r/PakiExMuslims

Posting again bcz I didn't get a single DM from a gay man last time. I'm 21F from Karachi, facing abuse and intense marriage pressure. I only have a few months until they find someone themselves. I don't want to marry anyone genuinely and I don't want a relationship either, so I couldn't find any straight man who can help me without any such expectations.

I'm looking for a gay man(not bisexual) who can do nikkah with me in a masjid. There will be no functions or photos, he just has to act islamic and look committed.

Not much family involvement needed, as after nikah I'll tell my family not to visit your parents, and you don't have to give their phone numbers to them either. Also great if you're from another city so they won't visit your parents, and you can make your parents talk from your phone.

I really don't have any other option. My family won't let me go without marriage. They will cause a huge scene wherever I go and blame my mother. Her life is already hell, if I run away she will face issues.

But if I'm married and my husband allows it, they won't be able to do anything. I can live in a hostel after nikkah.

I'm very anxious, and they're making it really hard for me to live in peace. I face physical abuse too.

If you know anyone who can help me, please connect me with him.

Any age, even 40.

I'll not be a financial burden on him; I'm trying to manage money for this. And I'll work after marriage.

Divorce in a few years.

I can explain everything to you step by step, how this is gonna work easily, and dw you won't have to pressure my family.

A US billionaire exploited foreign Sharia law to secretly divorce his wife, pay her only $50, and dodge civil property division—forcing her into a 13-year court battle to overturn it in Texas.

Why do secular courts ever grant comity to religious rulings that strip people of basic civil and property rights?

My take: Secular legal systems should automatically treat any foreign or domestic religious personal law as void the moment it conflicts with equal civil rights and due process. Allowing religious legal carve-outs only invites forum shopping to abuse vulnerable spouses.

What is the threshold before secular legal systems reject religious arbitration entirely?

This is my personal story of how i left Islam in a situation where I desperately wanted god but still choose to face reality and made a decision to be an atheist.

Hi I am from Lahore and i loved a girl that was 6 years older than me. She is my 2nd cousin ( My dad's cousin Daughter). She is so beautiful and i loved her so much that i never imagined her in a sexual way or not even a sexual thought for her

I started to pray so much and i was so religious, i started to read the Quran with Tafseer and i prayed tahajjud, Did Whatever Muhammad said. Like do this and your dua is going to be accepted. Dua has the power of this and that i was so stressed and i just 24/7 praying to Allah that Pleaseee i want to marry her and if you did I'm gonna spend my entire life spreading Islam

Before sleeping all i do is imagine her and as soon as i wake up my first thought was of her. I wanted her at all cost. I was getting mad and i was in such deep stress and in anxiety that my purpose of life was to get marry to her.

Then i started to get into deep Islam and i saw many things that were so wrong. Like Semen is made of Ribs and backbone etc stuffs

I was great in physics and i loved science and i wanted to prove god right and i was ready to debate an atheist

Later on i debunked many hadeeths and Quranic verses that these molvis will never tell us

And then i became an atheist and i still love her but now there is no god who can help me in this situation. Only hope that what makes us Human.

For me personally, it's hard to repress my thoughts, so half of my class knows (I'm still cautious though) that I'm not a Muslim. A few even try to convert me or remind me of hellfire (it's been years since I left, and all of that fear has vanished already).

Family still think I'm a Muslim (good for me lol), but I don't pray or read the Quran (even during Ramadan).

Now that I'm really over this religion for quite a few months, it's becoming so damn hard to live in this country. It's suffocating. It's hard to not be impulsive and get myself into useless debates, i can't even Scream it out loud that I AM NOT MUSLIM. Every WhatsApp status is islamic verses. People send me deeni reels in DMs ("yeh ayat 10 dafa parho shaam tk khuskhabri" or "iss soorat ko roz parhne se dajjal se panah milay gi") Their conversation starts with deen and ends with deen They have got absolutely no intelectual logic orr operrr se Kehte hain "Jab khuda ne keh dia toh hum kon hote hain" 😭 Like Dude You are a fkin HUMAN BEING With a Conscious Mind.

Do you guys feel the same? And how do you guys manage to not act on impulse?

Pakistani people can kill ex muslims. Although them killing ex muslim is not guaranteed but its not guaranteed that they will let exmuslim live.

Pakistan has a history that tends towards killing ex muslims.

Pakistani law doesn't allows ex muslims to represent their new religion in ID card. The id card keeps saying muslim.

Pakistani law will assign Islam as religion to Id card of ex muslim children. Creating murtid death threat for children too

Islam itself orders killing of ex Muslims just because they exist.

Ex muslims are not obsessed but frustrated for being trapped even after leaving Islam.

Cmon bro, let ex muslims live their lives without mental and physical persecution. A muslim in Pakistan doesn't have to face all of this on daily basis. You are not superior and nor better.

You muslims are just running the state in a biased way

Edit: the need to hide religion makes it difficult for ex Muslim to find partner. The way how kids religion is forced makes it difficult for a ex muslim to have kids.

I'm so bored and also wanna chat to deen say bhai so if u down dm