u/mostberryxo

So I 20 year old (black American F) and my 18 (white American F) coworker just met yesterday, we both traveled to train at a job and we are currently sharing a hotel room together.
The first day we met she was nice and I introduced myself first by telling her I just got to the hotel and followed with my name L and she told me hers J.
So I told her I planned to go pick up something I needed from Walmart and she told me she also need stuff and I invited her along on my uber, we gradually got to know each other throughout the the day and she was very sweet but I noticed she really liked complimenting me… almost too much but I just assumed it’s was her personality.
She also tried a little harder to relate to me in more of a stereotypical way.. telling me she liked kool-aid and pickles… things of that nature and these comments weren’t super frequent but every now and then.
I tried not to think a lot of it.

We eventually got back and to the hotel and planned on going to the pool that night just to enjoy ourselves before training began the next day.
While we are at the pool three of our other coworkers who landed the same day came to greet us at the pool. (Three men) one Hispanic (A), one Dominican (O), and on Black male (D).
We all laughed and conversed for about and hour until I decided I was ready to hit the haystack and everyone agreed.

After we got back to our room I flop on my bed to be a lil dramatic and she tells me she’s gonna wait to shower until tomorrow, but I tell her I’m definitely going to shower tonight and I do so, after she changes her mind and decides she’ll shower tonight too and I didn’t want to think it was because of me but she sounded sure of her decision before.
After we’ve both showered we start to talk and she ask me if I’m interested in D (Black male), I tell her no and that he’s not really someone I’d be interested in and she ask me to show her a picture of my type. I don’t really have one but I show her a picture of this guy I’m currently interested in. She proceeds to tell me she has a crush on D and she says it like maybe I’d be upset about it?
I come from a very diverse family so it would never be an issue for me when it comes to any race dating another. Also it’s none of my business who anyone is interested in, attracted to or pursuing, I just don’t ever really think about it because it’s normal to me to see all kinds of people together.
We continue our conversation and I tell her to navigate it however she wants to and to explore and have fun. But.. she ask me a question after.

“What is it like being with a black guy?”

Annnd?? I was just confused? It came off kinda ignorant to me, I told her that it wasn’t necessarily about race but more about how your partner treats you, common interest, and fundamentals and that it’s didn’t matter if they were black or any other race.
But I think she was referring to sex? Which i don’t even know how to navigate that question because it’s so odd.. hearing someone genuinely ask that in real time.
After I feel like I’ve given her really good advice on dating she stands up, walks around a bit and doesn’t make eye contact when she says it but her words were
“I just hope we don’t start OPPing”
And I was just like what????
If anyone here doesn’t know what an opp is it is basically street lingo for OPPosition or OPP for short.
And I’m like why would we ever be enemy’s?? I’m also not gang affiliated in anyway, shape or form and I do not carry myself that way.
But she made complete eye contact when she asked me what is it like to be with a black guy, almost like she was trying to read my reaction or demeanor… to see if I cared. The whole thing made me super uncomfortable and I just felt like an experiment or like she wanted to reaffirm some belief she’s holding??
I’m decent when it comes to body language and social cues so it was just so odd..

The following day after the big question we both have to be up at training by 6:30am, the previous night we talked about when we were going to get up and she says 5:00am to I’m like ok I’ll get up at 5:30.
She doesn’t get up at 5:00am but instead 5:10am and proceeds to stay in the bathroom until 6:10am…
I had less than 10mins to get ready and I just found it very inconsiderate considering we talked about it the night before. It was more than frustrating almost like she did it on purpose, and she never apologized or brought it up.

As of right now I’m heavily considering asking to change rooms but there is more stuff that has happened and been said that’s has just rubbed me the wrong way..

Other than that after I told her where I was from she invited herself to come stay with me for awhile and I was just like what?? this is our first day meeting?
Also she needed to use the restroom and before I could exit she came in and sat down to pee in front of me..
I understand that we are both young women but me and her are complete strangers and i just find it really weird when people try and form bonds like that with me really quickly..
currently we have only know each for two days and i wanted to explore this new area and enjoy myself but my roommate is turning my stomach sour.

I just wanted advice on is if this is something I should bring up to a manager but I don’t want to make a big deal out of it and I also don’t want to be around someone that makes me uncomfortable during my stay.
I understand that curiosity is something we all experience and she’s is my little sisters age so I have empathy towards her

TLDR: my white coworker asked me what it’s like to be with black guys, and I’m not sure how to navigate uncomfortable situations with her

PLEASE HELP.. I want to de-escalate the situation as much as possible honestly. There’s more that I want to say but I will leave it here for now. Thanks in advance for any advice and I will be responding and updating.
Edit: her question makes me uncomfortable because it implies that black men and or people are different in some way. While culturally yes we all have differences I just found it weird.

Edit: I met her the 28th of june 2026 for anyone wondering.