u/miss-clover77

I’m sure this has been posted countless times. But looking for some advice as one thread I found was overwhelming amount of information.

I’m 28(f) and I’ve been on my birth control pill for 10 years as of next month. The last year I’ve heavily debated going off of it and tracking my cycle instead. I have a list of health issues and mental struggles now and some of that make me wonder if it’s due to being on hormonal birth control for so long. I never got any serious side effects after starting, just awful break outs for the first few years when I never had bad skin before. I’m paranoid about going back to painful periods, I would always get awful cramping and have to miss school the first day. I suppressed my “period” most of the time I’ve been on it, taking it three packs through and then the placebo week. The times I tried to switch back to one pack at a time, back to bad cramping.

I’m single again for the first time in a couple years. So seems like a great time to go off of it to test it. What should I expect? What are good natural ways to manage cramping and heavy periods if they come back like they were before? I can’t take ibuprofen due to a health condition, and I’m also iron deficient because of it. So another concern. But I’m stopping taking it as of today. Over it, and ready to hear others experiences and advice!! Thank you in advance 🫶🏻

My boyfriend/ex issued a no contact order against me (Washington state) and lied about what happened, and left out details. Two days after the incident. He was the one who hurt me, threatened to break my phone and glasses, after me finding him being disloyal and waking him up to ask about it. He claims I punched him when I never did. I had a massive bruise and was sore for a week. In the report he brought up a separate instance from months ago where I damaged his property and that it was partly why he feared for his safety. Which I paid to fix, and went to counseling for. Drinking was involved both instances but I remember everything. He claims I have substance issues with alcohol when I was sober for 3 months, and can’t drink much anymore due to an autoimmune disease. He drinks daily.

Aside from this, in the days following the situation I texted him insistently to figure out what we were going to do about our shared home and to tell him he hurt me. I payed move in fees, he didn’t want me to be the one to take over the lease, and couldn’t pay me back. Our landlords ultimately decided they’d terminate our lease since we couldn’t come to an agreement. I’ll at least get our deposit back.

The first hearing is next week. I have no idea what to do or expect, I am heartbroken. I just want to move out of our place and be done with it all, but can’t because of the order. I don’t want this to end up being all on me. I am incredibly anxious for this hearing, I feel like he is just retaliating against me. The order is only a few months. I filed a separate police report but it’s in the neighboring county because it happened at a family members house.

I got a dui back in November (Washington state), my DOL hearing kept getting pushed back and finally had it a couple weeks ago. They decided to suspend my license for 3 months starting in a week. My court stuff is also dragging, pre trial is in June so I haven’t been charged with anything yet. Going to apply for a restricted license, but I’m so confused as the DOL hearing judge said I could get either the occupational or IIG. The application says to apply and they will decide what I qualify for, but also don’t understand if I need to get the SR-22 and iig installed when submitting my application? Or do I wait to require that til they decide what license I can get? Help please! I have a public defender for my case and she can be hard to get ahold of

Hi yall. TLDR, sorry. Short summery, I’m in a really rough place and could use advice. I’m 28F and my boyfriend is 38M. We’ve been together for almost 2 years and were good friends before getting together. I found a couple nude pictures in his recently deleted texts from last week from an old hookup. I’m dealing with serious health issues and have been unemployed. I need/needed him and am so heartbroken.

Some back story, he is ex military and has a lot of ptsd, trauma, and struggled with some addictions. about five months into our relationship I found porn and escort pages in his phone. But not anything he was paying for, no messages. This was when he explained it was an unhealthy thing he picked up and was encouraged to him even by the VA after getting out of the military to cope with the trauma. That there was never any intent on seeking anything out. He was extremely embarrassed and expressed it was an unhealthy coping mechanism when ptsd episodes/nightmares hit. He deleted it all and gave me access to his phone. It stopped, but I’d still find that he was clicking on inappropriate instagram pages. Then nothing for a long while. His best friend and someone I was very close with took his own life and it destroyed both of us march 2025, and I moved in with him by June 2025. We had practically lived together for the prior months and did fine but started to fight very often after official move in. Fast forward to November 2025, I found a scammy obviously fake Asian dating site he was on. He even knew it wasn’t real. I almost left. I didn’t. And it all stopped again.

We moved into a new place in February and I got really sick and an autoimmune diagnosis shortly after. Then my work closed and I lost my job. This obviously greatly affected our intimacy and my state of being. Fighting less but still same fights about household duties, needing connection, etc. Then on Friday I had a feeling to look at his phone. In recently deleted texts he had inappropriate texts and a couple topless pictures from someone he used to hook up with (she now lives out of state). Nothing extensive, very brief. Aside from that I found nothing else. I’m heartbroken. I have been struggling with serious health changes and dying for things to improve between us. We’ve been working on our intimate life. He’s been very supportive with my health and appointments and been looking for a good job so I can be taken care of, focus on my art and eventually not work. We talk about marriage, kids. All of it. I know I should leave, but it’s extremely hard in these circumstances. I start a new job next week but I have nothing right now. Cost of living is insanely expensive. I’m currently staying at a friends for some space from him.
I love him so much but don’t want to betray myself either. Advice is appreciated on possible steps forward. I’m meeting with our landlords tomorrow as I wish to stay in the house and find roommates if we do split up. Is this worth it? Does therapy help in situations like this? Has anyone been through something similar?