u/moscas_del_circo

7 weeks PP from my second with an almost 4 year old. Sweet but sometimes clueless husband. Currently on mat leave as the breadwinner, my husband has been picking up extra hours at his job to try to help money stretch to 16 weeks. I have discovered that two kids is infinitely harder than 1, and when left alone with them for 12 hours a day for 5-6 days a week, maybe I am kind of a shit mom. Like, the mom I've been trying hard not to be. The kind of mom that yells at the 4 year old and makes them cry because they won't listen. The kind of mom that doesn't register things with the baby, like the dehydration that could have killed her the day we got home from the hospital. The kind of mom that can't deal with the annoying 4 year old bedtime zoomies and sends them to their room for running back and forth and breathing loud. The kind of mom that took the baby out to the park in 95+ degree weather because the toddler was going crazy from no exercise. Am I worried I am a bad mom? Yes, bromos, I am. But I am more worried that I am an unsafe mom and will inadvertently hurt one of my kids just from stupid amounts of sleep deprivation and frustration. I've told the husband that his picking up extra hours has to stop, much as I appreciate him trying to get me more time with the baby. He makes half of what I do, so it's really just more stressful trying to wrangle two small ones. And yet he has picked up an extra 12 hours tomorrow, after having fireworks go off like a war zone in our neighborhood. So tomorrow is going to go well, I imagine I will once again have a short temper with my 4 year old and slowly ruin our relationship. Or go crazy. Whichever comes first. Please send good vibes my way.

Just had my second child, ~3 weeks ago. Her big brother will be 4 later this year, and still nurses. Before we had baby girl, I thought it would be great to let big brother wean himself, let him have his sovereignty over when to stop, people tandem nurse all the time, lots of benefits for toddlers, yadda yadda. Ladies, tandem nursing is setting my teeth on edge. Instead of just feeding the baby, now the toddler wants boob when the baby is on. It is too much, I am touched out, I always feel like I need to shove him off. I have cut him down to three times a day, twice of his choosing and once before sleep. How do I get him weaned?! He's a sensitive soul and I don't want to hurt his feelings or the relationship between him and his sister, but this is not sustainable. Please send help.

Alright, all the mother's day posts are making me sad, so I am here to say not all husbands are dropping the ball. I woke up this morning late, thanks to my husband taking the toddler and cleaning the house together (he made it a game, so the little actually helped, WHAT.) He made all the meals today, and he put up all the coat hooks/shoe racks I ordered for our new house. Was it some crazy vacation? No. But it was exactly what I needed and holy cow, do I appreciate his thoughtfulness in making today special. There are great ones out there that work as a team, ladies.

Soy una enfermera de criticas en los estados unidos; casada con dos hijos jóvenes. Espero que hay enfermeras Españas que quisas me podrían charlar de como es el trabajo allí, y de que oportunidades hay para avanzar. Tambien he escuchado que hay un poco de animosidad contra los inmigrantes ahora mismo, y de verdad no quiero causar problemas, solo quiero encontrar un lugar bueno en que mi familia puede estar feliz. Estamos mirando a Sevilla o Valencia, pero tambien seria genial estar cerca a universidades para lograr mas educación. Alguien puede ofrecer un opinión?