u/niceBhaalo

Career:

• Bachelors in Mechanical Engineering.
• Currently working as a remote software developer for a US company. Earning well.
• With two side projects trying to take flight to get independence from the job. One side project is creative while the other is a SaaS.

Interests:

• Too many. I have had a wide breadth of professional experiences. I have done content writing, animation, graphics design, and have taught philosophy and political science. I have also read a lot, So I have surface level knowledge about so many things that I can yap comfortably for hours on most topics and enjoy many diverse activities from gardening to painting to reading to tinkering to debating religion, politics, sociology and more.
• I have watched over a 1000+ movies, 100+ seasons and 70+ books, so a lot of cultural info. Yes I keep count in an excel sheet. I can produce receipts.
• Currently working in the gym as well, mostly running, some weight lifting, more concerned with learning skills and functionality rather than just aesthetics. Hoping to get my first 5k under 25 minutes soon-ish. Before October.

What I am looking for.

• Someone, softspoken, kind, non-complacent. Someone who is okay with my lack of religious practice.
• Someone who wants to do more, to be more, someone who doesn't shy from picking up a new skill or project, someone who pushes me to be better, someone who does not settle.
• Career, I earn enough to provide a comfortable lifestyle regardless, so a second income is not needed, but the choice is left to the partner. I would prefer remote work or no work since I do not wish daily commute on my worst enemies, so why would I want it for you, but its a preference on my side, not a hardline.
• Someone with conservative values, family values, good strong moral and ethical principles like me.
• No real filters on age, height, or looks. I am looking more for alignment of values but a quiet confidence in yourself is much appreciated and a green flag.

What I offer.

• A closeted conservative appearance. I still practice the social obligations as well as the social ethics and morals. Jummahs, janazas, zakat, rozay, etc etc. I am well read in religion. So this could be ideal for another closeted atheist girl who wants to stay in Pakistan for now but also needs a husband who understands her and also passes her parents filters.
• Sunni background if that matters. 5'4"
• A strong moral backbone. Whats wrong is wrong. Have very strong ethical principles.
• I offer to be kind, understanding, soft spoken, a provider mindset, a romantic worldview, some unreasonable optimism. a yes can do attitude, and some complementary humor.
• I am somewhat of a homebody but I do try to get out and meet an old friend and have an outside dinner once a week to catch up. So keep an eye out for intentional outings, travels, dates, and being social enough to feel alive.
• No drugs, smoking, drinking, past relationships (physical or otherwise), hookups, vaping, naswaar, etc etc.

Timeline and Kids:

• Not motivated either way. Happy to be a father and I believe I will be a good one, but the choice is left to the person who is going to have to push them out. Happy to be childfree as well. Honestly I am scared of the responsibility.
• Timeline: 6 months to 1 year, not strict.

Possible future plans: Move out of Pakistan a few years after marriage. But this is not set in stone, will depend if the partner also wants to leave the country.

DMs open. Fingers crossed.

Trying at the normal rishta sub-reddits directly has not been fruitful at all. So trying my luck here. Will not post my full profile here, but please let me know if this vibes with you.

5'4" 78 kg Islamabad

Want a life partner to grow with, to love and cherish and trust, and possibly move abroad in a few years if its agreeable to both.

Responsible, healthy income, working on fitness and health and aesthetics, good morals, well read,

Remote software dev job. Working on side hustles to fund the move abroad. Closeted atheist for a decade now. Requirements from partner - soft spokenness and a healthy sense of right and wrong, and a touch of deontological ethics.

Rest of the details in DM

But if you are not directly looking, what are you suggestions on how to tackle this. I have strong family values and I dont want to fully ditch the family.

Age: 29m

Height: 5'4"

Marital Status: Single

Profession: Software Developer

City: Islamabad

Education: Bachelors

Requirements: (below)

Here's my story and i know this might be against the spirit of the subreddit but please, mercy, i come from a good place.

I am a moderate conservative person coming from a conservative family, but, i am not religious. I am a closeted atheist and will remain closeted. I go through all the motions and keep pretenses for social reasons, and i want to believe but the belief is gone. I dont know what to say.

A friend recommened reddit, and the idea that if i am a male who is closeted but wants to live a conservative family life, surely there are also women who might be closeted and want the same.

I do everything a muslim is supposed to do and dont do anything they are not supposed to do. Nimaz, roza, zakaat, sadqa, qurbani, and being moral, Yes. No drinking, smoking, dating, hookups, am squeaky clean, i am a model muslim, appear as one, but am not. I have nothing against Islam or Muslims.

My other option is to go abroad and leave my family back in Pakistan but i dont want to do that. I can afford it, but i would prefer to stay in Pakistan to help family. So please, if you know any closeted atheist woman who also shares a generally conservative mind like me and wants to get married, please help us connect.