u/msdisenchanted

Im a SAHM. Currently he works 7:00 am to 3:30 pm. Next week though he goes to 3:00 pm to 11:30 pm shift. Getting home around midnight. Little one is almost 9 months old, and shes only ever had us both for her bedtime routine..

We contact nap during the day. We room share. Her crib is next to our bed. Typical evening looks like a bath (every other night), bottle, book/snuggles, then shes in her crib for the night. She goes to bed between 9:30 and 10:00 pm. Sleeps between 10 and 11 hours. She wakes a couple times long enough for me to get her pacificier back to her mouth. Lately ive had to lay my hand on her to help her relax to fall asleep. If I dont she rolls around like a little weasel ball from KB Toys in the early 2000s when shes not trying to get up on her knees. 🤣 I havent tried to sneak away for some me time once shes asleep. So im by her from the time I put her in to her waking up the next morning.

All this to say...how hard is this adjustment going to be for us? If she wont go to sleep for just me, and we end up waiting for husband to get home, is it bad for her to be going to bed so late? Does it matter as long as she's still getting good sleep and sleeping as long as she has been? Im anxious enough without this change lol.

The only con to this job is the shift change. For more money and better benefits. Previous job was closing down soon.

I've had alot of reccomendations for salons around Asheville, but I live in Hendersonville. Trying to stay closer to home if I can help it. 🙂

Stay at home mom to an 8 month old velcro baby. I say that affectionately btw. She contact naps during the day. Its a struggle to get her to nap in her crib during the day though. The few times she has she will sleep max 45 minutes vs 1.5 hour contact nap. At night she sleeps pretty good. We room share, but she sleeps in her own crib.

I have zero village to help out. Even if I did I'm still her support person lol. I have ADHD. Which makes it even more difficult to get tasks done during the day with her while her dad is at work. She will play independently in her playpen for maybe 15 minutes max. I have a tula carrier, but its not the most comfortable. By the time my husband gets home and I cook dinner im just exhausted from taking care of her all day.

She goes to bed between 9:00 and 9:30. It takes her a good 30 minutes to fall asleep even with us there in bed too. If the dog is up moving around even longer. If we did want to try to sneak out and spend time even just watching TV it just feels impossible.

Im medicated for anxiety and depression. Im in therapy weekly. I just.. don't know what else to do. Im tired of my house being a disaster.