r/R4R30Plus

Hello everyone,

I'm here again... Yay..

I don't even know if it's a reddit problem or a me problem at this point. Maybe I'm trying too hard to find some kind of connection.

I would like to talk to someone around my age or older who is okay with me venting from time to time. I want the banter.. I want the click.. I want the weird references from when we were young.

I feel like most of the time it's very... One track mind based and I mean it's all fun and games but it's not something I'm primarily after.

If you are fickle with deleting reddit accounts then please refrain from talking to me I take it personally lol like seriously... I'm very sensitive and overthinking.. Comes with the age I guess

Thank you and have a nice day :)

Fellow redditors,

So live and work in Brighton and to be honest I'm bored of fighting the seagulls on my own. They're massive and I'm pretty sure they're now hunting in teams. Need someone to be my backup, or my distraction while I evade their beaks.

I joke...sort of....

I'm doing well for myself, manage to go gym and spend most of my time cooking and eating...and fighting seagulls....obviously.

Been on the apps and I fail to see the allure of judging someone by a single snapshot in time on a photo. I am much of a writer, modern day Shakespeare....minus the long hair and ability to concentrate for more than 5 minutes.

Open to longer distance if the vibe is right...hate that please but my the inner Shakespeare in me couldn't think of another term....and I am not using Ai as kind of defeats the purpose, plus pretty sure the seagulls control it anyway.

If you've read this and not died of boredom then give me a message. Can exchange photos, my mum says I'm pretty good looking. Take that as what you will.

"again on my own, going down the only road I've ever known, like a drifter I was born to walk alone..."

Ok, 80s power ballad over. Don't get too excited. I hate like hair bands but its catchy.

Hey there! I'd like to connect and have a good convo. I'm also going to say the thing you're not supposed to say, I want to chat with someone single and attractive. That's where swiping is better. Quite frankly I probably need to put myself out in the dating world more but I don't know that I have the bandwidth for that this season.

So if I were to list the things I wanted in a partner- yes attraction but also:
secure/confident
Emotionally intelligent
Doing well in his career.
Has loved/ learned and ready for a relationship
Enjoys fun new experiences with a partner
Laughs easily/humorous and easy going

I am:
Attractive - beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all but mostly yes.
Somewhat secure (yey therapy)
Emotionally intelligent
Career is good
Loved and learned
Love new experiences w/ ppl I care about
Love to laugh but not necessarily easy going as evidenced by the lists

If you want to know more just ask. If you DM be respectful.

I’m from the Philippines, and just to get that out of the way... if that’s smthn you look down on or have weird feelings about, totally okay to skip me. I promise I won’t take it personally. We can save each other the awkwardness.

I’ve been on hibernation mode for the past few days, but life’s too short not to try things twice… just not short enough for me to subscribe to a dating app. Lol. So here I am again, putting myself out there. Please be gentle.

I read a lot... like, 'I’m not ignoring you, I’m just telling myself one more chapter' a lot. I’m also very much a beach person. When life gets too loud, give me the ocean and I’ll probably be okay again.

I’ve hiked the 4th highest peak in the Philippines, which sounded very romantic and adventurous in theory. In reality, my legs were tryna remind me that I am not 22 anymore.

I’m single, never married, live alone and casually tryna grow into the rich, cool aunt version of myself. Someone has to keep the family entertained and financially irresponsible.

If you’re 35+, not racist, emotionally normal-ish and mture-ish and can hold an actual conversation without making distance or culture weird, and also looking for a dink partner, feel free to say hi.

I’m around for the next few days, mostly just tryna breathe, laugh a little, and be a person again (coz work made me sick).

Maybe I’ll meet someone interesting along the way (:

Looking for some consistent, high-quality chats and virtual company. Not necessarily looking for romance, but open to it with the right connection. I’d prefer someone with a high degree of availability who also likes to communicate through text-based platforms (no Snapchat though). I don’t mind an occasional phone or video call but my kids are always around and they’re super nosy so voice notes or phone calls aren’t my preferred method of communication haha.

About me:

I am freshly turned 40 and facing midlife wondering how I got here. I’m a full time working single mother to two kids (13 and 10) living in SW PA. I’ve been single pretty much since my marriage ended in 2020 and I’ve taken this time to learn more about myself including who I really am as a person and what I want and will not tolerate. The boundaries are strong and I’m no longer afraid to enforce them. I have a BA in psychology and work in the social work/human services industry. I’m a USAF veteran and a photographer of almost 15 years (started on Nikon, I now have a Sony mirrorless). I have played World of Warcraft since 2007. I enjoy writing poetry and reading sci-fi and fantasy. I’m also a big true crime aficionado. I enjoy a big range of music but am drawn more to stuff like emo/pop punk, metalcore, post-hardcore, etc. Physically I am about 5’8”, on the thicker side. I have a short pixie-style haircut, wear glasses, have facial piercings/stretched ears and am heavily tattooed.

Another thing to note about me is that I am neurodivergent AF with a high IQ. I was formally diagnosed with ADHD at 27 and with autism at 34. So basically I’m really smart but still somehow unable to make lasting friendships or remember to take out the trash.

I’m left of left politically and an atheist. Please no MAGA or anyone who “doesn’t do politics” or considers themselves to be “apolitical”. You can think the government sucks no matter who runs it but if you refuse to have opinions on things like basic human rights then we don’t have a difference of opinion, we have a difference of morals.

420 friendly, I have a MMJ card because that’s how it is legal in my state. I’m not into ENM/polyamory so please don’t message me if you’re not 100% single. I’m also not the fix or distraction you need from your dead marriage.

Thanks for reading!

Hello everyone. I generally hate talking about myself so here goes nothing.

I’m 33. In Texas. (Open to traveling) divorced and looking to get back “out there”.
I’m not a partier or loud so I don’t go to bars or where ever else people would meet.
I’m generally laid back, enjoy binging shows or movies, cooking, going out to eat, crafts.
I’m in shape, but I don’t go to a gym so really don’t know an exercise name or type or whatever if that’s your thing.
Generally I get complimented on my smile.

I’m looking for someone mature and has a good head on their shoulders. Not picky about age but I do want someone older then me just so I know they are mature. Hopefully you’re into wide variety of things because I try to be adaptable but there will always be times where that isn’t the case.
I have no hang ups on race or religion as long as you are open minded and not going to push views.

Ideally…. I’d like to get to know someone and maybe meet for Halloween…. It’s one of my favorites so it would be nice to spend time with someone that feels the same.

Thank god it's almost Fridayyy 😩

Lmao It's been a long ass week y'all but we're almost at the end so give yourself a pat on the back

Honestly I'm just bored and tired af and looking for someone to text and kick it with. Don't wanna say too much about myself bc I don't wanna ruin the fun but I'll say a little lol. I love to cook, I do nails for a living, single mom. My fave show is the walking dead, or used to be at least 😭💀

I can be sassy or sweet, I give back the same energy I get. So come correct and we'll vibe just fine. 😌

Also pls be single like me because the last thing I need rn is more drama 😵

Hello. Looking for a cool person to talk to. Is anyone else a little bored tonight? I’ve been pretty busy with work lately and would like to have some fun times. I’m not sure what to do in this area, seems pretty dull most of the time. Lol if you are also from Central NY, what do you like to do? But you don’t have to be from here. I like horror, movies, stand up comedy, and going for walks. I haven’t traveled much in my life, but I’d love to visit out west one day, Las Vegas or Los Angeles, to explore the deserts. Also, my favorite show is Breaking Bad. Ttyl.

Southern, sarcastic, slightly mouthy, and equipped with what some would call a dirty sense of humor. I've been known to read way too many books, love a wide range of music, and have a weakness for good banter and great conversation.

Looking for someone who can actually hold a conversation. Give me a hard time, flirt a little (or a lot, if the chemistry is there), tell me something ridiculous, and make me laugh. I love a good laugh.

I'd prefer someone around my age.

Not looking to rush into a relationship, but I'm not ANTI-relationship either. Just looking for some fun, chemistry, and conversation worth coming back for. If something develops naturally, I'm open to seeing where it goes.

Confidence is attractive. Wit is even better. And if you have a nice voice? Well, now you have my attention.

I'm easily entertained, but not easily impressed. Think you can manage both?

My request: Looking for a male companion who doesn't mind occasional cuddling and holding a decent conversation. Let's talk/text (1-2) weeks, if we vibing, let's meet for coffee (non-alcoholic), and see if our thoughts align. Dating isn't something I'm open to currently . I'm a 10+ yr divorcee. Just be original and authentic. I laugh at a lot of dumb shit. This post is mostly to find an ok guy who wouldn't mind snuggling even if I beat him in video games or board games. Let's watch movies, decompress from daily stress-related things, eat&drink, and if something pops up, we will handle it as adults do. I'm introverted, so it is not mandatory to hang out every day, but it can be discussed. Some days, my body prevents me from moving a lot anyway due to an old work accident. Keep it real with me, and I will try to do the same. Life is short, so only approach my DM's if it's a fit for you. I'm used to not getting what I want, I'm a big gurl(literally & figuratively). My friends call me Kay, now you can go back to Reddits suspool.

I have a very boring but consistent night hours job. Looking for folks to keep my company.

Quick wit and even quicker smile. Enjoy cooking, Russian, Russian cooking, and standing in the sunshine to combat my SAD.

I really enjoy conversations with people 50+. I like hearing stories and asking for advice from people who have been down paths I’ve not yet experienced.

Enjoy your beautiful evening.

I'm always hearing about people saying stuff like "35 is the new 25". Sure, it would be nice to go back to a time when life was more carefree and our dispositions were more innocent, but maybe we should really lean into another strategy: 35 is the new 65.

I'll throw some things out there:

Complaining about the music being too loud at a restaurant (where you're having dinner at approximately 4:15PM).

Comparing how many hours of sleep you got last night with your friends and co-workers as if its a competitive sport.

Making noises when you sit down. Bonus points if the chair is wobbly and you try to fix it.

Turning the car radio down so you can see better.

Scrolling through Cable TV (because you still have that) and finding nothing to watch, commenting that we had less channels 20 years ago and more content.

Yes, this post is a shameless way to try and get you to smile and have you want to message me. I guess having no filter is another thing to add to the list.

Hello!!
I'm not looking to rush into anything right away, but am definitely looking for someone to either go on adventures with (explore new places, sit about in nature and enjoy existing together, museum and aquarium going, late night drives or road trips, etc!!) or hang about and be lazy with... a friend where something more can blossom naturally (and of course if it doesn't, that's okay!) But going in with the intentions of a deeper connection.
I'm 5'5", a bigger woman but am currently working on becoming healthier (happy to trade pics and all that!) and am not looking for anything long distance or online and am definitely not looking for fwb or hookups. Right now I'm in the job market, but have recently gotten a couple bites and am in the interview process for two jobs!! Which is very exciting as it's been months and lots of denials so yay!
I'm 420 friendly, and also enjoy painting and art, playing video and board games, reading, theatre and music (went to college for theatre and vocal performance but didn't have the chance to graduate, watching a powerful piece of art or hearing that perfect note or harmony can easily give me goosebumps), movies and television shows (not just for the entertainment of them, but for everything that makes them what they are: lighting, sound, symbolism and foreshadowing, etc!!!). I'm kind to animals, nature can and quite often does move me to tears, I love this rock we're on and I want to share that joy and love with someone who feels the same, or at least can appreciate that with me.

Hello,

I could write so much that you might go MEGO (My Eyes Glaze Over), so I will attempt to keep this succinct. There’s about 375 people in the town I live in. It’s really hard to meet anyone, let alone someone I could be romantically involved with. I’ve tried dating apps, but it’s been a “blackpilling” endeavor.

I lived in a metropolitan city throughout my 20s. I had fun and was very irresponsible. The day before I turned 30, I symbolically got fired from a job that was allowing me to barely keep it together. I packed up my things and left.

I’ve spent the past 7 years focusing on my career and sincerely trying to get my life in order in a meaningful way. I’ve had to do some pretty deep reflection and keep myself on a trajectory that isn’t self-destructive.

Last year I bought a small, 6-acre farm in the middle of nowhere. And now, I’m finally closing in on having a house on it completed. The year has been exciting and stressful.

This is a “niche” lifestyle choice. I feel like these days, life for me is a tightrope between being reasonably eccentric and a “normie.” Lean too far eccentric, and life is unsustainable. Lean too far “normie” and life is boring.

Maybe ironic, since I’ve, for all intents and purposes, dropped out of society. Far from my days where I had some semblance of a social life. That said, I’ve always been more of a natural “introvert” and my “extroversion” was performative and forced. Maybe even quite literally, because I was playing in several bands at the time.

I’d like to meet someone who could live like this. On a farm in the middle of nowhere. I want to eventually grow my own food and do the “glamping” version of a “homestead.”

I’ve never been married, have no kids, little-to-no debt with the exception of my upcoming mortgage, hobbies I actively pursue, hit at least 10,000 steps everyday, non-smoker, occasional “boozer,” kind of a “goof,” hard-worker, and generally lead a responsible, “chill” existence.

I’m seeking someone similar.

If you’d like to chat and your eyes didn’t glaze over, please send a DM. I’m really into music. Tell me your favorite band. If you’d like to see some pics and want to know a bit more about me, please check out the other post on my profile. It’s probably worth reading through that ad too before reaching out.

Living somewhere remote means the internet has been my go-to for connection… so here I am again, seeing who’s out there and worth getting a little distracted by.

Roses are red

Disaster is near

Just so we’re clear

I’m fabulous, dear 

Adorkable BBW with a soft spot for art, travel, and a touch of playful chaos. Equal parts cozy and curious… I can stay in and create, or wander off somewhere new on a whim.

I like a little spark early on, so feel free to suggest exchanging face pics sooner rather than later.

If you message me, tell me your age, where you’re from, and what your evening looks like.

Looking to connect with men around my age.

42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Seeking a real connection with someone that turns romantic. Someone who is READY to be a teammate for life, through the good and the bad.
Someone who is ready and willing to put the effort into building something real. Not someone who is fake, unsure of what they want. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. Distance doesn’t bother me as long as both make the effort:. There are planes LOL You never know in life where your person is!! I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee, Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun. Im caring, selfless, and a giver. I like to show my affection in many ways.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close. Looking for something romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!!
Gotta be someone out there! Maybe we can become friends, share a few laughs or fall In love.

Hi, I’m hoping to chat with some people from anywhere, hopefully some ongoing conversations.

About Me: I like a bit of photography, mostly nature and landscapes. A bit of reading mostly sci-fi, crime and fantasy. I love the water and beaches and my biggest hobby is wingfoiling or paddleboarding.

I am 41, Irish-born and raised, with the stereotypical ginger hair to prove it. (Yes, I’ve endured the jokes. No, I don’t actually own a pot of gold I am afraid, or at least that is the official line and I am sticking to it)

If any of that sounds appealing, think you could chat with me, any more questions or even just want to poke some fun at me, send a message introducing yourself. Hopefully chat soon