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Has anyone else experienced this?

There have been two situations where I was really attracted to a guy. I would constantly think about him, imagine scenarios with him, get butterflies when I saw him, and genuinely feel excited whenever he gave me attention.

But then something changes.

As soon as he starts showing clear interest, initiating conversations, making an effort, or giving me the attention I wanted, I suddenly start backing off. I lose that excitement and start questioning whether I even like him anymore.

And the confusing part is that I genuinely wanted his attention before he gave it to me.

This has happened to me twice now, so I'm starting to wonder what's going on with me. Do I actually like the person, or do I like the chase/anticipation more than the reality of them liking me back?

Has anyone experienced something similar? What did you eventually realize about yourself?

I need some outside opinions.

There's a guy who likes me, and he's hinted at or expressed his feelings before. I've already made it clear that I only want to be friends and that I want to respect our friendship. I don't want a relationship with him.

Now one of my friends is telling me that I shouldn't talk to him the way I normally do because he might take my friendliness as a sign that I could want something in the future.

The thing is, I genuinely just want to be friends. I don't want to ignore him or suddenly become cold if he's respecting my boundaries. At the same time, I don't want to accidentally lead him on.

If you were in this situation, would you continue talking to him normally as a friend, or would you create some distance to avoid giving him false hope?

He's behaving completely normally around me, but I still feel really awkward, and I'm not sure if that's just because I know how he feels.

Has anyone been on either side of this situation? I'd really like to hear different perspectives.

I need some outside opinions.

There's a guy who likes me, and he has hinted at or expressed his feelings before. I've already made it clear that I only want to be friends and that I want to respect the friendship. I don't want a relationship with him.

Now one of my friends is telling me that I shouldn't talk to him properly anymore because he'll take my friendliness as a sign that I might want something in the future.

The thing is, I genuinely just want to be friends. I don't want to ignore him or become cold if he's respecting my boundaries. At the same time, I don't want to accidentally lead him on.

If you were in this situation, would you continue talking to him normally as a friend, or would you create some distance just to avoid giving him false hope?

He's behaving completely normally around me, but I still feel really awkward, and I'm not sure if that's just because I know how he feels.

Has anyone been on either side of this situation? I'd really like to hear different perspectives.

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My cousin is currently 24 and pursuing MBBS. Her parents are forcing her to get married because she is the eldest sibling. She has never been in a relationship and has always maintained distance from boys by her own choice.

All of a sudden, her parents want her to marry. Since she has two younger sisters, they feel they should marry her off as soon as possible, as they also have the responsibility of their other daughters.

They are looking for suitable prospects and want her to start talking to potential matches.