u/mintjoint

any other users who are in construction (specifically bridge/road work) who feel trapped?? i think the money is whats keeping me here. been a bridge builder for a year now currently on a 12hr drive for work and i feel like the per diem and mileage reimbursement isnt worth the exhaustion at all. i miss having a work life balance lol just a little rant but i am so freaking tired. on one hand if i quit it’d be financial suicide but it may be worth taking a pay cut close to home for my mental health. what other trades are similiar to ironworking?

i really dont know what to even say about this i just want advice on what i can do to better myself and not feel resentment. She keeps telling me she still loves and wants me but has went out clubbing twice (the night we broke up and last night) since she broke up with me and i feel like blowing my head off. She wont even call me cause ”we need time to think” yet shes outside while im left alone with my own thoughts wondering what went wrong. we had been dating since 2023 and i really thought i was going to build a future with her. I just got back home after working out of state for 2 months and she told me this was on her mind since i left and feels like our relationship has been over for months. My whole purpose was her and i dont know how to move forward without her. I would’ve respected her more if she came to me in person instead of ending what we had over the fucking phone. I worked so hard to make her happy. I keep drinking and getting high to distract myself but seeing what shes doing is killing me softly

Gonna summarize this as short as i can. Im about to be 20 and im a woman in the trades, specifically ironworking. Ive been with this (non-union) job for a year now and ive been burnt out since march. Traveling is apart of my job which doesn’t bother me but i had been sent 10 hours away from home, what my supervisor told me is that id be here for 3 weeks. Its turned into 2 months because my foreman didnt communicate with the contractors and now we have to take out all our work on this bridge and rebuild it from the ground up. its so miserable im absolutely mentally drained and under pressure because im kinda an important role to my crew. I can weld, rig and signal, pack and tie rebar, you name it. When i first started my foreman loved talking to me but now his highschool friends have been working with us since november and everything just feels off. I get singled out, excluded from plans/group chats, always having to text them first etc. I even got told by another foreman that they were all shit talking about me. Im quiet so it doesnt irritate me but it does have an impact on communication + not feeling like you’re apart of the team sucks. Sometimes i cant stand the macho facade they all put on and getting aggressive/mad when things arent going right is embarrassing.. i dont really understand why they put work over themselves. There are just too many reasons why i want to quit but another big excuse is that i have piss poor management. There is work where i live and have asked to be sent there but nothing rlly happens.

Im going home this weekend and am honestly thinking about leaving and never coming back. My biggest fear is not being able to find a job yet ive had a few employers reach out to me since i started job searching last week. I have a good bit of money saved up incase shit goes south and still currently job searching in the same industry, may look into another trade. I really dont care if i get paid less, just want to be home everyday and work without losing my sanity. I feel like it’s time to leave but Im scared of the worst outcome. I miss feeling like a person and not a labor machine

Im 19F with 2 years of construction experience and have been at the same company for a year now. Been out of state since march and im starting to get pretty homesick, usually id be gone for the week and home for the weekends. there’s work where i live and have asked to be close to home for my family but nothing ever happens. Currently having major thoughts about leaving but the pay is the only thing keeping me here + no new job lined up. Ive been applying to jobs left and right trying to stay in the same industry, i have a good amount of money saved up as well. Another reason i want to leave is bc its a veryy toxic work environment. I love what i do but man some days i cant stand my crew.

What did you guys ask yourself when you had to leave a job? Most nights i dont want to sleep cus i dont wanna do it all over haha. Trying to stick out until this project is finished. If i didnt have bills i would’ve quit a while ago but my biggest fear is going through unemployment and not being able to find a new full time job again.