u/nightlife-4225

Hey girls, I just had some thoughts I wanted to get out of my head first. I'm not really sure where this is going for now, but bear with me. I'm the first woman in my bloodline to pursue a college degree, and not just any, but engineering. I'm the first female engineer in my bloodline. and I've been in this degree for like 3 years now, but i genuinely don't know many supportive women. And truth be told, I haven't exactly been the type of person someone would really want to know - i'm not super smart, bold, i don't have much to be proud of and it terrifies me. It was only 2 generations ago bro that my grandmother had an abusive husband and a marriage she couldn't leave. I genuinely have so much privilege, but there's this nagging feeling i have with not having worked as hard as i should have and let a lot of opportunity go to waste.

I think part of the problem is that I’ve never really had a sense of sisterhood or women around me to help guide or inspire me. I’m in therapy and trying to work through a lot of this, but I guess I wanted to ask other women directly:

How do you rise when the thing standing in your way is yourself? Your own fear, mistakes, failures, regrets, self-doubt?

How do you keep becoming the woman you want to be, especially when you feel alone in it?

I've been going to therapy to help me sort this out, but I just wanted to post this and felt it was relevant for this sub because I feel like a lot of the women in my life are building in big ways - they've got relationships, things they care about and are able to commit to, and I'm just sort of...trying. trying so hard to build a legacy for myself. Do y’all know any communities or anything like that to just feel less alone in all of this? I think I’ve spent so much time trying to survive and “prove myself” that I never really learned how to lean on other women or be part of a community. I want that now. I want guidance, honesty, support - even just knowing other women have felt this way too. .Or if anyone could share a couple of sentences in the comments as motivation, that would mean a lot too :) I just really want to believe there’s still time for me to become the woman I imagine myself being.

Hey girls, I just had some thoughts I wanted to get out of my head first. I'm not really sure where this is going for now, but bear with me. I'm the first woman in my bloodline to pursue a college degree, and not just any, but engineering. I'm the first female engineer in my bloodline. and I've been in this degree for like 3 years now, but i genuinely don't know many supportive women. And truth be told, I haven't exactly been the type of person someone would really want to know - i'm not super smart, bold, i don't have much to be proud of and it terrifies me. It was only 2 generations ago bro that my grandmother had an abusive husband and a marriage she couldn't leave. I genuinely have so much privilege, but there's this nagging feeling i have with not having worked as hard as i should have and let a lot of opportunity go to waste.

I think part of the problem is that I’ve never really had a sense of sisterhood or women around me to help guide or inspire me. I’m in therapy and trying to work through a lot of this, but I guess I wanted to ask other women directly:

How do you rise when the thing standing in your way is yourself? Your own fear, mistakes, failures, regrets, self-doubt?

How do you keep becoming the woman you want to be, especially when you feel alone in it?

I've been going to therapy to help me sort this out, but I just wanted to post this and felt it was relevant for this sub because I feel like a lot of the women in my life are building in big ways - they've got relationships, things they care about and are able to commit to, and I'm just sort of...trying. trying so hard to build a legacy for myself. Do y’all know any communities or anything like that to just feel less alone in all of this? I think I’ve spent so much time trying to survive and “prove myself” that I never really learned how to lean on other women or be part of a community. I want that now. I want guidance, honesty, support - even just knowing other women have felt this way too. .Or if anyone could share a couple of sentences in the comments as motivation, that would mean a lot too :) I just really want to believe there’s still time for me to become the woman I imagine myself being.

Hey girls, I just had some thoughts I wanted to get out of my head first. I'm not really sure where this is going for now, but bear with me. I'm the first woman in my bloodline to pursue a college degree, and not just any, but engineering. I'm the first female engineer in my bloodline. and I've been in this degree for like 3 years now, but i genuinely don't know many supportive women. And truth be told, I haven't exactly been the type of person someone would really want to know - i'm not super smart, bold, i don't have much to be proud of and it terrifies me. It was only 2 generations ago bro that my grandmother had an abusive husband and a marriage she couldn't leave. I genuinely have so much privilege, but there's this nagging feeling i have with not having worked as hard as i should have and let a lot of opportunity go to waste.

I think part of the problem is that I’ve never really had a sense of sisterhood or women around me to help guide or inspire me. I’m in therapy and trying to work through a lot of this, but I guess I wanted to ask other women directly:

How do you rise when the thing standing in your way is yourself? Your own fear, mistakes, failures, regrets, self-doubt?

How do you keep becoming the woman you want to be, especially when you feel alone in it?

I've been going to therapy to help me sort this out, but I just wanted to post this and felt it was relevant for this sub because I feel like a lot of the women in my life are building in big ways - they've got relationships, things they care about and are able to commit to, and I'm just sort of...trying. trying so hard to build a legacy for myself. Do y’all know any communities or anything like that to just feel less alone in all of this? I think I’ve spent so much time trying to survive and “prove myself” that I never really learned how to lean on other women or be part of a community. I want that now. I want guidance, honesty, support - even just knowing other women have felt this way too. .Or if anyone could share a couple of sentences in the comments as motivation, that would mean a lot too :) I just really want to believe there’s still time for me to become the woman I imagine myself being.