So I'm planning a radical reduction, but I want to keep my options open if I want a fully flat top surgery in the future.
I've talked to a surgeon who offered a T anchor reduction but he mentioned some kind of peri surgery with an extra incision, but that would reduce blood flow to the nipple.
I wonder if for a second surgery would survive at all.
It's a bit of a doomer post, but I'm so dysphoric. I wanna look androgynous but it's impossible for me. I have wide hips and my body looks curvy and I'm short. I work out a lot to balance it out which helps, and I have chest dysphoria, but getting top surgery would make my butt look too big compared to my flat chest and that would give me even more dysphoria.
I could take T to have a more masculine appearance, but if I spend enough time on T I'll just look like a guy which would also give me dysphoria.
If I don't transition medically, I'm dysphoric, but if I transition that would also make me dysphoric in other ways. I can't win and idk what to do
So I'm in a bit of a midlife crisis. I'm 28 and my life is awesome right now. I have friends and we hang out a lot, I have awesome hobbies, a good job, and I'm planning to travel a lot more in the next couple of years.
But I have this fear that this won't last forever. In a couple of years my friends will marry, have children and settle down for a quiet life and I'll stay alone. I'm usually good at making friends through hobbies, but I'm scared that I'll have to befriendd 20something people because older people only care about their families.
Are my fears legit or is this anti-childfree propaganda? I see it everywhere on the internet how lonely it is to be in your 30s and how your life will be miserable if you don't focus on building a family and settling down.
If you're in your 30s or 40s, please tell me life won't get worse and I can still find people to hang out with
So I had a very feminine phase in high school and one again in my early twenties. It wasn't really a choice, more like I didn't feel safe enough to be out as butch, so I repressed my masculine core.
The problem is that now that I think back on those years, it feels like I was a different person back then. I feel like my life only started the day I decided to stop living in fear and be authentic to myself. It doesn't help that I lost nearly all my friends when I started to present more butch, so I had to rebuild most of my life.
Does anyone have a similar experience? How do I not feel like I missed out in those years I lived as fem, in the closet?
So I'm contemplating top surgery, and I realized that I like wearing sports bras, but hate that my chesticles are visible in clothes. I'm around a size C, so not too big but definitely visible, even in binders.
Ideally I want to be flat enough that I look flat in most clothes, but I still have a teeny-tiny amount of titties without clothes on. I have muscles so the small boobs would just look like pecs on me I guess.
I was looking at the "before" pictures of peri top surgery, and some of the pictures are similar to what I want.
My only worries is that I overestimate how small those small chests are, and without a fully flat surgery I'd never look flat enough, even with a sports bra/transtape.
I have pecs so I basically just want some extra boob shaped thing under the pecs, do you think that's doable?
I can't seem to find any reference pictures for this, because even the radical reduction looks too big for me.
If anyone has similar results, would you mind sharing it with me?
So I know that according to psychiatry, transitioning cures dysphoria, but is this true for butches who have dysphoria?
I currently call myself non-binary, but mostly because I don't care about gender. I've been struggling with body image issues my entire life and it feels like I'm losing the battle. I hate my feminine parts, my chest, I feel like I'll never look masc enough without T and top surgery, but I don't wanna transition because I'm not a man and I would feel fake if I passed as a man. But at the same time I want to be treated as a man socially and kinda like it when people call me a sir??? I don't even understand myself and I'm so confused by my identity.
I'm trying to accept my body as it is, but at the same time I'm sooo envious of men, especially trans men because they can transition, but I wouldn't be ok as a man.
I spend way too much time in front of the mirror imagining how much better I'd look with more body hair and a more masc physique, but how do I know if it's dysphoria or vanity? Is taking T the right option, or should I just stop focusing on my appearance so much?