How much is the total asking price Yemeni women are looking for. This includes all the mehr, gold, and wedding. Is there any that are like under $20k? Or am I just delusional for thinking that?
Looking for answers primarily from the U.S, wouldn’t hurt to hear some responses from the ones in Yemen.
I wanted to get married and doing it through an arranged marriage like how everyone does it and what is taught as the only halal way. My mom has been of no help to me, and constantly tells me if I truly want to get married that I’d have to cough up $40k–$60k. I’m 100% against this idea. She wants me to do it “because everyone else is getting married for that much”. I told her I don’t care what others do and that everyone is different. So we’d continue to have all these arguments over it. We eventually both got tired of talking about it and she told me if I don’t want her help/advice go ask my brother.
I eventually did but he had no updates for me till I eventually asked him about it. He said there’s plenty of girls. It’s just that they have to confirm that I’m mature, patient, and have a stable job. I understand where he’s coming from as the only thing I don’t have is a stable job yet. But he didn’t have the job he currently has when he got married so why does he expect it out of me in order to get married? I feel like all he did was just point fingers instead of feel empathetic.
Now my issue is how do they expect me as a healthy 24 year old man who’s wanting marriage to stay away from haram. It’s on my mind like 24/7. I tried “halal” marriage apps, but there’s hardly anyone in the U.S. I then tried Salams and like 3 other apps but it’s filled with scammers and girls who don’t match back.
At this point I feel stuck, and I’ve been considering dating that leads to marriage because I don’t really see another realistic option for me right now.
I’m mainly just trying to figure out how to move forward. If anyone has advice, or knows where I can actually meet someone in a serious way, I’d appreciate it. Even open to getting to know someone directly if that’s possible here.
I wanted to share my experience to warn others. I recently matched with a woman on Salams, and we quickly moved over to WhatsApp. At first, she told me she was really passionate about crypto, and I was interested in learning more about it to get to know her better. What started as me simply listening and trying to understand gradually escalated. She suggested that I watch her trade, then encouraged me to try it myself.
That’s when my suspicions started to form. I told her I wanted to slow down because I wasn’t comfortable rushing into something I didn’t understand. Ironically, I had already told her that I was skeptical of crypto because of how many scams are out there, but she convinced me that this was different.
As the conversation continued, her English started to sound different from before, which made me even more suspicious. I suggested we do a FaceTime call to verify who I was talking to. After that, my messages stopped delivering, and I haven’t heard from her since.
I don’t know with 100% certainty that this was a scam, but there were enough red flags that I felt it was worth warning others. If someone you just met starts steering the conversation toward crypto, encourages you to invest, or asks for screenshots of your financial information, please be careful. Trust your instincts and don’t feel pressured to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
TL;DR: Matched with a girl on Salams, moved to WhatsApp, she gradually steered the conversation toward crypto, tried getting me to invest, and eventually wanted screenshots related to my card. I got suspicious, asked to FaceTime, and my messages stopped delivering. Be careful.
Age: 23 (24 soon)
Location: Dearborn, Michigan, USA
Ethnicity: Yemeni
Height: 5’9” (175 cm)
Marital Status: Never Married
Want Children: Yes
Marriage Timeline: Within 1–2 years if compatibility is there
About Me
I’m a Yemeni Muslim born and raised in the United States and currently living in Michigan.
I’d describe myself as calm, reserved, and independent. I’m definitely more introverted and tend to be quiet when I first meet people, but once I’m comfortable, I’m much more open and relaxed.
I’m very much a homebody and don’t need a busy social life to be happy. A quiet evening at home usually sounds better to me than going out. That said, I still enjoy spending quality time with family and the people I’m close to.
Family is important to me, and I’d like to build a marriage based on kindness, loyalty, trust, and mutual support. I’m not perfect, and I’m always trying to improve myself and grow as a person.
Career-wise, I’m currently working toward becoming a truck driver, which is something I’m looking forward to starting soon, in shaa Allah.
Interests
I enjoy playing and watching sports, especially basketball and football.
I like going for walks, enjoying scenery, and spending time outdoors.
I also enjoy anime and gaming from time to time, although they aren’t as big a part of my life as they used to be.
I’m very family-oriented and enjoy spending time with relatives, and I especially enjoy being around kids.
Faith & Values
My faith is important to me, and I try my best to practice and continue improving.
I value honesty, respect, communication, loyalty, and treating each other with kindness. I believe marriage works best when both people support one another, communicate openly, and put effort into the relationship.
I see marriage as a partnership where both spouses work together, support each other’s goals, and help one another become better people.
What I’m Looking For
I’m looking for someone who is serious about marriage and family.
Ideally, she would be:
Kind and soft-spoken
Honest and trustworthy
Family-oriented
Respectful and loyal
Practicing Islam and trying her best
Someone who values good communication and mutual effort
Physical attraction is important to me, and I’d like to be with someone I’m genuinely attracted to.
More than anything, I’m looking for a peaceful, affectionate marriage where both people feel valued, supported, and comfortable being themselves.
Important Filters
I don’t smoke or drink and would prefer the same.
I’m open to different ethnic backgrounds as long as our values and goals align.
Deal Breakers
Dishonesty
Disrespect
Smoking, drugs, or alcohol
Poor communication
Lack of effort in the relationship
A Final Note
I’m not looking for perfection, just someone sincere, with good character, who is willing to grow together and build a strong marriage.
If you’d like to reach out, I’d appreciate a proper introduction with things like your age, location, family background, level of religious practice, and what you’re looking for in marriage.