For me, submission isn’t something assumed but it is something that grows from feeling emotionally safe, understood, and deeply respected.

Outside of work, you will find me exploring coffee spots in search of a good hand-drip coffee, hiking quiet trails, or planning my next trip somewhere with mountains, lakes, or beautiful scenery. I have a soft spot for penguins, enjoy discovering good food (I’m currently on a tonkatsu phase), and appreciate people who can be both intellectually curious and emotionally grounded.

I don’t drink, smoke, or vape, and I live a fairly simple lifestyle.

Ideally, you’re somewhere between 38 and 45, emotionally available, genuinely single, and interested in building something intentional rather than rushing towards an outcome.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your story.

I don’t think meaningful connection is as common as it used to be.
Not because people don’t want it, but because we’re all moving so fast that we forget to slow down and be genuinely curious about one another.
I appreciate the people who ask questions just because they want to know the answer. The ones who notice the little things, tell stories that wander, and make ordinary conversations unexpectedly memorable.
If you’re someone who still enjoys conversations that unfold naturally instead of rushing to the next thing, there’s a good chance we’d get along.

Hi! Giving this a try… because whyyyy not. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Mom who appreciates quick wit, playful banter, and someone who doesn’t need instructions to function as an adult. Firm believer that there is nothing a quick YouTube video can’t walk me through. If you aren’t a go getter and would rather sit around and watch me figure things out versus help get them done…… you can stop reading here. 👋

Things I enjoy:
Mexican food
Water (beach day > everything else)
Being outside
Flowers
Farm animals (ask me about my incubator 🤣)

Things I don’t enjoy:
Dry conversations
Confrontation 😅
Putting clothes away
Anything that requires patience

Seriously though, I’m super go with the flow and easy to get along with. Plus, I stay stocked with fruit snacks, juice boxes, AND bandaids. 😉

If I had to pick three words to describe me… spontaneous, goofy, and kind. Comment or message three to describe you…. And let’s go from there! 😬

Disclosure: I am currently separated. It’s pretty amicable for the most part though. But I did want to be upfront.

Read the post if you want a reply :)

Let's find the joy we're missing in our current day-to-day, just talk without any expectations, get to know each other and bond over our shared curiosity about people and the world. It could be deep, light, playful, contemplative, etc. It'll be what ever we make it.

I love art, a great tv show, a garbage tv show, a museum or botanical garden, etc.

Shoot me a message with your age and what you do for work or some things we could get started talking about.

I am extremely lonely and have isolated myself way too long. I need a person I can talk to daily. I literally forget to do human things without another human to remind me.

Another year has past and my dreams of having a happy little family keep fading. I could be fine and happy with a support system but for now everything is scary and I really need help seeing a way out.

I didn’t even want to acknowledge my bday I haven’t celebrated or got a present since I was 25 and that’s when I peaked. I’m trying to hold on until it gets better like they say. My bday present is my attempt to make a connection with this post.

I can be interested in anything, trying to go back to human roots and trying to garden a lot. I love philosophy and consciousness topics. Teach me something interesting

Looking for vegan friends or lovers in Da Nang!

Curvy goth Aussie girl here into snorkeling, scuba diving, reading, true crime and travel. 🖤

This last year I’ve worked really hard and tried to get to the best version of myself physically and mentally. Being happy and content with myself and my life was always the goal and now I feel ready to see what’s out there. I have no expectations but as a girl who loves hard and seeks the same, I am hoping to find someone I can build a deeper connection with.

I’m in a helping field so it’s not a surprise that I’m empathetic and have compassion in spades, sometimes to a fault. I’m happiest with someone who enjoys deep conversations just as much as joking around. Outside of work, I can usually be found with a book. I love reading and am always open to recommendations. I do play a select few video games but would not consider myself a gamer. I’m definitely a homebody at heart, but I also love spending a weekend exploring a new park, trying a restaurant I’ve never been to, or wandering somewhere new just because I can.

Physically, I’m short, petite, and curvy. I have dark curly hair and brown eyes. I’ve been on a pretty big health journey this past year and am excited for the future with this new version of myself.

What I’m looking for is someone emotionally mature, kind, and knows what they want. I’ll admit I have a GIANT soft spot for bigger, burly men, especially if there’s a beard and tattoos involved. In all seriousness though, who you are will always matter more than how you look.

This is already too long so I’m going to leave it here and hope for the best.

Hello!

Who wants to chat about life, music, politics, philosophy, being a hater, being a lover…? I don’t know. Anyone that can carry a conversation.

38. F. Never married. No kids. Live in a city.

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

32F originally from west Africa but I live in the DMV. I work in senior leadership in a tech field.

I love puzzles, live theatre, popping by a jazz club and going on fun dates. I also love to read and travel more than the average person

Physically: 5’5 (i think), dark skinned, great smile, never had a problem getting dates but I value good communication and someone who can hold a GOOD conversation. We’ll switch photos early to confirm attraction.

Looking for a kind, honest, stable career, funny and ambitious man between 30-43 years old. Ideally left leaning, no maga. If youre not interested in meeting up dont dm me. Hopefully this turns into something but please note I dont do casual.

If you ghost me I will block you 🙂

I was married before. It didn't work out for reasons that were understandable and we are on good terms now and I'm actually good friends with his new gf now believe it or not. My ex husband and I were never really in love but we were too young to recognize that and got married anyway which didn't last long. I don't miss him, but I miss the domesticity. I miss coming home from work and making a frozen pizza with him and eating snacks in bed while we watch a movie and then have sex. I miss having a partner. Since separating I've experienced being really in love but that guy can't handle a relationship and doesn't want to choose me. I stopped viewing him as an option. I don't want casual. I want to find my person so bad.

I never really managed to find a career. I struggle with a psychotic disorder that's set me back in life many times. A year and a half ago I lost my job, apartment, and car because of it and landed back in the mental ward and now I'm living back at home working part time in a slot parlor. I'm working on getting my driver's license and saving up for a car but it's gonna be a long time. I enjoy my job though and I love talking to my regulars there. But every day I daydream of my dream guy walking in there and sweeping me off my feet.

In my spare time I make art for fun visual and musical. I have over 100 original songs and I had my songs on Spotify before they got taken down because I couldn't pay the distro fee when I didn't have money for a long time. I'm 5'8" kinda fat, dark hair and eyes, half Filipino half Dutch and German. Have no kids and don't want them.

I'm looking for a guy who doesn't want kids, has no kids , is liberal politically, is creative or musical, someone who loves movies and music, must be aged 30-37 preferably in the USA.

Photo of me on my profile

Well I'm from south Asia. I don't have anyone to talk to.

I'm looking for someone to talk to on a daily basis to vent.

Hi! My name is Stephanie, I’m 35 and live in Western Canada - specifically Alberta. I’m looking for some engaging conversation through the day. I’m not looking for any sort of commitment, but if a friendship forms I wouldn’t be against that! I would prefer to chat with people around my age - so preferably +/- 10 years difference.
Some of my interests include: watching tv shows/ movies - I am most interested in horror, but also love a good sitcom. I love to listen to music and go to concerts. I get my nails done every 3 week and have had some pretty great nail art sets. I like to shop, go for coffee, and spend time with the people in my life. I am pretty active and like to go for long walks. Over the past year or so, I have discovered a big fascination with birds.

If this sounds interesting to you and you’d like to have a chat, send me a short introduction and I will ask you an ice breaker question! (Please send a private message - I don’t want to have a conversation through the comments! Will also not reply to comments saying to DM you!)

Hello! 34F here in search of some friends. I’m married and only looking for friends. Here’s some things you should know about me:

-My favorite hobby is reading. I read several different genres, and I mostly enjoy romance, thrillers, and fantasies. I hope to read 100 books this year. Currently reading the Throne of Glass series. What’s your favorite book?

-I am into Lego. I display seasonal sets for my bookshelf, and have various other ones. Manifesting more Zelda sets.

-Speaking of video games, I am mostly into Nintendo stuff, but I don’t play a whole lot. I like Zelda, Animal Crossing, and Mario stuff.

-I am a vegan animal lover. Been vegan for 4+ years now, and I love it. I also have 2 dogs and 2 cats.

-I don’t watch much tv. If I am reading, I’ll have ambience videos in the background or have a Twitch stream playing. Lately I’ve been into Love Island USA.

-As far as sports go, my favorite is baseball, but I’ll watch anything. I used to have season tickets, but it’s too dang hot and expensive to do that all the time.

Thanks for reading! Feel free to send me a message, but say more than “hi,” and please be able to hold a conversation. I can’t be the only participant here. My job is pretty busy, but I’ll respond as much as I can!

Hey guys 43 year old mom of 2 (18M and 14F) and the kids are asleep right now so i figured i’d get on here and look for interesting people because ive been bored ALL week. pls dont be weird or nsfw.

Working from home is nice and all and sure has its perks but it can be a bit isolating sometimes with no coworkers around to banter with. I'm sure I'm not the only one feeling that way so it'd be nice to link up with some people to maybe get some longterm chats going. Topic wise I'm not particularly picky so anything from casual to private is game with me as long I don't have to feel like I'm carrying the conversation.

I mean I'm by now means prude and could probably easily outweird you but even I have to draw a line somewhere. And since a lot of people ask for pics immediately, I have one of what I look like on my profile if you really need to know to ahve a conversation.Other than that, shoot me your age, location and something interesting and we can get the conversation going, I don't bite:)

I'm going to be honest, I don't even know what I'm looking for.

About me: I work full time, sometimes my job is sad but I thankfully have been able to make a difference with my work and for that I'm grateful. My life is pretty complicated. I'm a mom, and I've been told I'm empathetic, kind and funny however I think I'm funnier in person. I live in Ontario and I'm grateful to get surrounded by nature.

I'm a summer girl through and through, and I'm either in my pool, on the beach or gardening. I love walking barefoot through my garden and picking things I grew. I also enjoy swimming ,kayaking ( anything in the water)just being in the sunshine and walking every night. In the winter I basically just exist as an icicle and watch reality TV or AHS although I have started skating again in the winter. I adore animals, especially dogs, and I have been known to try and befriend crows, raccoons and maybe one day pet a bear.

I was on a good routine working out with weights and working out lately but I have gotten off track with my routine, but it's nice out again so I try to walk at least 4 kms in the evening. I'm still down 34 lbs since August though but I feel stuck and I'm a bit frustrated.

I'm looking to chat with people 26+ and in North America. I have some photos on my profile, but I'm not a beauty queen. PLEASE have a decent description of yourself especially if your profile is hidden or blank, or I won't respond.

Hello everyone. I'm giving it a shot again,and I'm looking to connect with new people and hopefully make a friend or two. I love cooking, crochet,video games, cars and horror movies. I'm getting back into reading, so if you have any book recommendations feel free send them over here. Well that's a little about me, thanks for stopping by. 💜