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My boyfriend (24M) and I (23f) have been together for about a year now, and he’s mentioned several times that he wants me to meet his family. The problem is that the thought of it makes me incredibly anxious.

For some context, we’re both from Latin backgrounds. He’s fluent in both Spanish and English, but my mom never taught me Spanish growing up. I know very basic things like counting, colors, and a handful of simple words and phrases, but that’s about it.

My boyfriend mainly speaks English and only really switches to Spanish when talking to his mom or when someone speaks Spanish to him first. From what I understand, his mom doesn’t speak English at all.

I’m already a pretty awkward and anxious person in social situations, even when everyone speaks the same language. Adding a language barrier on top of that is making me overthink everything. I’m worried about not being able to communicate, conversations being awkward, or accidentally making a bad impression.

He’s never made me feel bad about not speaking Spanish, but he’s brought up me meeting them multiple times, so I know it’s important to him but I just feel so intimidated about the whole thing.

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A while back, I became very close friends with a coworker (f). We were basically inseparable and spent most of our breaks together. Eventually another dude started hanging out with us and the three of us became friends.

When he wasn’t there, My friend would often joke that me and this guy should get with each other. She’d tell me he was cute, ask for updates and the “tea” At the same time, she would occasionally complain about him or say he annoyed her, so her opinion of him always seemed to change.

Eventually he and I started talking more and became close. Before anything serious happened, I told my friend that he had asked for my number. She made a comment that if we ever got together, he would be “dead to her,” which I thought was very odd.

As time went on, he told me he liked me and I started to like him as well so we started talking more frequently. From my perspective, I made an effort not to change how I treated either friend or stop including her.

Then one day, after finding out we were talking more seriously, her behavior completely changed. She ignored me at work. Later, she confronted me in a very emotional way. She insisted she didn’t have a problem with me, only with him, but the conversation was directed entirely at me. She was visibly upset, raised her voice, and told me to keep him away from her.

What bothered me most was that if her issue was truly with him, I didn’t understand why she was confronting me so aggressively instead of addressing it with him directly. When I suggested she speak to him herself, she refused.

That interaction really changed how I viewed the situation. I felt disrespected by the way she spoke to me, especially because I didn’t feel I had done anything wrong. Because of that, I pulled back and became more distant. I wasn’t trying to punish her, but I no longer felt comfortable acting like everything was normal. Not long after we just stopped talking completely.

What made me even more upset was that shortly after the chaos she started acting perfectly friendly toward him again. According to him, she was talking to him normally, offering him snacks, and generally acting like nothing had happened.

Later, I heard through mutual friends that she felt she hadn’t deserved the distance I put between us and that she had only been trying to protect me.

To this day, I’m still confused by the situation. Was she jealous of the changing friendship dynamic? Was I wrong for distancing myself after feeling disrespected? Or is there another perspective I’m missing